Of childhood body soaps

The other day I had an event to attend.


Say hi to my date!

We were at a baby skincare workshop called “Are You Caring for His Skin The Right Way?” by Johnson’s Baby.


Our pose same as the mommy and baby on the stage backdrop or not? :D


When we had Fighter I automatically went and bought Johnson’s Baby skin products for him.  I didn’t even think much about it but I think it’s probably because *I* and Ooib used it as children and that’s always the brand I associate with early childhood.

Love sniffing Fighter after his bath too!  Cos he smells absolutely delicious and the smell is so nostalgic!!! It brings me back to memories of my own bathtub (which was blue cos my parents thought I was a boy wtf), and my grandma washing my hair (which I hated.  Don’t blame Fighter for grumbling during shampoo haha).


Besides the Total Body Wash, we also use the Wipes and the Talcum Powder.


Fighter stocking up on more wipes hahaha.


There was even a kids’ corner for them to play and do sand art….


While the adults listened to the Doktor Budak talk on baby skin going on behind me.

(Fighter doesn’t look that interested.  For your own good ok Fighter!)


Okay now he’s paying attention! ^^


Doktor Budak is a Malaysian volunteer-based online collaboration among children’s health specialists to answer questions on children’s health, and Johnson’s Baby worked with them to organise an interactive workshop to share practical tips and expert advice with moms on how to care for baby’s delicate skin during the Urban Mom 2014 road-show.

Learned a lot of trivia and tips!

For example, did you know that baby’s skin is 30% thinner than adult’s? No wonder its so soft and smooth… *strokes Fighter’s arm *wipes saliva

It also loses moisture way more quickly than adults’ during their first 12 months of life.

Which is why it’s so important we use the right baby-specific skincare and not random harsh soaps that may be unsuitable for baby skin.


Here’s Fighter’s routine!  He takes a morning bath every morning.  I use the Johnson’s Baby Top to Toe wash because easier hahaha. I used that as a baby too, nothing wrong with it ma.


After that, I pat him dry and apply baby lotion.  I use a special lotion which helps with eczema cos Fighter sometimes gets heat rash on his neck. :(  I blame it on him having a short neck wtf

Then rest of the body is normal baby lotion.  I started this routine cos I moisturize myself ma after my shower so I just applied it to Fighter.  But Doktor Budak confirmed it’s the right thing to do. ^^

At night he doesn’t bathe but I wipe him down with a warm wet cloth.  Then I apply Johnson’s baby powder to his neck so he won’t get itchy in his sleep.

Johnson’s Baby products are developed are clinically tested to be safe, mild and effective, ensuring that every product meets their “Best for Baby™ Standards:

safe – All ingredients are safe and supported by scientific evidence, tested with rigorous standards that meet or exceed accepted levels for safety, including the packaging and even the inks used for printing.

mild - Johnson’s Baby performs repeated tests of cleansing products, with the help of independent experts, to assess the product’s potential – from the cleansing agents to the fragrance and even its bubbles – to ensure products do not cause redness, stinging and irritation on baby’s skin, hair and eyes.

effective -  with proven benefits and efficacy to respect and care for baby’s unique skin needs.

I went Johnson’s Baby products mostly cos I think it’s tried and tested (from my own childhood).  It’s also effective, mild and most importantly safe.  I know there was some controversy about the ingredients in Johnson’s Baby containing formaldehyde.  Although scientific evidence showed it was actually safe, Johnson’s still listened to its consumers and removed it.  That was pretty responsible of them.:)

For more info, please visit Johnson’s Baby Facebook page.

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Bringing out baby

Saw this video on the  Friso Gold FB page.  There have been a couple of touching but heart wrenching videos about kids going around Facebook and… I’m quite pantang about things like this during pregnancy so I didn’t watch hahaha.  But don’t worry this video is a short and sweet one.

A couple of thoughts flitted through my head…


2. What has my child discovered today?

Actually Fat Her just brought this topic up recently.

We were at Fatty’s favorite bak kut teh place in Klang for lunch, and this time we brought Fighter along with us.  It was his first time actually cos the restaurant is the open, coffee shop kind.  I.e. no aircon, open air, a lot of noise and people and general havoc.  We were always paranoid before that Fighter would get hot (IKR), catch a bug or get hot water spilled on him but Fat Her approvingly said, “last time when you were small I used to take you to all sorts of places to expose you to different experiences.”

Then only I realized!  Actually we weren’t even thinking of that – we brought him to the bak kut teh place cos I was really craving it (-_-) and we wanted to let Fighter spend time with his grandpa hahaha.

That’s exactly what I’ve been trying to do though – to show him new things and experiences so he learns.  That’s why I signed him up for baby classes at Julia Gabriel.


I felt he could be exposed to more different experiences than we could provide at home.

(here he is playing with water soluble paint for the first time hehehe.)

As urban parents I think we’re too worried about our kids’ health and safety.  I read an article about how rural kids actually have less allergies compared to city kids, and one theory is because they’re exposed to more bacteria earlier and thus develop resistance.

Which is why it’s I believe it’s even more important to let kids get out there and gain new experiences.

Last week, I let Fighter play in the sandbox for the first time.  He touched and rubbed the sand but when I let him sit in it, he started wailing. T_T Heard from the school that other kids also like that, cos they’re all so used to clean, smooth surfaces so sand is a big shock to them. Mind boggling right!! That sand is a big shock???

So!  Let them get dirty it’s ok! Bring them to hawker stalls also ok.  Let them play with mud and grass.  Bring them for trips to new places (and it doesn’t need to expensive or overseas).  Resist the urge to scrub their hands with sanitizer every 5 minutes lol.  Let them learn and be kids and have fun. :D

You can see Friso’s FB page for more ideas and info. They have lots!


