9 things I will teach my future daughter

Next week is my 20 week appointment with the obgyn!

That means we get to confirm what gender Bump is. :3 :3

Last month, we already detected a gender, but the month before that, it looked like it was a different gender wtf.  Doctor asked us not to announce or start shopping yet and for us to only confirm on our 20 week appointment.

Gan cheong max I half wanted to schedule an earlier appointment so we can find out sooner, but also scared to find out cos ignorance is bliss wtf.

Obviously this time I want a girl.

With Fighter, I actually wanted a boy.  Straight off the bat, the minute we found out I was pregnant, I envisioned a baby boy inside me, and the doctor just confirmed Fighter was a boy in the third month.  Not sure why I felt so strongly about it either.  I rationalized that I liked the idea of an older brother taking care of a younger sibling but that wasn’t it exactly.  And none of our family members are particularly conservative must have a son type so it wasn’t that either.

Dunno, I just imagined having a baby boy!  Call it gut feel or what, but that was that, and I didn’t even mind not getting to buy pink baby stuff hahaha.

But with Bump, I really cannot tell.  All I know is now I want a girllllllllllllllllllllllllllll.

Is it cos my own family has one boy and one girl and to me that’s the perfect combo? Maybe but not totally also.

Some people asked why I wanted a girl and I said, “WHO ELSE CAN I PASS MY MAKEUP AND FASHION SKILLZ TO?”

They all went hahaha and chalked it up to my shallowness. -_-

It’s true ah!!! I didn’t hone my makeup skills for nothing wtf.

But not the full picture either.  It’s always mommy’s boys and daddy’s little girls but I would totally have such a great bond with my daughter!

I looooove Fighter and would die for him but there’s only so much I can teach him about being a man, because I’m not one.  However I have had 20+ years experience being a girl and there’s so many things I would like to tell my future daughter.

Take care of her appearance

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Mummy Ooi taught me how to cleanse and care for my skin as a teen when I started breaking out.  Thanks to her I still have a strict skincare regime twice daily which I never skip no matter how tired I am.  Mummy Ooi never wore much makeup though besides the usual lipstick, maybe BB cream and mascara, so the rest of what I know I learned myself.

I’d teach her how to care for her appearance.  How to take care of her skin and hair, how to make herself presentable, how to dress to suit her body shape, how to give the world a good impression.  Because let’s face it, the world can be a harsh, judgmental place.

But also…

Despite all this, when it comes down to it, looks don’t matter

I’d teach her that even if the world defines you by your looks, you must never judge someone else based on their appearance.  Even more, you must never judge YOURSELF based on your appearance.

Wipe your makeup away and what you’ll have is the same person underneath.  You are the same person, with or without makeup on (for that matter, with or without money), not better, not worse. Looking better than someone doesn’t mean you’re better than them, kinder or smarter.  While it’s important to take care of your appearance, it’s even more crucial you take care of your heart and character.  Being a good person matters more than having a good face/body/hair.

Whether you choose to put on a makeup face every morning or not is entirely up to you.  Mommy will teach you if you’re interested but if you’re not, it doesn’t matter either way. When you remove that makeup, or if you choose to not put on any, remember you are still that same person.  Don’t lose your confidence over yourself or your achievements.  However you look, you are still you.

As a woman, there is nothing she can’t do

Courtesy of Mount Holyoke yo wtf. She wants to be an astronaut, can. She wants to be a housewife, sure.  Never think that because you’re a woman, there will be things off-limits to you.  If there’s never been a woman in that field, you can always be the first.  The world is yours.

Also, I would like you to attend Mount Holyoke but we can discuss this in fifteen years wtf.

Marry your best friend

Romance will fade and the butterflies in your tummy will eventually die down.  When picking a life partner, marry your best friend.  Marry the person whom you can genuinely talk to, laugh with, and the person you can do nothing with every day and still have fun.  Choose him based on his mind and his heart, not his looks or money cos god knows these won’t be yours forever.

Friends will come and go

If mean girls don’t want to be friends with you in school, TELL ME. I WILL ANNIHILATE THEM.

Remember that friends will come and go but that’s okay.  Have a cry and move on.  You will always meet new, sweeter, funnier, more awesome ones along the journey of your life. And there will always be that special few who will stick around for you.

For that matter, boys will come and go too

Again, cry and move on.  Your heart will heal itself faster than you think.  And there will be a better man.

(Don’t tell your dad, he might drive out with his golf club.)

Men will respect you as much as you respect yourself

Hold yourself in the highest respect, men will follow suit.  If you do not value yourself, nobody else will either.  Don’t let your self worth and happiness ever depend on someone else.  If he doesn’t appreciate you, sucks to be him wtf. There will be smarter, wiser men out there who will appreciate you for who you are, and not what you have to give them.

Education is numero uno

For the first 20 years of your life at least.  I don’t want you to be a tuition/extra class going child with no time for fun, but you will learn, and learn well.  We will give you the best educational opportunities we can afford because education is your stepping stone to the future.

Also, I hope you will love reading because that will be one of your most enriching experiences.  Never stop learning, no matter how old you are. It will make you a better person I promise.

