I wanted to write this story because I think it’s important. It’s not an easy story for me to tell because I have a lot of guilt and sadness about it, but it needs to be penned down.
So a week ago, last Sunday, Penny came down with a fever. The next day she complained of a sore throat. One of her classmates was confirmed with Hand, Foot and Mouth Disease (HFMD) on Thursday, so I feared the worst. I kept her from school on Monday and took her to the doctor, who, sure enough, detected sores in her throat. She did have HFMD.
HFMD symptoms include, fever, loss of appetite, feeling unwell, and the infamous spots or blisters on hands, feet, sometimes the butt and genitals, and sores in the mouth. The sores can be very painful and can stop a child from eating.
HFMD can be very contagious, especially among siblings, and especially among kids like Fighter and Penny, who play together every waking second, and regularly sneeze and (accidentally) spit at each other. So I made the decision to send Fighter to my parents’ house where he would be safe from catching anything.
The next three days were a downward spiral. Penny’s fever went away after a day, but she developed sores in her throat and on her tongue. Tiny red spots also appeared on her feet and her butt, but luckily none of these grew much bigger and they never turned into blisters. The first two days she accepted some ice cream but not much else. On Wednesday morning though after missing dinner and her milk the night before, she drank two cups of cold milk and with a lot of coaxing, ate a bowl of porridge. The worst was over, I thought. I promised her that when she was all better, I would take her out for Mcdonald’s french fries hahahaha (her favorite food in the world) and buy her this Frozen Lego set she’d been wanting for ages.
In the afternoon though, she stopped consuming anything, even water. She was so sad and moody that I was at my wits’ end. To cheer her up, I strapped her into her stroller and took her to Toys’r’us. We went straight to the Disney Princess aisle where she suddenly changed her mind and picked a Cinderella castle instead wtf. I tried to bribe her to drink some water with the Cinderella castle but she continued to refuse.
By 7 pm, she had also refused any dinner, porridge, ice cream, frozen yogurt, Vitagen, Milo, soda, any kind of liquid actually. She didn’t even want milk which in normal circumstances is her vice wtf. It occurred to me that the night before, her diaper was completely dry, and during the day, she had only peed once. The milk and porridge she had that morning? They were the only things she’d consumed in 36 hours. By now, she had even stopped swallowing her saliva, instead keeping it in her mouth until we made her spit it out.
That night, terrified she was dehydrated, I rushed her to the emergency room. We ended up admitting her and putting her on an IV drip. We stayed there for two nights and the entire time she was spitting up in a cup wtf. Even spitting hurt her and she’d cry on and off until her eyes were swollen.
She still didn’t eat but at least she was on the drip. On the final morning, she finally drank apple juice, and best of all, she stopped spitting out her saliva!
Two things happened though that I want to mention.
The first was, I posted this photo on Instagram because I was so happy I could cheer her up even for a while.
I didn’t expect to get comments and DMs criticizing me for bringing out a contagious child.
The truth is, I did thinkabout it before taking her out.
But the thing about my decisions when it comes to happiness vs small health risk, I tend to choose happiness. If something makes myself or others happy and there’s what I see as small potential risk to myself or others, I do it anyway. I operate on a ‘Life is too short to worry too much’ mentality I guess, which others might see as recklessness or impulsiveness.
When we were trying to conceive, I visited Japan anyway, after the Fukushima incident when South East Asia was still awash with rumors of stillborn babies, and everyone was canceling their trips. Because I love Japan, and I’d read up about the effects and judged it to be minimal risk. I ate foie gras in my pregnancy before Fatty and I realized foie gras is supposed to be off limits, and then I ate the last spoonful anyway. I don’t mind letting my kids have play dates with kids with colds because I figure that while falling sick is a possibility, it is temporary, while them being happy and making good memories is a sure thing. That’s worth the risk to me.
So that’s how my decision to take Penny out came about. My reasoning was five minutes in a store couldn’t hurt anyone, not when she’s strapped in her own stroller. I knew she wouldn’t be touching anything, or interacting with anyone, and I didn’t give her anything from the store to hold; the only thing she touched was the toy we’d picked. I saw it as a chance to cheer my sick child up against the potential risk of passing her germs to someone else, and given all the precautions I’d taken, I calculated it as a minimal risk.
I read through all the messages reproaching me. At first I was offended and thought they were being irrational. But after that I saw they had a point. Even though I don’t regret trying to make Penny happy, I respect their point of view; I admit that I could have handled it differently.
So I posted this as a response.
At that point I was still in the hospital so I didn’t give much thought to it further. I was surprised to see the responses. Some people thanked me, a lot of people told me they didn’t see anything wrong with what I did/they’d do the same. Yet others continued to berate me.
This was one of those. Nice hor. After people come out and admit their mistake, this person still wanted to… I dunno, derive more satisfaction by stepping on me further? My answer was damn rude cos this was the nth message I’d gotten in this vein already.
Another one. I was really angry and upset at this point. There were people leaving snide comments like “Penny must have contracted hfmd from a child who has a parent with the same mentality as you.”