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On finding out… the second time


So….. This I was definitely not expecting. Pun not intended lolol.

This is the blog post that I wanted so badly to write two months ago but had to put off until now.

Truthfully, it’s not that easy to write because we did not plan for this.  And honestly it’s been a horrifically tough time for me.  We had no thought of another child anytime yet so this was a huge adjustment in thinking that we (okay fine, I) had to get used to.


Yup, like I mentioned, it wasn’t planned. -_-

Skip this part if you’re squeamish wtf.  I was still breastfeeding, my period hadn’t returned since I got pregnant, and we did use protection….. and it still happened. O_O

Wah lau Fighter number 2 la this one.

So when we found out, it was a huge shock to me.  So much so that I cried LOLOL.  And not out of joy, I’m sorry to say.

Here’s how we found out

Over the most shallow thing ever!!! I was going to make an appointment for Botox and fillers with DRx wtf.  It was something I’d been putting off for two years cos of the pregnancy and then breastfeeding so I was raring to go for a smaller face wtf.

But right before I booked the appointment, I thought hmmm okay just to be sure, let me just make sure I’m not pregnant (HAHAHA that’s a good one Aud wtf) first before I get my Botox.  I had one spare pregnancy test (some more Clearblue, the expensive one) left from before so I thought okay la use it in case it expires.

So went to the bathroom, sat down and peed.  When I was testing for Fighter I stared so hard at the test I thought I’d develop Xray vision wtf but with this one I just peed, then started cleaning up before remembering I was still holding the test.



Couldn’t believe my eyes.  I remember blinking hard to make sure I’m not hallucinating.  But in fact, I was so pregnant that the positive vertical line appeared way before the lighter horizontal line (and the line in the diamond window that shows the test is working).  I stared at that line wondering if I somehow misunderstood it.

My first words were, “ARE YOU F*CKING KIDDING ME?” *guilt

Fatty came running into the bathroom, I showed him the test and I burst into tears.

Fatty hugged me and asked, “why are you crying? You used to worry that you’d never have kids because of your PCOS so this is good news!”

At that moment I didn’t know why I was crying. But I was thinking, “I cannot do my Botox!!!” :X :X

When I finally managed to pull myself together I realized it’s not about the Botox.  I was crying because I thought I could finally claim my body back as my own after two whole years.  I wasn’t sustaining another human being with my uterus or my milk anymore; I was free! If I wanted to get Botox, I could without fearing it would harm my baby.  My body was my own again!  But not anymore.

Then I thought of having to start all over again – the whole pregnancy shebang, the sleepless nights, the non-stop pumping and being permanently hooked up to a fucking breast pump, the fear of colic, worrying the baby won’t latch, the spit-ups…. The near future looked as dark as the Dark Ages.

And then worst of all, the preeclampsia.  If it happens the first pregnancy, it’s likely to happen again.  And the worse and earlier you get it, the higher the chances of it recurring.  I thought of the weeks of hospitalization, the bills, the emergency C sect, and then the month of visiting a fighting infant in the NICU, and I cried more.  And I had a toddler now!  How could I easily spend weeks in the hospital away from him?  Would I be as lucky this time? If my future seemed dark earlier, now it seemed non-existent wtf.

The aftermath

My first trimester was bad.  With Fighter I had some mild nausea but no real vomiting.  With this Bump, I was throwing up every day.  After breakfast within the hour confirm vomit.  Sometimes in the evening.  Usually after a bumpy car ride.  Often at night after dinner too, or if I drank too much water (which was bad cos I was probably dehydrated).

I developed abs from all that puking.  A couple times what came up was tinged with blood probably cos I scratched my esophagus.  I puked so hard the blood vessels on my face broke fml.  And I started googling how much can I puke before my teeth start to rot wtf.

Because of all the puking (plus I was exhausted) I couldn’t carry Fighter for a while.  His weight pressing on my tummy made me feel sick and even playing peekaboo with him made me dizzy.  I asked nanny to take over the feeding cos I couldn’t even be in the same room as his porridge cos I found it damn smelly and puke-inducing.

As a result, Fighter suddenly lost attachment to me and started preferring Fatty and the nanny. T__________T

I was feeling like shit and so hormonal (and still grieving the loss of my freedom for another two years) so I cried buckets over this!  Every time he struggled to get out of my arms to Fatty or nanny, I cried.  Until Fatty even got scared of wanting to carry Fighter. :(

There were crazy times when I thought fine fine Fighter doesn’t want me I still have Bump *caresses bump

But I gotta say, the last three months were one of the worst of my life.  Perpetually feeling sick and vomiting daily, the stress thinking of how I was going to care for two babies, the guilt at not being happy, the fear of preeclampsia striking again, the jealousy and resentment whenever Fighter showed he preferred someone else over me… Those were harsh times wtf.

Eventually I got over it and somehow Fighter started loving me back again wtf.  My energy came back and my vomiting petered out significantly the last week!  I vomited this morning but I didn’t puke for almost a week before already.

As for the preeclampsia, my doctor put me on a daily regime of low dose aspirin which may help, although it’s not 100% fool proof.

When I visited the doctor two weeks ago and she scanned me, I saw Bump doing what looked like situps in my uterus. Lolol.  Training up your physique to meet Mommy hor, Bump?

I fell in love.


Taken at 14 weeks


If you ever read this, don’t think that mommy didn’t love you just because she wasn’t expecting you.  I already love you more than you’ll know (and probably more than you love me wtf).  If I cried before, it was the hormones (that are ironically keeping you well).  Blame the hormones!

While we can’t wait to see you, stay in there as long as you can ok? Don’t be like your kor kor who itchy backside wanted to see the world ASAP.



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The new Estee Lauder Anti Aging Cream Giveaway!