(OMG I am such a kiasu Tiger mom already.)

You can always come home

No matter where you are, what you’ve done or what has happened, you will always have a place with us.  Never be afraid to come back cos you will always be loved.

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Too many roles

You know the kids’ song (and I now know a lot) Que Sera Sera?

It goes like…

When I was just a little girl,
I asked my mother,
What would I be?

As it turns out, I would be a mother myself. Hahahaha.

Something I’d always assumed I’d be eventually, but I never thought too deeply about (although my friends joked my kids would be on the back of a milk carton. ¬_¬)

Now that I’m actually one, it’s all the things that they say it would be of course.  Exhausting, fulfilling, joyful, heartbreaking, life defining all.

I am enjoying being a mom and raising my baby.  Every day is filled with stuff to do and time just flies by.

But the other day a friend who was a bit down over the state of her love life said she wished  she was over this stage and she had a family, like I did.

I said, “Well I wish I had my career… like you have.”

The grass is always greener on the other side wtf.  I’m damn lucky that I have this choice of leaving my full time job so I can take care of him.

I don’t regret being a full time mom and choosing to work part time from home.  In 20 years when he’s all grown up and doesn’t need me anymore, I know I’d hate myself if I wasn’t there to nurture and guide him…

But at the same time, in twenty years would I hate myself for not having anything else to my life after the kids are all grown?

I’m in my late 20s now so all my friends’ careers are really starting to take off.  And I can’t help feeling this is where I would be too if I didn’t give it up.

But then again, it wasn’t an option to stay in my old job, working the hours I did.  Many of my ex-colleagues do that even now with kids of their own and they’re so amazing at juggling I can’t even.  But I know I wouldn’t be able to do my best for either my job or my mommy role and I’d probably be absolutely miserable.

So I chose a part time role where I could work from home when Fighter is asleep.  With it ok la, can still earn steady although obviously nowhere near my old salary.  But it’s not a career.  The work I’m doing used to be done by the juniors in my team.  It’s easy work, if time consuming but I’m not building a career.  With this role I will never grow and I will never have a personal legacy – something that I can look back on and feel proud of how I’ve progressed.

Now with Bump on the way, it’s even less possible to return to a full time role.  Ahhh why can’t we have our cake and eat it!?

(Don’t say blogging hor because how many people can be a full time blogger? Besides, blogging as a career path is still quite unstable.  Who knows what will happen in the future?)

And this dilemma only applies to women if you think about it.  Men where got think aiya should I give up my career to raise my kids wtf.  No cos their role is very clear cut – traditionally they are the family’s provider.  And most men take it on staunchly.

But women also work now.  And we still want to be there for the kids as much as we can.  So how? Career intentionally stunted whether by not taking promotions which require more work, or by leaving sharp at 5pm everyday? Leave the raising of the kids to grandparents and helper?

So hard to find a balance that we’re all satisfied with, isn’t it? :(

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Fighter gets his first proper scolding

It’s Fighter milestones time!

Actual age: 14.5 months
Adjusted age: 12.5 months

Now that Fighter’s hit a year I realize he’s picking up a little bit more everyday. It’s quite amazing the things I realize he knows now! D

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Last week we had water play in school!  The last time there was water play Fighter refused to even stand by the side of the tub and just whined to be picked up. D: Much to my annoyance cos he normally loves bath time at home.

But this time he totally got into it! Splashed water like a hero while his friend Kimberly continuously scooped and poured water out hahaha.  End up by end of class their tub was only half full of water. *shifty eyed

But I was talking to Kimberly’s mom Jean and she said Fighter has shown improvement since he started school!  His favorite time used to be snack time only wtf but now he’s much more participative!  He still got love-hate relationship with the puppets used in class wtf but he also interacts with the other babies a lot more and joins in most of the activities with gusto.

Also seems a lot more sure of himself now and navigates the classroom and playground confidently enough.

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Started doing this thing where he lifts his butt high up in the air!  Means what ah! Is he going to start walking soon? My arms rejoice!

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Hasn’t started walking yet but finally coasting along furniture!  Quite mobile now which means nothing is safe from those chubby hands. T______T

He can stand by himself for a few seconds but then he gets scared and fasterly grips the nearest furniture or lets himself sit down quickly.

Learned how to climb stairs sometime back and now he knows how to move backwards and go down stairs too!  But balance still not very balanced wtf, if he goes down more than one or two steps at a time he’s bound to lose his balance and fall backwards lolol.

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Photo unrelated but his smile damn cute here. :3

He’s also starting to show he understands not just words (“NO!” equals tantrum fml) but full sentences!

Last night he took my phone so I went “Fighter, where’s mommy’s phone?”

He turned around, fumbled for a bit and lifted up my phone with both hands to show me.

!!!

Sorry ah new mom excuse me while I marvel. But then he show me only don’t wanna return it to me. .___.

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Also starting to understand the concept of right/wrong and scoldings now.

(this is his face after getting scolding)

Last night we put him in his car seat as usual which he hates so he started shouting and being a brat the whole trip home.