Actually no. She got it from her classmate whose first symptom was fever after their school trip to the zoo. His mom immediately kept him home, so Penny must have caught it from him when he was asymptomatic. Great job making judgments on other moms who are not even me, the person you’re targeting. And good luck teaching your toddlers not to be judgmental. Actions speak louder than words.
The worst comment though is one I’d deleted so I can’t post it here. I can’t remember her username but her name was Liz. In response to my apology post, she wrote something along the lines of “it’s attitudes like yours that cause Malaysia’s endless outbreaks of HFMD”. I clicked on her profile and yep, she’s Singaporean.
Right. Her country so good leh. As if Singapore doesn’t get any influenza or HFMD outbreaks? In fact, I often hear about HFMD and influenza swirling around Singapore before hearing of its arrival in Malaysia. Every damn country deals with rampant cases, even Australia and UK – Suet’s baby nephew in the UK just caught HFMD days after Penny. She basically summed up my mistake and equated it to my entire country. Liz from Singapore, message for you: get your head out of your supercilious ass.
I was so angry. There were way more nice and understanding messages, but I got worked up over the nasty ones cos I was at a really low point then. We were still in the hospital, Penny still wasn’t eating or drinking, and she was asking to spit up in a cup every two minutes. I was sanitizing my hands like crazy cos she was drooling over me, my tshirt and my face wtf. And the pain was worse at night so she woke up crying every hour for the two nights we were there.
Oh ya and this week, we discovered fleas in our house again wtf. So in addition to worrying about Penny, and Fighter away at grandma’s, I also had to worry about the fleas taking over our household. And then this.
On Friday, the doctor told us Penny was well enough and could be discharged. It was also the day Fatty scheduled a house fumigation, to bomb the fleas. The fumes are obviously poisonous, so nobody could come home until the evening about 5/6 pm. At our usual hospital, discharging takes a few hours so I thought by the time we were done would be good timing to go home.
But suddenly this hospital damn efficient and we were discharged by 12 pm wtf. I delayed a bit by telling the nurse we had to wait for our ride home, and then lunch came so I ate some and tried to feed Penny. We ended up leaving at 1.30 pm and from there, I decided to wait it out at the kids’ playroom in Colony @ Eco City, since it’s much quieter there than Colony @ KLCC or say, a cafe or restaurant.
I called up Patricia, our Eco City community manager who told me nobody was currently using the room, and maybe someone uses it on average once a week. I told her we needed to prepare cleaning supplies to disinfect the room after we leave.
When I got there, to Pat’s credit, she’d already prepared disinfectants – Dettol and Clorox and antibacterial wipes. When we left two hours later, she stripped the bedding in the little play house we have and sent that to laundry. Then the Eco City team and our cleaners immediately got to work airing the room, and wiping down the surfaces and toys. It was also Friday evening, and it was unlikely anyone would come in on the weekend, but I asked Patricia to tell our clients to try not to use the room during the weekend, at least not until we had sanitized it and let it air for a couple of days.
However, one of our clients saw I was there with Penny and filed a complaint. To be honest, I was very angry and upset when I heard. I didn’t intentionally come to the office to terrorize people, I just had nowhere to go. And we took utmost precautions, doing everything needed to sanitize the space. Why was Penny being treated like a leper wtf.
But I’ve calmed down since. To be fair to that client who complained, she didn’t know that we already had an action plan and were working on it, so I can understand why she kicked up a fuss.
But to be fair to me, maybe we should all take a step back next time instead of judging a fellow mother who’s already doing her best?
Penny has made a complete recovery. 🙂 But this is what I wanted to write about:
Without knowing her or her actions, there were people judging Penny’s friend’s mom for letting her kid pass the illness to Penny. People, these things happen. I don’t blame her at all, so why should you?
And after I apologized, people continued to pass judgment on me and criticize me. Why though? Did it make you feel good to sit on your pedestal and lecture me after I’d admitted my mistake? Do you feel like a more superior parent when you compare yourself to me? Was it so important for your two cents to be known when we are already so down?
And people weren’t even thinking logically. The HFMD virus is not airborne so while it may cling to surfaces, it will not float around in the air waiting to attach itself to your throat. It is spread by direct contact with nasal or throat secretions, or poop. But the way people were behaving, it might as well have been smallpox (which IS airborne). Or ebola. I’m not saying don’t be careful, I’m saying exercise your judgment and Google, and don’t give way to paranoia.
We’ve all been there – sick kids are exhausting, worrisome and heart wrenching. As parents, loved ones and guardians of children, we all know how painful it can be. We at least have that in common. So maybe next time we should remember exactly that – we’re all in the same boat, raising our kids day in day out, and trying to do the best by them. Nobody is perfect and we may make mistakes. Yes, we can point those out, but when we do, maybe we should have a little less judgment and a little more kindness and empathy for someone else struggling as much as you.
To those who messaged with support and understanding. Thank you. Reading your messages really cheered me up this bad week. 🙂
So yesterday I dragged my parents, Fatty and the kids to the bookstore.
Not just any bookstore. I’d heard about this independent bookstore for a while now and wanted to go check it out! You don’t get many of these in Malaysia; our bookshops are all chain stores, and secondly, Malaysians don’t read all that much wtf. So while I love the big book chains, their selection can be quite typical (with the exception of Kinokuniya), and I wanted to explore what other books were out there.