I was browsing my Downloads folder and came across…

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Old photos.  Just two years ago!  Photo on the left was taken the day after I left my first job (first day of freedom so very gung ho put on makeup wtf) and the one on the right was probably for some event.

Don’t count the more carefully applied eye makeup la but my face was so nice then. T_______T  Resolution not super high la so smoothness not really obvious, but it was plumper back then.  Firmer.


Discount the no makeup please hahaha.  But the aging process has definitely affected my face a bit la.  Even my dermatologist pointed out the very slight slack in my cheeks fml.


So yay for this! Another package from Estee Lauder!


To complement my collection of Estee Lauder, this is the Estee Lauder Revitalizing Supreme Global Anti Aging Cream.  (wow what a mouthful hahaha)

Revitalizing Supreme is a multi-action anti aging cream.  Applying it supports the natural activation of  the skin’s natural activation of longevity gene SIRT-1, allowing cells the extra time they need to carry out their restorative functions. As a result, skin is rejuvenated with a radiant, more youthful look over time.

Tailored for Asian skin, it targets the usual culprits of aging -

  • Loss of Firmness & Tone
  • Lines & wrinkles
  • Dullness, loss of radiance
  • Dryness, dehydration


It’s a light creamy color and has a faint fragrance!  I don’t like overpowering smells and the scent is a gentle faintly citrus-y one.


Texture is creamy but still light and smooth.


Applies smoothly and easily.  My skin is pretty dry so I prefer more heavy duty products that can pack more moisture and the Supreme fits the bill!  It also doesn’t leave a sticky or oily residue which works awesome for me.  (No hair blowing and sticking on my face hahaha.)  My skin feels smoother and … a bit more “boing boing” hahaha.

Overall a very nice anti aging product!  Easy and no fuss to apply, with instant moisturizing effect.


For best results, the Revitalizing Supreme is best used alongside the Estee Lauder Micro Essence and Advanced Night Repair!CIMG3175


According to research, after 4 weeks 92% of women reported significantly firmer skin.  I’ve only been using this for a week plus so…. let’s go!!


“You mean mommy’s skin can look like mine in 4 weeks?”


“I call it Fighter In a Bottle! HEHEHE.”


Don’t listen to him.


Do you want to try out the Revitalizing Supreme Global Anti Aging Creme for yourself?  You can get a sample here.

I have THREE jars to give away!

Thank you Estee Lauder for always being awesome to Fourfeetnine readers! :D :D

Just answer the question:

Who do you think deserves Fighter in a Bottle Estee Lauder Revitalizing Supreme Global Anti Aging Crème and why? :)

Remember to leave your email address for us to contact you!


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What I learned from my friendships

Okay! Introspective post time!  Recently some stuff happened that caused me to have a good long think about friendships and myself.

You know that personality test that goes ENTP or ISTJ or whatever? (Okay googled it’s called the Myers-Briggs test).  I did it years ago and while I can’t remember my exact personality type, it’s E— something (E standing for Extrovert).  I remember reading that people don’t necessarily remain the same personality type their whole lives and I scoffed, thinking please la I’d never be an I—- (Introvert) type.

Ah the vanity of youth wtf.

I haven’t done the test lately but I wouldn’t be surprised if I turned out an I— after all.  I do feel that I am quite a different person throughout different points in my life.  And my friendships and the people I am friends with reflect that.

So I was thinking about my friendships – present and past, friendships that stayed and those that didn’t – and realized that I’ve learned a lot about myself and about people.  Okay I say ah!

1. I learned to not crave attention so much wtf

Hahaha this one quite jialat.  And related to my personality as mentioned above. My best friend from high school and I were super close all the way through pre-university and when I went to college in the US.  But somewhere along the way, I started feeling neglected wtf.  She had her own life in KL with her own uni mates and I did too in the US but when I came home for summer, I wanted to spend more time with her (hahaha very clingy ah) but she had her own things and friends to tend to.

I don’t really think it was either of our faults but I remember her telling me that I was too used to being the center of attention so I couldn’t take it if I wasn’t in the limelight.

Jeng jeng jeng.

To be honest, I still don’t think that was the issue at hand.  For me it was genuinely about trying to resume our BFFship when I came home and expecting her to want to do the same but maybe she felt she couldn’t just wait around for me to come back.  Wah really like emo drama about LDR.

But anyway, what she said stayed with me until today.  I did love attention when I was younger, whether from girls or boys and I’d do funny or cute things or talk a lot or tell jokes to get it. Ironically, that craving faded the older I am.  Nobody likes being ignored but I’m content to be on the sidelines or not be in the middle telling jokes.

But I still always remember what she said.  And to that extent I consciously remind myself not to be too self-absorbed when I talk to friends (because I can be exactly that) and tell myself don’t talk so much about myself WTF and listen to them more.

Suet once said I’m an awesome listener but little does she know it’s something I force myself to do LOLOL.

2. To let them make their own mistakes

This is something I’ve learned very recently.  I dunno if it’s cos I’m too busybody la wtf but I used to get very very worked up over problems my friends faced.  Like if an ex was an asshole, I’d write them a nasty email all the way to London WTF (#truestory).  Or it it was a work problem, I’d look out for new opportunities for them.  If it was a hate comment on social media I’d go back and flame the fella wtf.  Or if I was afraid they’d make a bad decision I’d actively try to stop them either by physical force, or by haranguing them over the phone.  Or get angry and not talk to them or something.

More often than not, my efforts of course backfire.  Half the time I failed to help, and worse friendships would be affected (momentarily la luckily).  Because people just need to sort out whatever issues they’re having by themselves, not with a well meaning but possibly problematic friend interfering. *guilty.  Barring self harm, the most we can do as friends is just be there when we’re needed.