I was sitting in the front so Fatty who was in the back with him started ignoring him.  And he kept on wailing. *covers ears

Reached home, Fighter, still crying, reached for me and stopped when he got to me.  So I thought he had calmed down and passed him back to Fatty to talk to him.  I thought it was important that Fatty explain why we ignored him and tell him what he did (tantrum-ing) was wrong.

Lo, he started screaming in Fatty’s arms again and trying to reach for me or the nanny.  Fatty said in a loud stern voice, “Fighter! Stop crying!” And he screamed even louder.

End up I told Fatty to bring him into the room (away from us and other outlets for sympathy) and I could hear Fatty talking to him seriously.  And Fighter sniffling and finally being quiet.  Then Fatty gave him a drink of water and Fighter emerged very quiet and well behaved the whole night. :3

I always worried he wouldn’t understand what was happening but I guess now he does!  I gave him his milk bottle after that, and normally he shouts and thrashes around when he sees me holding the bottle (scared I won’t give to him like that WTF) but this time he just patiently waited for it and took it like a good boy hahahaha.

Parents 1, Fighter 0.

Short mention

Speaking of development and progress, here’s more from the Friso Gold’s Facebook page.

Hehe the little girl with the bunneh now going wild with a water sprinkler.  Enjoy!

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How to prevent balding jeng jeng jeng

(if you all dunno, DRx is the aesthetics and beauty clinic I work with.  I love their facilities and treatments and the fact that their in-house doctors and beauticians are super professional and don’t just push treatments to earn more money.  Also they’re super nice!)

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In the taxi!  Impressively, DRx arranged a concierge service for us!  Not only drive us around but will run errands for you too if needed! Like buy food/groceries, drop off laundry etc.  Like a personal butler la.

But ah… the fella who fetched us a bit weird FOL.  Keep eavesdropping on our conversation and injecting his own opinions never mind.  Then keep glancing at us in the rear view mirror and asking personal questions.

And then insisted on coming out from the cab and taking photos with us WTF.  Took more than one some more. ಠ_ಠ Oh yea he also selfie-d with us in the car.  I dunno la, if you’re 50+ and asking 20+ year olds to take picture with you, there’s just something uncomfortable about it la.

And not that he knows us ok, he just kept gushing about how pretty we are. ಠ_ಠ

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The restaurant!  I forgot the name but it’s at ION on a crazy high floor and has an amazing view.

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Check it out yo!

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One interesting feature was the little nuggets of weather info they had pasted on the windows.

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Our table! Sorry I already messed it up with my zillion bags wtf.

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Personalized menu!  Damn atas lo.  This is like the tai tai trip of all tai tai trips.  CIMG3212

 

Tastiest calamari ever.  Served with miso mayo which was quite spectacular.

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I had the fish for mains.  Also good but I was still in my first trimester and was totally turned off fish and chicken omg.  Fish seemed like the lesser evil here (other options were vegetarian – cannot sure hungry one – and steak – also cannot cos swore off beef).  It was good but I think I’d have enjoyed it better without those pregnancy fueled hormones. >:(CIMG3214

 

Dessert!  Cheesecake and sorbet.  Finished most of it. O_O and I normally hate dessert.  Bump is that you??

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Gorgeous 1, Gorgeous 2 and Auntie.

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After that we adjourned to DRx (located on Orchard) to start our pampering.

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As always, need to fill out a short personal and health history first.

Because I’m pregnant, DRx decided to play it very safe cos not all their treatments (especially if they include ultrasounds) may be suitable *sad.  So for me I went with tricho treatment (which is for hair and scalp) since this service isn’t available in Malaysia yet (but it will be soon!).

Very interesting cos it’s my first visit to a tricho center so everything is new to me!  The consultant explained the basics of hair growth and deterioration and balding.

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Just had to take this photo for Ooib wtf. :X

Sadly, Ooib and I got our hair genes from Mummy Ooi (not sure who she got those from) and our hair has always been super thin and fine.  And now Fighter has the exact same hair type FHL.  Ooib is worrying about balding right now so maybe I should ask him to visit the DRx tricho clinic opening soon in KL!!!

The consultant showed me several case studies of people whose hair loss they’ve managed to stop and reverse! Very impressive leh!

Luckily I am not balding (yet wtf) but my hair has always been super fine and I wish it could be thicker and stronger!

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The consultant took some photos and scans of my head to show me how things could be improved.

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FML show the top of my head where the parting can be smaller.  (Some more I got mole somewhere there one then my friends used to think it was a fly WTF)

Also the sides!  The red lines show where my hairline can be (lower) and around the yellow lines, hair can be thicker.  This is with regular tricho treatment at DRx of course.

Consultant also magnified and scanned my roots.  Shampooing, styling products, environmental pollutants etc can build up on our scalp which weakens hair.  So it’s important to cleanse the scalp and roots thoroughly!

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Head cleaning time!  They also rubbed a tonic on my head but I forgot to ask properly what’s it for cos too busy relaxing. :X

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Rub a dub dub.

There was another step after this which involved massaging the scalp with a special tool but I skipped it due to pregnancy as well.

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See the difference! Cannot achieve at home one.