So this bookstore is owned by what looks like a huge bibliophile and his lovely wife! I heard that he curates books based on what he thinks are good and I always love me a good recommendation wtf. Also, I follow their Instagram and their books are gorgeous! Suet told me that he chooses the prettiest covers he can find for his books too so I was damn excited la ok.
Here’s the children’s corner of the store. It’s not a big store and the kids section is just this one shelf but the books are beautifully curated.
Fat Her Ooi and I went a bit mad in there hahahahah. There were so many pretty and interesting looking books!
I paced myself through every section of the bookstore and must have scrutinized a hundred books, while Fat Her Ooi flitted about the shelves. Even Fatty who can be very selective about his choices, was engrossed; Fatty parked himself on a stool and started reading already wtf.
Meanwhile, Mummy Ooi entertained the two critters by reading them children’s books and at one point, they were drawing on scraps of paper the owner had given them.
Fat Her joined them occasionally while I continued to browse. The store owner and wife would also chat with us and recommend reads. It was a very enjoyable afternoon!
Towards the end, we made our choices and paid. When we were waving goodbye, Fighter waved a sheaf of papers at the store owner. “Look! I wrote this,” he said importantly. (He’d been practicing writing Chinese characters which he’s recently obsessed with wtf.)
Like any self-respecting friendly adult, the owner oohed and aahed over his writing. Penny, not to be outdone, brandished her sheaf of papers. “Yook at mine! Gwandpa dwaw for me!” (Cos she doesn’t really know how to draw yet, she’d made grandpa draw her a bunch of stuff which she colored.)
First, the owner saw a picture of a pink flower which she’d colored. “Oooh, very nice picture!” He smiled at her.
Then out of the corner of his eye, he spotted another piece of paper that she was waving furiously.
It was this WTF.
Fat Her Ooi’s signature – he drew this for me and Ooib even when we were kids wtf. He damn pro at it some more the way he draw, sure and bold lines that delivered the picture in the least strokes necessary. HAHAHAHAHAHA.
We all saw the picture at the same time. I nearly bust a vein trying not to laugh. I didn’t dare to look at the owner at all! Fat Her brightly said, “whoops.”
There was silence. The store owner, probably unused to such pictures, stammered, “Oh. Er. That’s a very nice picture… It looks like a….”
At this point he gave up trying to say anything nice about it HAHAHAHAH. Awkward silence before we all said, “OK then see you next time bye!”
HAHAHAHAHHAHA SERIOUSLY. I DON’T KNOW WHY OUT OF ALL PICTURES MY DAD DECIDED TO DRAW THIS ONE WTF. IS IT HE DON’T EVER WANT TO COME BACK TO THIS BOOKSTORE AGAIN HAHAHAHAHA. ONE DAY LATER EVEN WITH PENNY DOWN WITH HFMD, I’M STILL LAUGHING GUYS. HAHAHAHAHA.
And that my friends, is yet another Funny Fat Her Story.
Another long overdue update!
The days rush by so quickly they nearly collide with each other and day to day I can’t even remember what I’ve been doing with my time. T___T I feel like my whole life is gonna rush by and Imma be a grandma by the time I know it and I won’t even remember what happened wtf.
So I’m forcing myself to update more! Some of these you guys have probably seen on my Instagram but whatever, read again WTF.
Fighter turned five! Yay! For months he requested a birthday party at the trampoline park so Mom the Genie made it happen wtf.
Current obsession: buildings and cities! So for his cake, we put a bunch of famous tall buildings on it: the Petronas Twin Towers, Oriental Pearl Tower in Shanghai (his favorite wtf), the Eiffel Tower, the Shard, Burj Khalifa, and Lotte Tower in Seoul.
Totally winning mom points here.
Did a celebration in school too! Here’s him with all the girls. And SY whom he calls his future wife next to him. :X Lolol.
Building cupcakes! Guess the iconic buildings wtf.
See. Draw them together some more hahahaha. (The Chinese words no meaning one he just likes writing random Chinese words)
Fighter also started Korean lessons! He’s been bugging me since last year okay and like any sane mom I ignored him WTF. Cos he was four and I didn’t know if he was serious. His Kpop and Korean obsession lasted longer than my mind though and since he’s asking a year later, I found a tutor that comes to our house.
He’s already learning Mandarin and Malay in school in addition to English so I don’t really want to burden him further. So his lessons are very fun! They basically either listen to Kpop and discuss the lyrics, or have conversations where the teacher translates concepts and phrases for him in Korean.
Us at Riuh the last round.
Oh er here’s me being all business like wtf.
I gave my first ever talk on “entrepreneurship” at a JCI event! I was super reluctant to do it initially cos hello Fatty is the universally identified entrepreneur not me. But I also wanted to push myself la and open the doors for more female entrepreneurs in Malaysia?
In the end I spoke about not the usual trials and tribulations of being an entrepreneur, cos honestly I’m involved in the creative side of Colony only, but about what I learned so far. ^^
We launched Colony @ Eco City !! I already wrote a blog post about it so not gonna elaborate but these are some of my favorite people who came to support! <3 Disclaimer: got others just not in this photo. Hahahah.