3. That people are not the same

Even if you’re friends.  You don’t necessarily share the same values, principles, or even the same views on what being a friend is.  I think I’m pretty good at seeing the other side in a conflict actually (that’s why cannot ever join debate team or be lawyer cos whatever the other person says Imma be like OH YA TRUE HOR OKAY LA MAKES SENSE.)

So if it’s differences in life priorities or even certain values or ethics that clash, those don’t really bother me cos I believe the people I’m friends with are generally decent people.  And that they treasure me as a friend in return.

Not to blow own horn or what but I think I’m quite a sincere friend la!  Once I’ve accepted you into my circle if I can help, I will.  (Even when you don’t want it wtf.  Which probably contributes to my kepohness and interference *grimace)  But in that sense I expect you to treat me the same as well?  If I need help, I do expect it especially if it’s something I don’t think is a big burden.  Unfortunately not everyone agrees, which is something I’ve realized recently as well.

Some people say that I shouldn’t be doing things for others because I expect reciprocity and that is true.  What’s the point of doing something nice only to store it away as a future favor?  But I thought about it and well, if I accept you as a friend I will help you however I can.  Do I expect you to do the same?  Yes but not because it’s tit for tat.  But because when I help you it’s because I care, so it’s a huge blow if it’s not reciprocated.  It means that either you don’t care enough, or you’re a taker, either of which isn’t good wtf.

That’s something I learned recently which affected me a fair bit.  I don’t know how it will impact my behavior in future, but it’s a good lesson learned – that not everyone shares the same values as you no matter how close you were.

4. To let it go.

And friendships come in pairs.  Younger, friends were a much more central focus of my life so I tried much harder to keep them.  But it’s impossible to do that if the other person doesn’t do the same.

If someone doesn’t return calls or emails there’s only so much you can do.  If someone refuses to talk to you after an argument there’s even less you can do.  Friendship works both ways but when something like this happens, it’s time to let it gooooo let it gooooo can’t hold it back anymoreeeeee wtf.

And that’s perfectly all right.  I learned it’s not something to get too upset about either because friends will come and go.  There will be one or two who will stick around forever but the majority of friendships fade in and out.  Sure you can say what really matters is – uhh to be cheesy – the memories but if you think back, I’m sure you can find what you gained or learned from it.  And hopefully, how it impacted you and shaped you for the better.


I wonder what this guy will learn from his friends?

Wah like this I think I can write another blog post like this but for ex boyfriends HAHAHA.


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Fighter facts

I’ve decided to do a weekly segment called BabyBloomer (yaya real creative) to update on what Fighter has been up to lately and what he’s achieved.

(not that anybody really cares la wtf cos it’s only interesting if it’s your own baby from your own uterus but more for my own remembrance’s sake)

Fighter is now 13 1/2 months!  11 1/2 months adjusted.

Attended B’s birthday party



This baby more happening than me.  I haven’t attended anybody’s birthday in my own capacity for like…. this whole year. >.>

Here’s Fighter and B (exhausted from all that partying) dressed in matching colors!  Serendipity or what?

Actually LC told me the theme is garden floral so I gung ho dig out my only floral dress and wear.  Nobody else wore!!! So I basically looked like the most hiao mother thanks guys hahaha.

Anyway Fighter obviously has no floral clothes so I made do with a pale yellow shirt with a bee embroidered on it.  And turned out LC and B also wearing pale yellow!  Theme colors were yellow, peach and white which I didn’t know about.

Anyway Fighter’s OOTD:-

Shirt from Platinum Mall, Bangkok
Jeans from Baby Gap
Shoes also Baby Gap

Two teeth!


Fighter recently (finally!) grew a tooth.  Then like 1-2 weeks later the other bottom incisor surfaced.  Now they’re both half grown and about equal size.

First McNugget


This is not a McDonald’s ad wtf.  But I was eating some nuggets in the car for lunch and he rudely grabbed a nugget and started chomping (with one tooth).  Did pretty well too and demolished the nugget!

But… there you go, fast food virginity taken hahaha.  I’m not super anal about everything being organic and sterilized for my child cos I believe they should be exposed to just normal stuff to build their immunities.  Plus everything in moderation ma not like I always feed him fast food.  He ownself grab one hahaha.

Taking the stairs like a boss


Just two days ago, Fighter was crawling around on the floor when he arrived at the foot of our stairs.  Then suddenly like Sir Edmund Hillary, he started scaling Mount Everest.

I was so worried he’d topple over backwards but he didn’t!  He just kept putting his hands out, then knee by knee forward. *beaming pride

It’s his new hobby now.  Put him on the floor and he’ll clamber over to the stairs right away.  Never mind if he’s panting by the time he reaches the landing hahaha.

Knows what to do with his drum set (sort of)


Hui Wen got him this drum set for his birthday and the most he did before was gingerly touch the base or something.

But recently he’s learned to pick up the drum sticks!  And beat the drum, although not with the drumstick wtf.

Picked up his first chick

DSC_0605Actually technically his first chick could be LC’s grandma WTF.

At B’s party, Fighter kept making eyes at LC’s grandma sitting at the next table so of course grandma swooned.  Apparently she’s still talking about him now LOLOL.

Then today he upped his game.

We took him to his first day of baby class and he instantly clambered over to this little girl sitting near him.  (face blocked for privacy)

And then he put his hand on her leg…

Little girl was unfazed.  She waved hello at Fighter who stared blankly back.  Then she put her hand on his hand!

Is this… could I be witnessing Fighter’s first romance?

And then… the little girl leaned forward and tried to kiss Fighter.

I burst out laughing at this.  Too cute!!! But the both of them got surprised and stopped what they were doing hahahaha.