Top two photos are before.  The white stuff are dirt etc stuck on my scalp.  The consultant said the state of my hair isn’t too bad actually – each hair follicle actually has 2-3 hairs per piece.  The goal would be to get three hairs per pore and to have each hair grow thicker (you can see some hairs finer than others).

Apparently the back of my head is in awesome shape – hair and follicles there is healthy and thick but on top of my head is where it gets weak and depressing wtf.  So the aim would be to work on the top of my head!

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That’s Jocelyn from DRx behind getting her hair done too hahaha.

Ooh and I’m wearing a shift dress from Anticlockwise.

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Mad woman wtf. I was exhausted at this point (we were on the flight back to KL the same night) cos it was still my first trimester!

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Last photo of us.

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Ooh announcement! DRx is opening a new branch in KL – in Boulevard Midvalley. Besides their aesthetics clinic, there will also be a tricho (hair + scalp) facility there.  Cannot wait to get regular scalp treatments!

These are the opening promotions they have!  The Signature Facial is awesome as is the Scalp and Hair Purifying Treatment which is what I did.

The official launch is 20 Nov which I will be attending but operations have commenced so you can make an appointment any time!  Promos applicable until 31 Dec 2014.

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What has Fighter learned today?

Continuing off my blog post last week on Friso Gold about introducing your child to new things, I’ve been trying to ask myself, what has Fighter learned today?

Ok today!  Got something new! Today I took him to the supermarket.  Usually if I go buy groceries I leave him at home with nanny cos it’s just much easier for me to run out myself, grab the groceries and rush home.  But I thought, aiya poor Fighter has been home all day and what’s a little extra time and baggage (carrying him lol) for him to go out and see things?

So okay! Packed up the nanny and him and off we went to the mall.

He loved it!!! I felt a bit bad for not doing this earlier. :(

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I put him in the trolley and immediately he started turning his head left and right, wide-eyed.  He absorbed everything!

He gripped the trolley handles and scrutinized the metal bars.

He kept swiveling around to look at the colorful packages on the shelves as we rolled past.

I pointed out signs and labels to him and he looked intently at them.  Then drooled a bit. Lolol.

I gave him two packets of cheese with different packaging and he stared at them with super interest hahaha.  And then he tried to chew on one of them. >_>

But the point is!  I brought him somewhere new and he was so enthralled! I really wish I did it earlier but at the same time I’m glad I did it now.  All the mundane boring things that we adults take for granted, kids absorb in wonder and it was actually very fun for me to look at the supermarket through a toddler’s eyes.  All those shiny bottles and bright lights!  The sudden cold coming from the meat freezers!

Unfortunately I forgot to take any photos this time cos my hands were busy pushing the shopping cart.  Also very scared to take my hands off it in case somebody snatches him away. >.> (normally when we take him out he’s in the stroller and strapped in securely)

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But I do have this video!  Playing tickle monster with Fighter hehehe.

When I did this to Fighter for the first time he shrieked with laughter, probably out of reflex and also astonishment. He started laughing like crazy for a brief moment at the new yet foreign sensation. After that, he tried so hard to flip over so his stomach is out of reach hahahahaha.

So what has your child experienced today? :)

You can also visit Friso Gold’s FB page for more info and check out what other moms are up to!

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8 differences between the first and second pregnancy

Wow who knew I’d have enough pregnancies to write this blog post!

So I’ve had four months plus experience of being pregnant the second round so I feel pretty qualified writing about this.  Here’s what I noticed has been different this second pregnancy.

Baby bump showing

First pregnancy: I think it took me a good five months before I started to show really obviously.

Second pregnancy:

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Tadah!  16 weeks yo.

Until some people on Instagram started asking if it was twins WTF.

The risk of Down Syndrome

First pregnancy: A Down Syndrome test in utero although highly accurate is not 100% definitive (like most things).  But the test can tell you your chances of having a DS baby.  The lower the chances the less likely it is to happen.  For my last pregnancy, my chances was something like 1 in 8000+ which was very unlikely.

Second pregnancy: Just two years later at 29, my odds had dropped to 1 to 1000 or 2000 I forgot.  Still very unlikely but it was pretty shocking. Why so fast one my body become inhospitable! In a way it’s good that I’m getting the babies out of the way earlier before the risks pile up… *comforts self

Nobody cares… sad but true!

First pregnancy: The slightest hunger pang, the teeniest wave of nausea and family members will fawn over you.  Trust me.  Everything will be handed to you… on a silver platter.  You will be treated like a precious jewel (or the casing of a precious jewel HAHAHA). Kidding!  It will be a wonderful time.

Second pregnancy: You can be vomiting with your head in the toilet for maybe half an hour then only your husband will remember to call from the next room (far away from the puke), “Eh are you okay?”  You will then have to quickly finish puking, wipe your mouth and run over to a wailing toddler to see what he wants.  If toddler bounces on your stomach, HOLD YOUR PUKE IN.  Or else you’re gonna be wiping vomit off and changing your kid for the bazillionth time that day.

And if porridge makes you nauseous, you just gotta suck it up (ok not literally, by suck it up I mean hold your breath for half hour or however long it takes) cos that’s what you need to sit there and feed your first baby with.