Made new friends!
The kids at Colony @ Eco City.
Milestone: Got suited up in my special furry bathrobe, Olaplex in my hair and cling wrap on my head, when the buyer that was coming to my house to buy something from me called WTF. So I had to go down and see her like this, plus an army print jacket I threw on for modesty.
Her boyfriend was there too. FML.
Took the kids to the Mini Zoo at Menara KL one day! Penny loves bunnies and kitties #clichedchild
I was more interested in feeding the raccoons. Okay fine, getting a nice picture of us feeding the raccoons.
Celebrated Wei Zhi’s #littlestar at her baby shower! She also damn unfair lo super pretty and not bloated during pregnancy one. *stares at old preggers photos of self
Just a pretty girl cycling wtf.
And a handsome boy.
I’ve been fairly domesticated recently! Baked like five batches of oatmeal raisin cookies for a bake sale that Penny’s school had. For charity wtf.
So anyway the story is, these oatmeal raisin cookies are really yummy! They’re chewy and I reduced the sugar by more than half so considered healthy la (actually cos I don’t like overly sweet food wtf). So I baked and packed the cookies into little bags for sale. Fighter and Fatty love the cookies so I even had to hit their hands to stop them from eating too many later got nothing to sell wtf.
So put in a lot of work la right. But nobody bought them WTF. Maybe because they look like bits of dried diarrhea la *honest. And worse, Fighter was the only one who wanted to buy my cookies.
So basically. I bought the ingredients and packing bags. Baked and packed everything. And had to then repurchase my own cookies for an inflated price to give my son. FML.
Got a Philips Instant Pot too and I love it!
I’ve been trying to cook more so the kids will think of my food when I’m dead wtf. I’ve been making lots of one pot recipes because lazy wtf. One thing at a time yo. This is claypot chicken rice.
This is our weekly batch of chicken stock. Every week I buy a whole kampung chicken and boil chicken stock out if it. I freeze the stock and use it over the week in cooking.
For chicken stock, I add onions, celery and carrots.
Honey soy chicken which was a big hit!
Garlic bread – also very popular!
Green curry, which was not wtf. I followed recipe but I don’t know what I did wrong la – my green curry tasted like spicy milk HAHAHAHA.
The kids investigating a bunch of ants carrying a dead bee to their nest. 😐
Fighter’s drawing of…. mountains. *unsure
Penny had her first sports day! She wasn’t too excited wtf.
Took a weeklong trip to Singapore! That tired ah Fighter wtf. This was in MBS after a visit to the Art Science Museum.
They had these projections where you could color in objects, scan your picture and have it be broadcast on the walls in video form.
Here’s Penny with her red building.
Nice art, Penny. LOL.
Fighter’s one is the yellow building with the red roof.
And us playing with light boxes.
*takes deep breath* Hahahahahahha.
One afternoon, this Anna suddenly ran up to me…. and zipped down my shorts WTF. She managed to kiap the skin of my waist in the zipper (you know la loose skin from pregnancy and all wtf) and I couldn’t help it; I screamed. She got a shock cos I’ve never been this loud before I guess, and burst into tears. Then end up cringing in pain, I still had to comfort her. FML ahahahaha.
At Colony, outside we have these frog statues. One day when the kids were there, Penny happened to walk past these statues. She did a double take, then went back to pai pai the statue cos she thought the frogs were praying to her HAHAHAHA.
A lot of people have been asking me about updates on Fighter’s growth so here it is!
Last week I took him for his quarterly checkup with his doctor. A lot of people have also asked so I don’t see any harm putting it here. His doctor is Dr Wu, from UKM. She’s a pediatric endocrinologist so she specializes in precisely that – children’s growth.
Fighter has been seeing her for about a year, and we go back to her for checkups every 3 months or so. She monitors his height and weight, and Fighter has also done an X-ray to check his bone age.
From Wikipedia: Bone age is the degree of maturation of a child’s bones. As a person grows from fetal life through childhood, puberty, and finishes growth as a young adult, the bones of the skeleton change in size and shape. These changes can be seen by x-ray.
Fighter has just turned five, but his bone age is two years WTF. Dr Wu assured me that bone age can be used as a rough reference but not an exact indication of anything. And with his bone age so young, it just means that his skeletal maturation is younger than other kids his age. He might reach puberty slower (which is fine by me since most things about him also late bloomer) and might reach full height at an older age. Also fine with me!
This is Fighter’s growth chart for weight. He is still below zero percentile lolol. But the encouraging thing is that while he’s below the chart, his weight is still following the slope of it. He’s not plateauing or falling off the chart!
At five years old, he’s 14.3 kg.
This is his height chart, Again, he’s below zero percentile. And again while below, his growth is also following the average height incline. :))) He’s 98 cm now.
In one year, he’s charted a growth of 5.6 cm. The average growth for a child his age i s 6-7 cm. So he’s actually not too far off the average either!
The main reason we’re monitoring his growth so closely is to check for any drop offs in his progress. Any plateauing could indicate a lack of growth hormone but so far he’s been growing steadily, so which rules that out. It’s likely because he was born so small and premature, plus the Ooi genes wtf.