So I guess you could also say this was…

Fighter’s first cock block

Sorry darling.  Mommy will be more discreet next time.


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To vaccinate or not to vaccinate?


Took Fighter to get his MMR jab today!

Okay so this is a topic I’ve been fairly obsessed about (until some of my mom friends got a bit scared wtf).  And that topic is vaccines.

It all started some time ago when somebody left an online comment warning me about vaccinations and autism.

Backtrack a bit.  When Fighter was born I was so afraid something would be wrong with him, being born premature and all that.  Then when we did the tests one by one and everything proved fine, I still wasn’t convinced wtf.  I kept thinking we went through so much, what if we’re not that lucky and something shows up later on?

That something that I fixated on was autism cos autism is not immediately detectable at birth ma, not like Down Syndrome.  Plus before he was born I happened to read books about autism wtf.  I googled extensively about autism and for the past year I watched Fighter closely for symptoms or signs that he wasn’t progressing socially/mentally etc.

Thankfully he seems okay and is developing very well socially.  But cos I read so much about autism already it remained a vague fear in me.

So when people started ‘warning’ me about the link between autism and vaccines I obviously got worried and restarted my Google campaign to find out as much as I could about vaccines.

What I read pretty much put my mind at ease about getting Fighter vaccinated.

1. Andrew Wakefield (the guy whose research sparked off this vaccine autism scare)’s scientific paper has been retracted. His research has been found lacking in a bunch of ways and his medical license has been revoked.

2. Since then further studies have been run but none that have conclusive evidence that can link autism and vaccines.

3. Why people think autism is linked to vaccination is cos regressive autism happens around the same time kids get certain vaccine jabs… Hence they conclude that hey it must be the vaccines! But from what I’ve read, these evidence so far has only been anecdotal, not scientific so unless someone could point me to a study that hasn’t been discredited?

4. Some people thought the ingredient thimerosal in vaccines was to blame in causing the rise of autism. But thimerosal was phased out of vaccines, and the autism rate continues to rise. Source

5. Apparently the number of diagnosed autistic kids have increased recent years so anti vaccine advocates say it’s cos of the vaccines. But vaccines have been implemented for decades why now only increase??

It’s also possible that the increase can be attributed to growing awareness and better diagnostic skills. Plus in the past doctors didn’t considered high functioning high IQ kids to be autistic but now they do so that opens up a whole…range of factors to be considered.

If this was really due to vaccines, wouldn’t it have happened much earlier?

6. For every study I’ve read, there’s a well written article (if not a direct discreditation) refuting its findings. For example, take this study which supposedly found a link between aluminium (in vaccines) and autism rates. Frankly it scared me but then I did another search on it and unearthed this article which refutes quite reasonably that study was cherrypicking data and hence skewing its results.  Also that study was funded by an anti vaccination group. :X

Autism fears aside, these are some other fears that I see anti vaxxer parents cite often:

Too many vaccines, baby’s immune system cannot take it – On the contrary, a baby breathes in a few hundred thousand germs a minute so the 20 or 30 antigens received at each vaccination isn’t going to overwhelm the baby’s immune system.

Vaccination is not immunization – I don’t really understand this argument. It may not be immunization because sometimes a kid’s body might not develop the antibodies but isn’t vaccination a right step in the direction anyway?

Better to contract the disease than get the vaccine – Some people believe it’s better to contract the disease, recover and then develop natural resistance to it. Yea but is polio or whooping cough something you really want to contract? What if you don’t recover? *touch wood* And do you really want to put your kid and family through this suffering, spend unnecessary money and heartache to avoid something that has been proven to save lives?

Vaccines can cause severe reactions in children – Never say never and I have read there have been cases of children developing severe allergies or reactions to vaccines. However these are extremely rare, and considering the benefits of vaccines I’d say they far outweigh the risks.

Which is why I have chosen to continue vaccinating Fighter.

I’m not here to change anybody’s mind because god knows I get annoyed enough when anti vaxxers come to me and try to make me worry and convince me otherwise. But it annoys me because all the reasons they give so far to me have defied logic and evidence. The studies cited are also frequently junk science, poorly conducted research and experiments or financed by anti vaccination parties.

Illogicality is what annoys me the most about this actually. But I’m open to new information, as long as it’s scientific. Any parents here with thoughts on this?

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Return of Kempen Sopan Santun

More than a year ago I blogged this.

I haven’t really mentioned it since but I am keeping to my word!  In my quest to make Malaysia a more polite place, I’ve been speaking out whenever I see somebody behave rudely or inconsiderately in public, usually cutting queues.

But something happened yesterday which really boiled my blood.

Incident #1

I was at KLIA 2 to board our flight to Kuching for Kenny Sia’s wedding.  Popped into the restroom to pee while Fatty lined up to drop our suitcase off.

There were two other people in the line ahead of me – a white lady and a Malay lady with her daughter (about six years old?).

Now obviously the right way to line up for the toilets is that everyone forms one line, and as each toilet stall frees up, the next person in line goes.  So that’s how it was.

I was scrolling through my phone when suddenly I noticed two women in airline ground staff uniforms stroll in, and just enter the stalls when the occupants exited.

I was a little confused so I asked the Malay lady in front of me, did they cut the line?? She looked a little upset and nodded yes.

So I wasn’t in the best of moods when another woman, this time in a Malindo Air uniform strode in to the restroom, walked to the front of the line and  started pushing on toilet doors.

She pushed on a door with a cleaning sign in front and it opened. So I said, excuse me, the line is back here.

She looked back at me and said: “I need to go first first, need to go back to work quickly.”

And the conversation went like this.

Me: “We also need to go check in quickly what! How can you cut line like this!”

Malindo (feigning innocence, also changing the topic): But why this stall empty you all not using?