Carrying heavy weights

First pregnancy: Life is a breeze!  It’s literally weightless.  People open doors for you and give you their seat lest you exert your uterus.  If you’re buying groceries, people run out and help you carry shopping bags!

Second pregnancy: Oh bag of rice?  That’s lighter than your 7 kg baby right? OK see you later!

Feeling tired

First pregnancy: It’s totally normal to feel tired or drained when you’re pregnant – your body is making a new human being after all!  Take as much rest as you can and don’t sweat the small stuff.

Second pregnancy: Rest? Okay I’ll try to get some in the car in between trying to entertain my first child and fishing out different snacks to keep his mouth busy enough so he’ll stop screaming/trying to get out of his car seat.

Dressing the Bump

First pregnancy: In anticipation for the growing belly, go out and buy tons of stretchy leggings, baggy tops and empire waist dresses.  Fret because nothing is flattering and resign yourself to a year of looking frumpy.

Second pregnancy: Good news! After nine months of looking frumpy, you don’t care anymore how you look. HAHAHA.

While I’d always loved dressing up, my outfits were never super elaborate to begin with and now they’re even simpler.  I dress down all the way to Chinatown yo wtf.  I used to take really good care of my hair, curling and styling it.  Now it’s lucky it gets to see a comb wtf.  Luckily it’s always bobbed and I don’t have much hair anyway so not much daily maintenance required.

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It’s only recently (i.e. last week) that I felt comfortable enough with my schedule and juggling Fighter to decide to grow my hair out and start styling it properly again.

But the real good news is (and this is my personal experience only of course) is that while the first pregnancy I struggled with trying to dress in my usual style, this time I’m more confident in what flatters the Bump and me.  It’s like pregnancy #1 was a trial run so pregnancy #2 runs a lot smoother in terms of fashion.  Plus I’ve got a bunch of leftover maternity wear from before so I don’t need to shop for more.

Being chill

First pregnancy: We were paranoid about everything.  Every new food item on my plate we’d be Googling to see if this was safe for pregnancy.  Can go for manicures?  Dye jobs? Can paint the house while pregnant? Doctor appointments were forever seared in my brain and up to a week before I’d be hopping up and down in excitement over getting to see our baby again.  I even rushed to the hospital once to have an emergency ultrasound because I “didn’t feel pregnant” anymore.

Second pregnancy: I forgot my last doctor’s appointment. -_-  Got a call from the doctor’s office asking if I was coming in and drove like a madwoman to the hospital.  Then the doctor was surprised because this was the second time in a row Fatty didn’t come with me, whereas he came every single appointment the last time. :X :X

The anticipation

First pregnancy: We couldn’t wait to find out the baby’s gender so we could start shopping.  So much excitement over furnishing the nursery and getting the cot and stroller and other baby essentials.  The pregnancy was a countdown to meeting our new baby and falling in love!

Second pregnancy: I still can’t wait to find out the baby’s gender, although more out of curiosity’s sake because Bump is gonna be using most of Fighter’s things.  Unless she’s a girl hehehe then in that case let the shopping begin wtf.  Nevertheless, this pregnancy is still a countdown to meeting Bump and falling in love. :)

 

 

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Baby Bloomer: 23 Oct 2014

Actual age: 14 months 11 days
Adjusted age: 12 months 11 days

Ok time to update Fighter’s growth again!

First time wearing a dress (and probably last)

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Not too happy about it if you can see hahahaha.

A friend had an animal themed birthday party for her son and I remembered Fighter received this Kumamon onesie from Cheesie for his birthday.  It came with a black hat with bear ears on it and I thought it’d be totally appropriate!

Then when I put it on him… hmmm why the bottom although shorts look so poofy one.  And the sleeves a bit frilly hor…

But I asked Cheesie and she said it’s unisex! So okay la let him wear this once.  I figure if there’s any time in his life he can wear something approximating a dress without getting too much flack, it’s now.

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Super cute in it though!!! And he suddenly looks exactly like me as a baby. O.O

My mom asked me if I dressed him like this on purpose I think she was wondering if I did that hoping the girliness would rub off on the next baby. :X

Getting pretty good at emulating what we do

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He saw me lifting the beads on the curvy wire and dropping them and immediately followed to see if the same thing would happen. Hehehe.

Also learned recently to do the blinking stars gesture with his hands when I sing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star.  Funny thing is he’s always surprised by this ability and stares at his hands as though they’re not connected to his body hahahaha.

Learned cause and effect

Learned how to switch on and off lights and is always insisting we carry him over to light switches so he can turn the lights on and off over and over again. -_-

Also learning the consequence of falling over and hitting his head hahahaha.  Unfortunately not much help cos he’s still as clumsy as ever and continues falling over.  But the good thing is he doesn’t cry as much anymore when he does!

Getting better at standing

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He’s been standing holding on to furniture for some time but now getting better at it!  Very action-ly stands with one hand clutching a toy/remote, the other holding table/shelf/whatever.

I think he’s also beginning to be able to stand without any assistance just that he’s too scared to do it wtf.  Yesterday he was standing holding on to the playpen side and I was standing behind him.  He turned to look for me and let go of the playpen!  Stood like that for a few seconds before he realized and hurriedly held back the playpen hahahaha.