If his problem was not enough growth hormone, the logical treatment would be hormone injections. We’d essentially inject the growth hormones he needs into him on a daily basis until he’s fully grown.
But since he’s not, there’s nothing to do but monitor him. Everyone is meant to grow to a certain height range, and neither nutrition nor hormone jabs will push a kid much further beyond their range, if the child does not lack growth hormones. And hormone jabs do come with side effects; the doctor said cancer or diabetes. And if I were to choose treatment, we would have to regularly test Fighter and monitor him for symptoms of either disease. T________T
Lastly, Dr Wu told me Fighter doesn’t seem to have any hormone deficiency, but we should keep monitoring him, which I am happy to. He’s come a long way from being a 1.1 kg 31 weeker preemie! And that she does not recommend any treatment for him, unless a drastic change occurs.
I am writing this because I get so many people sliding into my DMs about this. Parents who are worried about their children being small, but when I ask what percentile they are for height, they tell me 40% or 25% or some very normal figure like that. Parents, 40% or 25% does not mean they are small. It means they are normal. They’re still perfectly within the normal range!
I brought Fighter because since he was born, he has always been below 0%. *heaves*
As for people who are not parents who like to message me and tell me I should totally start treatment for Fighter because they hate being short and they wished their parents did it for them. Or that if they were a parent with a small child, they would totally do it for them.
Really? You would willingly inject yourself every single fucking day of your life until you turn eighteen? Poke a child with a needle every day and watch them cry? For results that may not even make a difference since they don’t lack growth hormones? And deal with the possible side effects of increased risk of cancer and diabetes?
Okay. You do you wtf.
I get tons of these messages and it really pisses me off wtf. But I’ve remained calm up till now cos I don’t think many people know what the treatment really entails, the potential outcome, and the side effects. So here you are. I hope I write this already no turd messages me again and tries to tell me what to do with my son’s body wtf.
Anyway I’m pretty optimistic about Fighter’s progress la. Even though he’s small, he’s growing steadily at his own pace. He’s still taller than Penny hahaha. He will most likely reach a range of 155-165 cm, which is average or slightly below average for an Asian man. Okay what! My fear was that he would be 146 cm only (which translates to four feet nine inches wtf). I’m perfectly satisfied with his projected potential.
And ever since he met his good friend/girlfriend SY, who’s shorter than him, he seems perfectly comfortable being small. Lolol. He hasn’t said anything about being small anymore and seems to be quite content being treated and loved like a younger brother by his classmates wtf.
I only want him to grow up well. :))))
I actually did a search on my old blog posts (wow am I prolific blogger or what) and realized that I never wrote about Fighter and constipation and the reason why I switched the whole family to Mamil.
Fighter has had a problematic stomach ever since he was born until today. Exactly like the mother -_-
He had no problem when he was solely breastfed. It was when solids were introduced that the problems started. *cymbals clash*
I started him on veggie and fruit purees and almost immediately, he got constipated. -_- I assume it was partly cos of solids itself, and partly cos the purees he always wanted was apple and banana.
From then on he struggled on and off with constipation.
No matter how much fruits and vegetables he took, or how much water, every so often he’d go for days without pooping. When he finally managed to go, the poo would be the size of a monster and frequently streaked with blood. T___T And he’d cry and cry cos hello who wouldn’t!?
Most of the time though, he just wouldn’t be able to go on his own and I used Lactulose so often that I was super familiar with it. At one point on doctor’s advice, I had him on daily Lactulose for a month. O_O (Lactulose is a type of sugar that helps the stool absorb water so it’s easier pushed out.)
Sometimes the case was too extreme for even Lactulose. Then I had to resort to suppositories, which are the worst. It’s instant relief but the problem is holding him down screaming while I stuff a wax pill up his butt. T____T It was traumatic for me, what more for him.
I must have written about it on social media because I remember followers telling me to try Mamil. And I happened to see Google Ads about Mamil too! But it seemed too good to be true – milk can help with constipation yau mou. Lolol.
Then one fateful day, Mamil approached me to collaborate. I was still skeptical honestly, but they gave me a couple of cans to try.
Fighter’s constipation pretty much cleared up after that. (!!!!!!)
That’s why I continued to collaborate with Mamil. I even worked on a brand video with them last year! With Penny, I put her on Mamil immediately too without considering any other brand. As a family, we’ve had no constipation problems since that dark, dark period in Fighter’s early years.
Last week, I attended a talk organized by Mamil about gut health.
Hi guys wtf.
A doctor and a nutritionist headed the talk so it was actually pretty interesting and I learned a lot about gut health! Gut health is actually pretty important cos besides say our lungs and skin, it’s the body’s first point of contact with the outside world; anything you consume will go into your stomach, so your gut is essentially your first line of defense against outside pathogens.
Anyway um…. if you don’t want to see graphic pictures you might want to skip this next photo.
IS YOUR POOP NORMAL?
Seriously this chart is my bible now. T3T Type 3 and 4 are normal, the others are not.