Me: “Cos there’s a no entry sign in front.  How are we to know it’s free?”

Malindo: “I’m just checking the stalls see which is free.”

Me (feeling annoyed cos she’s clearly just making up excuses): “If that’s the case, let this auntie go first la. She’s been waiting here so long and she has a little girl with her.”

Malindo: “If she wants to go, she go la! I never say she cannot!” (but still unmoving away from the toilet stall)

Me: “Auntie, you go first!  Take that stall.”

Auntie at this point is scared like anything. Another toilet stall opened and she hurriedly dove in with her kid.

Malindo (triumphant): “See! Got another toilet for her what.”  (makes as though she’s going to enter her stall)

Me: “Okay then this toilet should be for me then since you cut line.”

Malindo: “Take la! Take la!”

 Luckily for her another stall opened up next to her so I stomped there and said she could take her toilet la then. Forgot about the poor folks lining behind me. Should have told her to let the one behind me take that toilet since she cut her too.

After I finished in the toilet, I came out and she was standing at the sink, staring daggers at me in the mirror.

Wtf? Wrong already still cock stare me? Glared back at her while washing my hands wtf.

You know what happened then?  She continued giving me angry creepy looks, doing it very obviously, like she’d sweep her eyes away in contempt then fix them back on me in the mirror while simultaneously glaring.  She kept doing it so I finally lost my temper and said:

 “Kurang ajar.”

 The literal meaning is no manners or not enough education. But in Malay I think it’s a pretty harsh thing to say, isn’t it?  But I was so angry my Malay was stuck and I felt like the most accurate thing to say.

Cos she really no manners la! What shitty example is she setting especially for the little girl? Will she grow up thinking it’s okay to cut queues?

Plus she’s a Malindo ground staff, in an international airport. What impression of Malaysia is she giving tourists? Fuck her la.

 Anyway she predictably got offended I called her kurang ajar cos she can’t take the truth and started berating me.

Malindo: “So what if I’m kurang ajar! What’s your problem with that?”

Seriously? Can you believe the intelligence? She should have been a lawyer. Her reasoning skills are clearly amazing.

Me: “My problem is that you’re kurang ajar la and cut line la!! What kind of question is that? What kind of example are you setting? No wonder Malaysians are known for being rude, cos of people like you!”

 Malindo: “Whatever!” (complete with hand signal, walking away)

Wow her linguistics skills. They really blow me away.

But at that point I also raging already. Die also cannot let her have the last word so I said “With your attitude I hope you get fired!!!” then I stomped away.

Ok la low blow but really damn angry. So mad I nearly followed her back to her counter so I can complain to her boss. I really think I should have.  After all, she’s representing Malindo in her uniform so shouldn’t her employer know of her disgraceful behavior towards passengers?

That was Incident 1.

Incident #2

We really mad suay.  Today at the Kuching airport, we were again lining up, this time to board the plane.

There was a chain barrier strung along the line so people could line up within it.  Fatty and I were at the end of the barrier and out of nowhere, this man of African descent came and stood next to Fatty, and discreetly tried to push his roll on suitcase into the line to secure a spot in front of us.


Fatty was on the phone taking a work call, and I knew exactly what this guy was trying to do.  Fatty looked distracted and I was worried the guy would successfully cut our line wtf.  The auntie in me cannot let this go so I considered asking Fatty to switch places with me so I could stand there and tell him off/stretch my arm out and hold the barrier so he cannot pass wtf.

But I should have known.  This is why we are married.

Fatty suddenly said to the person on the other line, “Hold on.  I need to scold someone.”

Then he turned to the fella and said, “Excuse me. The line is back there. You are cutting the line.”

Line cutter: “Oh but she already accepted my ticket” (referring to the Air Asia staff, who had come down the line to check our boarding passes)

Fatty: “I don’t care if she took your ticket or if she gave you keys to the plane. There is a line and you’re cutting it. So don’t be rude and get to the back of it.”

At this point Fatty complained to the Air Asia staff about him cutting the line and she told him softly to get behind.

When the line cutter ignored, she did nothing. And that pissed us off even more.

Fatty told him once again to get behind and the guy said: “I’m not cutting line. I’m with this guy”. (points to an old uncle right in front of us)

Fatty: “OH REALLY ?” *taps uncle’s shoulder* “excuse me uncle. Is this man with you?”

The uncle looked as nervous as the lady in the toilet with the little girl and shook his head no.

Fatty turned back to the black guy and stared at him.

Finally he said, “Ok fine. I won’t cut. I’ll just stand here until everyone goes in.”

Liar.  He didn’t cut us, but he cut the second guy behind us.  I saw him walking in two people after us.  I don’t even understand why you would cut line for a plane.  You have an assigned seat and the plane isn’t going to take off without you.  What’s the point!?


The line cutter

Two more things.

One, these line cutters are not only rude and selfish, they refuse to back down even after being told off.  Why?  Because they’ll lose face and they don’t want to admit wrong?  They’re also liars.  The black guy wasn’t with the uncle, and he lied blatantly.  Malindo woman wasn’t “just checking the toilets”, she intended to cut everyone in the line.


The auntie in the bathroom was terrified, maybe because she had her child with her.  But if my child was with me, I’d make sure she knows that cutting line is WRONG.  I wouldn’t just stand by and be taken advantage of like that.  What example am I setting to my child then?  That it’s ok to be bullied?

And the people in the line behind me.  Nobody spoke up to help, even when I’m clearly speaking up for everybody in line.

Likewise with the African man.  Nobody else said anything, they all just either stared blatantly or looked at their shoes.

And the Air Asia ground staff?  Thanks for nothing.  You of all people had the power to maintain queue hygiene.  You could have asked him to go to the back of the line and he would have to comply.  Instead you scurried off, relieved he’s not cutting your line.