Celebrated his first Deepavali

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Hahahahaha happy belated Deepavali! His PlayNest had a mini party for the occasion and asked the kids to dress in Indian outfits.  One of the moms brought a whole pack of bindis so we got one too hehehe.

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Eating monster only concerned about food. >.>  He must be in heaven cos all the parents brought different snacks so he had loads to pick from.

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Some romance going on hahahahah.  Coincidentally he and his uhh girlfriend wtf wore the same color.  She’s so damn cute in her outfit I cannot!!! Got necklace, bangles and the little hair accessories.  She even had a jewel sticker on her nose hahahaha.

Learned to be a disruption wtf

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Fighter’s great weakness is electronics. I know most babies love remotes all la but Fighter especially loves this sort of thing (including light switches and doorbells wtf) so imagine his great delight with the keyboard in school.

All the kids are fascinated by it but Fighter is the only baby when teacher is playing, goes over and presses some button so the piano sounds change into synthesizer or drums WTF.  *covers face with hands

Music portion is usually spent dragging him away and apologizing to everyone wtf.

Started baby self feeding

During the Deepavali party, I saw Fighter’s friend Kimberly (who’s only two months older) scooping and eating yogurt without dropping any!  I was so impressed I thought it could be time for him to learn how to self feed.  Imagine the free time I’d have! *stretches toes

Did some googling on how to start so here’s what I did.

1. Bought suction bowls (so he won’t tip them over) and easy grip baby silverware.  The suction bowls are from Munchkin. :)

2. Started by giving him a spoon to hold and play with while I still fed him with another spoon

3. After a few days, I put a bit of food into a small bowl for him with the rest in a separate bowl I held.  If he spills any food, at least I can make sure he still gets most of his nutrition from my bowl.

4. Held the spoon but also made him hold or at least touch the handle of the spoon while I manuevered it into his mouth.  This one he was pretty willing to do!

When he gets better at holding the spoon himself can let him gooooooooooooo

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So far so good….

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BOOHOOHOO T_________T

For the first few spoons he’s fine ‘feeding’ himself.  After that it’s more fun to dip his hands into his bowl and spread the food on the table. T______________T

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I’m not even OCD and I get super tense watching the food get smeared around.  And I already have a helper to help clean up!

Never mind only for a few months…. right?

Oh and here’s a Fatty update…

Fatty is one of the top nominees for EY Entrepreneur of the Year 2014!

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Congratulations Fats!  I had no doubt he would be nominated and didn’t get why he was so pessimistic about it… until I realized past winners were people like Tony Fernandez wtf and it’s apparently a big deal! Then I was all like oh yeaa…. cannot even be nominated… *chugs water

But he did! So proud of him. :D

Oh ya and a Bump update…

Detected a gender today at my 16 week appointment!  But it’s not the same sex as what we saw last month wtf so still not sure which it is.  Argh cannot wait for next month to know for sure!!!!!

 

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Nagoya

Wah so long haven’t updated properly!

Ok the reason is because… I made a last ditch attempt at freedom and went to Nagoya for a short trip!

Last ditch because after this bogged down with two kids under 2 I dunno if I will ever get out of lockdown. O_O

So when Bobo asked if I wanted to be her plus one on her work trip to Nagoya I was obviously like TAKE ALL MY MONEY. Lol.

Didn’t really take that many photos cos I took it as a non-work super relaxing trip.  But posting them anyway!

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One of our first stops was… the drugstore. Lol.  I think we spent at least 70% of our free unscheduled time in different drugstores and pharmacies.

Surprisingly I didn’t shop too much! Still shopped la wtf but quite choosy with my purchases this time.  Last time my shopping behavior was more like take basket and sweep shelf contents into my basket hahaha.  Maybe this is what growing old is like.

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Went to the Ohsu Kannon temple!

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Taken with my Sony Xperia Z2

Majestic huh?

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Here’s me and Bobo.  I look quite stressed here cos when I asked someone who looked like he was working there (as part of the stalls and festivities around the temple) he said sure! 100 yen only WTF.

He was joking la but I didn’t know! Not used to Japanese strangers joking wtf.  So when he was taking this picture I was thinking aiya how to tell him I actually don’t want him to take wtf.

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My #audfit!  A bit obsessed with loose but structured tops now cos they fit Bump well but still look streamlined and stylish.

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Carnival outside Ohsu Kannon!  Actually I really wanted to play this but how to bring the goldfish back to Malaysia…. In my mouth ah wtf.

Stopped by Komehyo in Ohsu to check out their designer floor!  They carry both secondhand and unused designer goods so basically Bobo and I had a ball tapping in all the prices and converting to RM and oohing and aahing over how cheap everything was hahaha.

The secondhand goods are all graded by quality but even a B grade (the third grade) item is in fantastic shape!

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Like this backpack. *tears glistening in eyes wtf

Very very cute leh!!! I’ve never seen this design before!  It’s actually very small, so much so that I had to test putting my wallet in to see if it would fit. (It did.) But doesn’t look small cos I’m carrying it la wtf looks just nice right?