Constipation happens when poop gets stuck in the big intestine and blocks up the passageway. The longer it stays there, the more water it loses and the harder it gets.
And as is general knowledge, constipation happens for a variety of reasons: not enough water, not enough fiber, slow movement through the digestive system, etc.
Fighter was too young to tell me so I don’t know if he was actively holding his poop back or not when he had constipation! But it is totally possible. D:
How to improve stool quality for easier pooping. Common sense la – water and veggies and fruits. But yep, also probiotics and prebiotics.
Everyone knows what probiotics are but what about prebiotics? Honestly I had no idea until I went for this talk lolol. My phone would auto correct ‘probiotics’ to ‘prebiotics’ and I thought prebiotics was just a made up word LOL.
But it is not! If probiotics are the good bacteria that help in gut health and immunity, prebiotics are the food that probiotics eat to multiply and grow. ^^ So we need both probiotics and prebiotics to maintain good gut health.
Prebiotics can be found in fruits and vegetables, or supplemented beverages.
Besides stimulating the growth of Probiotics, prebiotics act as a fiber to promote peristalsis (the movement of intestines to push food on its way), and soften poo.
Main prebiotic types are FOS, GOS and Inulin. I didn’t know Lactulose was a prebiotic until now!
Here are some of the common food sources of prebiotics. That’s why it’s important for your kids (and you) to have a balanced diet. *nags*
Mamil is fortified with probiotics AND prebiotics – GOS/IcFOS which is all the important prebiotics I mentioned earlier.
I think my kids eat a pretty balanced diet as it is, but maybe not enough good bacteria still. I think I tend to underemphasize rather than exaggerate, so I’m being completely honest when I say that Mamil really helped my kids with their constipation. T____T
Mamil cited a survey that said 9/10 of moms vouch for Mamil and I’m one of them for sure hahaha.
The problem is, nearly a year ago, Fighter actually switched to fresh milk supplemented by two scoops of another formula brand that’s associated with weight gain. A doctor suggested doing that to help with his growth. Meanwhile, Penny is firmly still on Mamil.
I didn’t notice it right away, but now Fighter’s poop fluctuates. Sometimes it’s normal, but sometimes it’s type 5 or type 2 (not normal). And sometimes he gets stomach pains and poops up to three times a day wtf. He didn’t have this problem and I suspect it’s cos his prebiotics intake has decreased cos he switched milks.
He overheard me talking about this and asked me to buy him Mamil lolol. I will probably do that when we finish our current supply actually.
With the Mamil peeps and experts. Thank you for saving us lots of pain and crying. T______T
This post was written in collaboration with Mamil.
Imma be up front about this. This is a collaborative post with Medklinn. I’ve heard the name Medklinn around for years but I actually didn’t know what they are or what they do. Well today let me tell you wtf.
When Medklinn first approached me to collaborate, I thought oh ok they sell air purifiers. I was all like nuh uh bro cos I already have three air filters in the house and I don’t need anymore.
But here comes the revelation *jeng jeng jeng*…. Medklinn is NOT an air purifier.
It’s an air + surface sterilizer.
An ordinary air purifier sucks in air, pushes it through their filter system, purifies it, and blows it out again. For best use, you will need to change the filters regularly – the carbon filters and the HEPA filters and the like. Which uhhh I have not been doing. :/ Changing filters is never on my mind and sometimes I keep the same filter for years which is worse cos the filters are basically grimy with dirt and germs and air is basically passed through it and pushed out again, dirtier than before.
Medklinn does not take in dirty air to be cleaned. (omg now I put it this way normal air purifiers sound like a special laundry service for air lolol *nerd*) Medklinn instead produces and emits something called Active Oxygen which neutralizes harmful particles and microorganisms in the air.
Active Oxygen is produced naturally in nature, through phenomena such as photosynthesis, moving water, UV rays, and thunderstorms. Using a special technology called Cerafusion, Medklinn units produce Active Oxygen to sterilize the air and surfaces in our homes and offices.
Active Oxygen is basically ozone, and negative ions like of O3 and O- . These molecules work in a few ways: by destroying harmful pollutants like viruses, bacteria, allergens and moulds, and by binding airborne particles like dust and spores together, causing them to fall to the surface.
Active Oxygen also oxidizes Volatile Organic Compounds (VOCs) like formaldehyde, a cancer causing chemical. In the same way, it eliminates bad household smells from cigarettes, food, or pets.
Because Active Oxygen directly destroys and neutralizes all this nasty stuff, it also ends up cleaning any pollutants and allergens that are found on our surfaces – beds, tables, chairs etc., not just filtering the air.
Medklinn gifted me two units, which I’ve placed in my bedroom, and Fighter’s room for the past month. I thought that way would be the easiest to see results, since I have horrible sinus issues and Fighter gets so many colds and wheezing and running noses we worry he’ll develop asthma.
We were actually going for a two week trial period but I asked for a month to really test the efficacy of the products. I leave it on 24/7 and try not to open the windows, to keep the Active Oxygen in and pollutants out. It’s best to shut windows and doors for the best performance and to monitor results.
This is what it looks like. When it’s on, it emits a very slight buzzing sound that is not intrusive at all. There’s also a very distinctive ozone smell, which frankly reminds me of Mummy Ooi’s fish tank when I was growing up hahahahah. I don’t mind it.