Well, fine.  Someday somebody will cut your line too.   And it will be sooner rather than later, looking at the state of Malaysian courtesy.

This is what I’m the angriest about.  Why is nobody else speaking up?  Shame on them for letting such behavior go. You are in the right, why would you be afraid?  Afraid of what?  The fella punch you, you can file police report what wtf.

How can you live like this?  With not even rights to your place in line because nobody respects social rules anymore?  Since when did Malaysia turn into a barbaric state?

Please.  If you see behavior that deserves correcting, speak up.  It’s not that difficult.  Nobody is going to punch you.  You are in the right, and they are in the wrong therefore trust me, it’s much easier for you to talk than it is for them.

You may think it’s none of your business and you shouldn’t get involved.  Wrong!  It is entirely your business because everybody has at some point or other gotten their lines cut by selfish people who think their time is more valuable than yours.

And your kids.  What are your kids going to learn?  What are the tourists going to learn about Malaysians?  That we are all disgustingly rude and selfish?  Is that what you want?  Or do you want every time you line up to be a stressful and upsetting affair because people don’t know how to line up?

So please.  Say something.  Shame them into being courteous.  If you fail to do anything, you’re only perpetuating this bad behavior.

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Of high tech beauty



Me! My first time at a Panasonic Beauty event!  And I got it right first time by wearing pink *smug

Geometric top from American Apparel, shorts from Topshop, shoes from Jeffrey Campbell.


Take two, with Bobo and lipstick.

Bobo angry at me cos of the sign I was holding HAHAHA.


More and more people join us. With Povy!


Then Nana, tallest person in the world.


Panasonic has a huuuuge range of beauty products.  From hair care tools to skin to face to even nails. D:CIMG2883

The set up of the Panasonic Beauty Cafe.  Because there’s so many different sub ranges, there was a station set up for each sub range, and we were all given a ‘passport’ – when we explore each station we get a ‘stamp’ on the passport.

The first station I went to was Body Care!


Featured product was a Panasonic epilator.


Panasonic girl explaining with great gusto hahaha.


To use, must wet it and pour some body wash on to create a lather, so the epilator will run smoothly over your skin.


You can also change the top of the epilator and turn it into a foot file for dead skin too!

Next up was Face Care.


The device featured was the Facial Ionic Steamer.  In layman terms… it’s a mini home spa! The steam and ions released not only moisturizes skin but also helps to lift dirt and oil off your skin.

To show me how, they swished some waterproof liquid eyeliner over my hand.



Put my hand above the steamer for a few minutes…


Then when she wiped with makeup remover, the makeup vanished!  We redid the experiment without using the steamer, and it took a few swipes of the cotton pad to remove all the eyeliner.


Very tempting to get it!  The only thing is I don’t trust myself to steam my face often enough because I am lazy taking care of a baby takes a lot of time. Hahaha.


Hair care and styling!  The hair range is extensive – ranging from hairdryers to curling tongs and straighteners.


The new Panasonic 2000W hairdryer!  Matches my lip color! :D  Hairdryer is an essential item cos without it, my (thin) hair will dry and stick to my forehead. -_-

Always on the lookout for new better hairdryers and this one is pretty great!  Cute color, foldable handle so it’s compact, yet it’s 2000W so it’s powerful enough to blitz hair dry fast.

Other products! So many omg so fun playing around with them.


Electric toothrush!


Wah this one cool.  Do I look like Cyclops.  It’s an eye massager and vibrates gently so you feel damn shiok hahaha.


THIS ONE!  One of my favorite products – the head massager.  It also vibrates and comes with little rubber tentacles that massage your head WAH DAMN SONG AH.  Maybe I should get one for Fatty.


This one also feels damn comfortable.  It’s a face massager to make fats disappear and face smaller!  It warms up when turned on and you rub it on your jaw/cheeks.


This was the Mobile Beauty station.  Tiny devices that you can bring ‘on the go’ for everything from nails to eyelashes to shavers.


Electric nail file! Also buffs nails. D:


Eyebrow trimmer!


Lemme try! #kiasuauntie

CIMG2894I had a lot of fun learning about all these new products.  May look very bimbo but it wasn’t! Cos we got the chance to learn about all the new products and technology Panasonic has invested in furthering the beauty industry.

Thanks Panasonic for having us!

You can see their Facebook or their website for more info on Panasonic Beauty.


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What’s it like to be married to an entrepreneur?

When Fatty came home after a long day at work, and we’d spent dinner and half the night dissecting his day, he asked me this.

So that actually got me thinking.  A lot of people have a certain impression of entrepreneurship which may or may not be true…

Like this wtf.

Hahahaha. I’m not sure how much of the above picture is accurate la but while there is some accuracy, there are also misconceptions.

So although I only have limited experience (being married to only ONE entrepreneur wtf), I thought it’d be an interesting topic to write about.  Keep in mind that due to my limited experience wtf that this is not “what it’s like being married to all entrepreneurs” but more “what it’s like being married to this entrepreneur”.

1. It’s not all glamness

I remember writing a post about “rich kids” and getting a lot of shit from haters spitting that I’m just sitting around on my flat ass leeching off my husband’s wealth lolol.  And even people who mean well and some friends think that I got the life – being a ‘tai tai’ who doesn’t need to work and wonder why I choose to.

And then on Fatty’s end he gets put on ‘Top 10 Young Malaysian Internet Millionaires’ lists and nonsense like that.  Wah I type all this also feel very geli cos it sounds like bragging. -_-

And the truth is, yes we do live a very comfortable life.  We don’t struggle financially and we can afford whatever we need, plus some extra luxuries like overseas trips… or a Stokke high chair for Fighter wtf.