It was only Rm2000!  But I didn’t get it cos… we need the money for Bump! Haha. No la I don’t like buying expensive things on impulse will feel mad guilty one. T_T

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This Hermes damn cute hor!

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That’s Nagoya TV Tower behind!  We’re on top of Oasis 21 which features a very cool water feature on the roof.

That’s also not a camel toe hor HAHAHA.  It’s just Bump trying to say hi through my pants. :X

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It’s supposed to be a modern symbol of Nagoya!  According to the client la haha.

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Here here Bump.  Your five seconds of fame.

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Sorry ah a lot of selfies.

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It was a Sunday so the main street in Sakae (the most happening part of Nagoya) was closed for pedestrians!  So we also walk la hahaha.

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Nagoya is famous for chicken wings!  We went to Yama Chan which is a chain of chicken wing restaurants.  It’s actually more like an izakaya cos people go there to drink and eat an assortment of foods, chicken wings being one of them.

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I don’t normally drink beer  but Bump wants some beer!  Look at those two drunkards beside me. >.> Lolol.

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Oh ya one night Bobo and I decided to hit Don Quijote for cheap cosmetics and lashes (and random rubbish).  Got a few branches but dunno how Bobo managed to Google for the furthest one wtf.

We should have suspected cos our train ticket there cost us 500+ yen each already which is very expensive for normal within-city standards!  But no we only realized when our train took forever to arrive wtf.

So when we got there we were like OK must shop more to make our train ticket’s worth.  We did buy some stuff but not super substantial la.  But halfway through I heard them make an announcement that foreigners who show passport can get 8% tax back!

Being true blue aunties, we were like ok must do it.  So I went to the cashier and pulled out my passport.  The staff seemed a bit flustered (maybe cos nobody actually did that before wtf) but they very politely and willingly obliged.

We ended up standing there for an entire half hour while the staff filled out the necessary paperwork. made out the returns and wrapped our purchases in tearproof paper. T_T

The staff warned us that because it’s duty free we cannot open the package until we leave Japan wtf.  So basically the makeup I bought cannot be used any time soon.

And the tax refund? It was a grand total of…. 400 yen.

HAHAHAAHAH. All that trouble for RM12 T_T I’d willingly give it back to Don Quijote la hahaah. But never mind la consider cover our ticket back to our hotel.

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Hungry ghost and a very pretty married woman. Thank god for the conbinis man, can just pop in any time and buy snacks for whenever I’m hungry.

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The view at Oasis 21.

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One of Nagoya’s specialty dishes – miso tonkatsu!  Nagoya  has quite a few of these foods unique to it which is pretty cool.  Not sure if other cities have their own foods (besides Osaka and its okonomiyaki which I don’t like :X) cos I don’t pay a lot of attention to food hehe.CIMG3286

Miso tonkatsu was nais though!

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We might have overdosed on purikura…

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Ya the big eyes thing too much hahaha but it was set on auto mode.

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Haven’t done it in years! The technology so advanced now that they even elongate your legs and slim your hips. :O

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And can change lip color too!

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See Bobo’s legs freakishly long lol.

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I dunno if I’ve just never noticed or that Nagoya is the most baby friendly city in Japan??? In every toilet stall there’s a special baby seat in it so moms can put their babies in it safely while they pee.

Some stalls even come with a tiny urinal (like above) or a small toilet bowl especially for kids.

And I saw parents babywearing everywhere!  So baby friendly one ah motivated to bring Fighter next time. :3

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Uh we got a bit tied up spending our coins buying Fuchiko from the toy machines at the airport.

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Sushi candles! Also at the airport.  quite a few interesting shops and restaurants at the Nagoya airport actually.

Oh ya at the airport was when the typhoon hit too. T_______T

Our flight got canceled and…we were stuck at the airport overnight.  We had to exit the boarding area and pick up our baggage…

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Very impressed that the ground staff so efficiently unloaded the plane and color coordinated the baggage so the passengers could locate bags easier!

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Then we had to start pumping plastic air mattresses to sleep on for the night. T________________T

But luckily the client saved us! They managed to finagle a couple of really nice rooms in one of the airport hotels (no easy feat cos all flights were canceled so everyone was scrambling for a room).

So this pregnant lady didn’t need to be homeless la hahahaha so grateful.

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Next morning it was all clear to go. The typhoon swept the skies clean and left us a farewell rainbow. :)

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Of childhood body soaps

The other day I had an event to attend.

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Say hi to my date!

We were at a baby skincare workshop called “Are You Caring for His Skin The Right Way?” by Johnson’s Baby.

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Our pose same as the mommy and baby on the stage backdrop or not? :D

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When we had Fighter I automatically went and bought Johnson’s Baby skin products for him.  I didn’t even think much about it but I think it’s probably because *I* and Ooib used it as children and that’s always the brand I associate with early childhood.

Love sniffing Fighter after his bath too!  Cos he smells absolutely delicious and the smell is so nostalgic!!! It brings me back to memories of my own bathtub (which was blue cos my parents thought I was a boy wtf), and my grandma washing my hair (which I hated.  Don’t blame Fighter for grumbling during shampoo haha).