After turning the Medklinn on, I more or less forgot about it and went on with life wtf. Emily, my blog manager asked me about two weeks into it, how? And I said er no difference la I still have running nose in the mornings and blocked nose at night before I sleep. And the week before, Fighter had a persistent running nose.
This week is the fifth week we’ve had Medklinn at home. I haven’t really had a blocked nose since then, although at night I need to clear my nose before I sleep, but could be due to dust I inhale when I’m outside.
Fighter hasn’t been sick since then. I normally need to use a cotton bud to clean his nose every few nights but his breathing has been clear so far. It could just be a lucky few weeks that he hasn’t encountered any germs, but within this five weeks, Penny has fallen sick twice. Both times with leaky noses and horrible coughs that lasted so long they overlapped. -_-
When one of them falls sick, the other confirm fall sick within days. Like when Fighter kena conjunctivitis, so did Penny within the week. But Fighter stood strong this time. No cross infection. :O
Tomorrow I’m going to move the one in my room to Penny’s room, and see monitor when she next falls sick.
But all in all, I am impressed with Medklinn! It’s so easy to use too; it’s small and portable, and even though it’s switched on 24/7, power consumption is low (less than 6.5watts). Maintenance is minimal; you change the cartridge annually. And no chemicals are involved.
The technology makes sense, and so far, the results are quite evident. With two small children in school, I deal with colds and other infections every few weeks. I myself have never fallen sick so many times in my life cos they keep passing bugs to me too. -_-
Especially with the HFMD scare that’s happening now! If any of them kena (TOUCH WOOD), I hope with our Medklinn, the virus will hopefully be contained and not pass to us la.
If you want to read up yourself about Medklinn, here are some links:
This blog post was written in collaboration with Medklinn.
The last few months have been, to say the least, hectic for me.
We were rushing to finish KL Eco City on time before our official launch party. Then came the launch party and it was a big, busy, rushy (but very fun and awesome must clarify ahem) event.
And then I had a bunch of other stuff to work on. A bunch of blog campaigns featuring blog posts came in. I’m #grateful (lolol inside joke) but the deadlines were all around the same time and I was dying wtf. Then came a bunch of admin stuff: applying for visas for the family and for Dada our helper to go to Australia. Our visas are sap sap sui but Filipino applications come under a lot of scrutiny and there’s a long process to it. T3T
Even tougher was applying for my Canadian visa cos Angela is getting married end of the year! Wah lau have to submit my entire life history like this.
And then, we also started work on the third Colony! Another flurry of drawing plans, artist drawings, and licensing work.
Anyway to cut a long story short, I was bogged down with a lot of work non stop. Normally I can handle but I think the blog deadlines took up any extra time I had left and I was quite exhausted. To make matters worse, I think my kids are two of the clingiest children I’ve ever seen in my circle. -_- Whenever they’re back from school I gotta say bye to any productive time I might hope for wtf.
And then and then. I also made a very last minute decision to switch Penny to Fighter’s school next year, instead of waiting one more year. Mostly cos I’m tired of driving to two different schools back and forth every single day hahahaha. Penny is very independent (when I’m not around wtf) and mature for her age, and I think she’s ready to go to a bigger school like Koko’s. So that was another mad rush – going to the school for a tour and to ask more about the Pre-K class, then preparing the documents for registration.
So I was feeling slightly burnt out. Two Fridays ago I decided to take a break and go have breakfast with a mommy friend while waiting for the kids.
Then this happened wtf.
If only bumpers that fall off work on the same principle as teeth. Got
Tooth Bumper Fairy to come and give me money when my bumper comes off. Hahahahha.
What happened was that there was no parking so I had to ask the valet to park our van for me. He parked on the side of the road and I didn’t know the sidewalk jutted out in front of my car! So when I tried to leave, my bumper tried to stay behind hahahahaha. T____T
That day was another long day for me. The next day, Saturday 8 am was also Penny’s school registration, and like in Fighter’s case, I was prepared that we will have to go line up overnight to register. -_- I thought if I start the queueing at around midnight, I should be safe.
Fatty was away in Taiwan that day and I was so tired. After putting the kids to bed, I thought I’d just order some Mcds delivery and just dinner at home before going over later that night to check out the queue.
At 7.30 pm Sieu Ee called me and told me people are already lining up. T_________T
I wanted to cry already wtf. Cannot even eat my dinner in peace meh. T_____T Resigned, I waited for Mcds to arrive, then grabbed the sack of food and got into the car, a smaller car that I drive if I’m not ferrying the kids.
On the way out, I hit our own front gate WTF. Seriously wtf Aud.
Quite bad leh cos the gate fell off its rails WTF hahahaha. T_____T And the gate paint is all over that dent too wtf.
I really nearly cried then. On one day, I had two accidents. With two different cars. That must be a record right there wtf.
I think I was so tired, I wasn’t really looking and just banged the gate wtf. I’d planned to go for a massage or something after we completed Colony @ Eco City but never got around to it because more things kept cropping up. I wasn’t even sleeping well for a few weeks because at night my to do list kept running through my head and I’d worry about what else I needed to complete.