We also get invites to the happening parties (but turn down most to stay at home and party with Fighter wtf).  Fatty regularly appears in the media and I also sometimes make it too (yay wtf) so wah everyone thinks our lives look so nice and glam and perfect.

But here’s the other side of the coin (no pun intended).

2. Entrepreneurs never stop working

I don’t remember a single holiday we’ve been on… that Fatty didn’t at least once pick up his phone or laptop and do some work.  Whether it’s short trips back to Penang or month long trips to the US, he consistently gets in touch with the office and… just works.

It’s not even that people are asking him to jump in, but he just automatically checks his email and cannot resist getting in to make sure everything is all right at least.  No reason other than… I don’t think he wants to be a workaholic… but his work is his baby (besides Fighter wtf).

As a paid employee I definitely have much less trouble letting go of work while on vacation.

3. A bigger burden on shoulders

Someone working in a company may have to look after his or her team, but when it comes down to it, you really only have yourself to watch out for.  (I don’t mean managing directors or CEOs who are technically responsible for the whole company even if they aren’t business owners.)  You only have to answer to your boss and if you make a mistake, worst case scenario is you get fired.  You’ll be down for a while but eventually you get up and move to a new job.

As an entrepreneur, if you make a serious enough mistake, not only you, but all your employees may well lose their jobs too.  Because of that, they can experience a lot of self doubt.  It’s true that if entrepreneurs make it big, they can make it huge, but failure can be crippling.  Your responsibility is not only toward your boss and company, but to all your employees and their families.  And instead of losing a job, you lose everything you’ve invested and built over the years in one stroke.

And it may not even be your fault!  The world, especially the digital industry changes so fast.  A kickass competitor comes in, or products and businesses become irrelevant overnight… then how?

Fatty definitely feels the burden.  So many sleepless nights turning over work problems in his head.  When he was a few years younger he’d break out in horrible acne whenever he was stressed and at one point he was even prematurely graying. D:

4. Work flexibility

Fatty doesn’t have a fixed daily job scope so he doesn’t have a true 9-5 job.  Based on what he tells me he does different things and fights different fires every day so I’m guessing it’s an interesting (if harried) life.  Based on that, and also cos he’s his own boss, he gets to take off days whenever he wants and goes on long holidays sometimes.  Although this is all negated cos he’ll work on holiday anyway wtf and he also takes calls and emails on most weekends. :X

5. Ethics come into play more than ever

I never thought about ethics as much as I have these past few years, being married to him.  Being his own boss means he gets to make all the rules and decisions.  What’s there to stop him from screwing everyone else over? Nothing but his ethics and integrity.  (Again, not talking about criminal breaches here la cos obviously the law would be the impediment).

We’ve heard of Internet companies (even local ones and in the region) running scams and cheating people (maybe cos the Internet is still a newish ungoverned frontier…?) don’t wanna say names la wtf but like… delaying payments… charging clients but not paying the influencers… concealing or faking info and results….  But I’m very proud of my Fatty for always trying to do the right thing.  Not just about doing the ethical, lawful thing, but even going out of his way to be honorable; to be as fair as he can and to keep to his word even though the other party doesn’t deserve it.

6. Business is personal

In our early dating days, Fatty’s temper used to be much worse. o_O.  He’s actually mellowed down a lot, but in the early days every problem or obstacle to his business was a personal affront to him.  He told me, “business is personal” but I did not see why he had to get so angry at an unscrupulous competitor or a vengeful ex-staff.

But over time as he mellowed I also started to understand his heart ache.  And all these things really do affect him emotionally!

The thing with Fatty is he always goes out of his way to help, if he can.  Even if he doesn’t know the person well.  Which is something that baffled me cos I think I’m a pretty nice person wtf but I don’t always think of extending help.  So when people return kindness with meanness, it hits him hard although I think he’s slowly getting numb to it wtf.

Try as you might to do the right thing, the fair thing, there will always be someone who doesn’t see it and tries to create trouble.  Or someone who tramples over you to get their own way although you’ve given them the best you can.  I know he has sincerely tried to do his best, not just ethically but morally so I get super furious, sometimes angrier than him when someone takes advantage of that or betrays him.

I haven’t seen as much of human nature as I have through his work and it’s disillusioned me a fair bit. :( Why do we try to do the right thing when everyone else isn’t? :( But as long as our consciences are clear that has to be enough.

So I guess this article is an insight into what happens behind the scenes with an entrepreneur (written from a wife’s POV of course).  If you make it, the perks are fabulous, sure.  You not only make money, you build a legacy.  But people rarely see the price that has to be paid sometimes for achievements.  Managing and growing a business can really take a toll on your peace of mind, stress levels and even your principles.

How it affects me personally?

Oooh I forgot about that wtf.  Obviously Fatty bears the brunt of it, not me.  How it affects me is that… I do worry about his health la every day so stressful.

Younger, I used to think that it doesn’t have to be the husband working and the wife managing the household.  Wives also work what, why must she be the one cooking and taking care of the kids? Why husband cannot cook and wash clothes?  Now I still believe in that, but I also believe in the importance of equality in a relationship.  Equality doesn’t necessarily mean both must do whatever the other is doing, but it’s doing your share in a marriage.

I’ve resigned myself that I’ll never make as much money as Fatty wtf (as long as he’s in business and doing well la) and he’s bearing the financial burden of our family.  So since I cannot compete with that, I try to manage everything household related, Fighter related, even playing responsible landlord to our tenant.  At least Fatty has the peace of mind that everything else is taken care of.

So that’s how it’s affected me – it’s changed my mindset.  Is that un-feminist of me? I dunno, maybe.  But I haven’t had to sacrifice my own (blogging) career or ambitions or time with my child, so.. no? What seems more un-feminist to me is being a princess and going along for the free ride.





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