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Besides the Total Body Wash, we also use the Wipes and the Talcum Powder.

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Fighter stocking up on more wipes hahaha.

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There was even a kids’ corner for them to play and do sand art….

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While the adults listened to the Doktor Budak talk on baby skin going on behind me.

(Fighter doesn’t look that interested.  For your own good ok Fighter!)

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Okay now he’s paying attention! ^^

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Doktor Budak is a Malaysian volunteer-based online collaboration among children’s health specialists to answer questions on children’s health, and Johnson’s Baby worked with them to organise an interactive workshop to share practical tips and expert advice with moms on how to care for baby’s delicate skin during the Urban Mom 2014 road-show.

Learned a lot of trivia and tips!

For example, did you know that baby’s skin is 30% thinner than adult’s? No wonder its so soft and smooth… *strokes Fighter’s arm *wipes saliva

It also loses moisture way more quickly than adults’ during their first 12 months of life.

Which is why it’s so important we use the right baby-specific skincare and not random harsh soaps that may be unsuitable for baby skin.

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Here’s Fighter’s routine!  He takes a morning bath every morning.  I use the Johnson’s Baby Top to Toe wash because easier hahaha. I used that as a baby too, nothing wrong with it ma.

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After that, I pat him dry and apply baby lotion.  I use a special lotion which helps with eczema cos Fighter sometimes gets heat rash on his neck. :(  I blame it on him having a short neck wtf

Then rest of the body is normal baby lotion.  I started this routine cos I moisturize myself ma after my shower so I just applied it to Fighter.  But Doktor Budak confirmed it’s the right thing to do. ^^

At night he doesn’t bathe but I wipe him down with a warm wet cloth.  Then I apply Johnson’s baby powder to his neck so he won’t get itchy in his sleep.

Johnson’s Baby products are developed are clinically tested to be safe, mild and effective, ensuring that every product meets their “Best for Baby™ Standards:

safe – All ingredients are safe and supported by scientific evidence, tested with rigorous standards that meet or exceed accepted levels for safety, including the packaging and even the inks used for printing.

mild - Johnson’s Baby performs repeated tests of cleansing products, with the help of independent experts, to assess the product’s potential – from the cleansing agents to the fragrance and even its bubbles – to ensure products do not cause redness, stinging and irritation on baby’s skin, hair and eyes.

effective -  with proven benefits and efficacy to respect and care for baby’s unique skin needs.

I went Johnson’s Baby products mostly cos I think it’s tried and tested (from my own childhood).  It’s also effective, mild and most importantly safe.  I know there was some controversy about the ingredients in Johnson’s Baby containing formaldehyde.  Although scientific evidence showed it was actually safe, Johnson’s still listened to its consumers and removed it.  That was pretty responsible of them.:)

For more info, please visit Johnson’s Baby Facebook page.

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Bringing out baby

Saw this video on the  Friso Gold FB page.  There have been a couple of touching but heart wrenching videos about kids going around Facebook and… I’m quite pantang about things like this during pregnancy so I didn’t watch hahaha.  But don’t worry this video is a short and sweet one.

A couple of thoughts flitted through my head…

1. GOD I REALLY WANT A LITTLE CHUBBY GIRL :) ))))

2. What has my child discovered today?

Actually Fat Her just brought this topic up recently.

We were at Fatty’s favorite bak kut teh place in Klang for lunch, and this time we brought Fighter along with us.  It was his first time actually cos the restaurant is the open, coffee shop kind.  I.e. no aircon, open air, a lot of noise and people and general havoc.  We were always paranoid before that Fighter would get hot (IKR), catch a bug or get hot water spilled on him but Fat Her approvingly said, “last time when you were small I used to take you to all sorts of places to expose you to different experiences.”

Then only I realized!  Actually we weren’t even thinking of that – we brought him to the bak kut teh place cos I was really craving it (-_-) and we wanted to let Fighter spend time with his grandpa hahaha.

That’s exactly what I’ve been trying to do though – to show him new things and experiences so he learns.  That’s why I signed him up for baby classes at Julia Gabriel.

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I felt he could be exposed to more different experiences than we could provide at home.

(here he is playing with water soluble paint for the first time hehehe.)

As urban parents I think we’re too worried about our kids’ health and safety.  I read an article about how rural kids actually have less allergies compared to city kids, and one theory is because they’re exposed to more bacteria earlier and thus develop resistance.

Which is why it’s I believe it’s even more important to let kids get out there and gain new experiences.

Last week, I let Fighter play in the sandbox for the first time.  He touched and rubbed the sand but when I let him sit in it, he started wailing. T_T Heard from the school that other kids also like that, cos they’re all so used to clean, smooth surfaces so sand is a big shock to them. Mind boggling right!! That sand is a big shock???

So!  Let them get dirty it’s ok! Bring them to hawker stalls also ok.  Let them play with mud and grass.  Bring them for trips to new places (and it doesn’t need to expensive or overseas).  Resist the urge to scrub their hands with sanitizer every 5 minutes lol.  Let them learn and be kids and have fun. :D

You can see Friso’s FB page for more ideas and info. They have lots!

 

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