Immediately after that school registration, Fatty and I took the kids to watch Christopher Robin (Thanks Disney for the premiere tickets!). Through sleep deprived eyes, I saw the movie poster.
Pooh Bear really is on to something. As grown ups we forget that and we fill up our free time with maximum things so we feel “productive” and “useful”.
Well fuck that. I didn’t do nothing and ended up with two car accidents in a day.
Sure we get stuff done, but maybe we would get more done more efficiently if we took a break every now and then. Never underestimating the value of doing nothing again. 😀 You? *threatening look wtf*
So the launch of Colony @ Eco City has come and gone (two weeks ago) and I’m finally getting around to blogging about it! T____T I haven’t really been writing much about it so this post is gonna be it ok hold on to your seats wtf.
We’ve been working on this since last December so it’s been like 7 months in the coming!
This project was quite different from our first one, when honestly I had no idea what I was doing. I thought this would be easier, having gone through it once before. As usual I was wrong. Lol.
The first Colony used to be a serviced office before we took it over. All we had to do really, was renovate and furnish it. Sure, we added facilities and equipment, upgraded the Internet and things like that, but everything was mostly set up already.
For Eco City, we had a completely blank space. Only concrete walls and floor and exposed piping. So we got to work. We first submitted our plans for approval from DBKL and Bomba (City Council and Fire Department)… but first I had to go talk to engineers too for drawing up the plans. My first time dealing with anything like this, but the engineer was so nice he walked me through the entire process, step by step. I understood then, but my sieve-like memory has forgotten some of it now. -_-
After that came the electrical drawings, the plumbing drawings, fire safety drawings, data points, airconditioning, flooring, furnishing….
All these came from our awesome design team ok. I merely nodded and trusted Buddha WTF.
Then came the fun part – design.
When we first secured the space, we were ecstatic – huge floor to ceiling windows, tons of natural light, nice spacious square shape. It even faced a hill which had a river running towards us. #goodfengshui It’s also bigger than our KLCC location and Fatty and I imagined it would be our flagship location.
So since it’s Colony… what theme would be better than a (British) Colonial theme? I have no idea how other designers work but for me, it really helps if I have a strong theme in mind to allude to. Because I like a lot of things wtf and I don’t want to stray off track hahaha. A theme helps remind me and keep me focused I guess.
I usually try to strike a balance between ‘homey’ and ‘comfortable’ and ‘luxurious’ for Colony so I felt this theme matched the purpose as well. Colonial style decoration would be grand enough, yet toned down enough for people to relax in it.
This was our first artist’s impression.
It’s nice! But it looks like The Majestic. Or Fullerton in Singapore. When I thought colonial, I totally forgot that it’s a popular theme for hotels in this region hahaha.
I thought it needed a bit more character, or something to change it up a bit. Working on Colony, I learned that I like contrasts in design, and this design was too straight in getting to its destination. Does that make sense?
I asked, how about adding some unexpected colors? Like pink?
*more poker face*
*puts saline drops in eyes*
I removed the fuchsia and replaced it with pastel pink. And eliminated the Buncho yellow.
Results were much better! We also added a whole bunch of elements traditionally associated with colonial style: a lot of greenery in the form of big leafed plants like banana and palm, blue and white Chinese porcelain, brass fixtures, beautiful old books, and rattan.
And here’s the final result! 🙂
Here’s the cafe area. The cafe in Eco City is run by The Embassy, who have an outlet in Starling Mall too.
We chose a gorgeous dull mint color for the cafe which contrasts so well with the pink! ID was skeptical about too many colors but I love itttttt.
We did marble topped tables for the old school charm and rattan backed chairs.
The lounge area where people can chill, have discussions or hot desk.
The day beds on the right are my pride and joy. T___T I kept thinking in the initial design drafts that the ‘colonialism’ wasn’t coming out strong enough. I’m so glad I saw these canopy beds on Pinterest hahahaha. Cos they really make the space! This pic was taken before the canopies arrived so I might update this later.
Designer customized the beds for seating; I imagined full on beds but these are much better cos I don’t want people to have to put their feet up when they sit down la hahaha can’t be too comfortable wtf.
Details: we put in standing louvers, painted black. When I was Fighter’s age, I lived in my grandparents’ Colonial terrace house in Penang which had louvered windows so this is so nostalgic for me. 🙂
Our throws are cased in mostly botanical prints or animal skin prints. For rugs we used handwoven rattan-like rugs.
Spin behind the cafe a bit. Lockers for our Reserved Desk guests (who don’t have locked drawers for their belongings) are on the left. Straight in front is the kids’ playroom.
The kids’ room includes a nursing room! The cushion is so apt ok. When your nips are bleeding and you’re putting cabbage leaves on your boobs to stop the clog, remember what the cushion says wtf.
Anyway yellow armchair for momma to sit, next to it are appropriate baby supplies – diapers, wet wipes and even nursing pads thoughtfully provided by Applecrumby and Fish. And changing table on the left!
Here’s the playroom! Walls are done in customized wallpaper. Picket fence is there to corrall off screaming and running lolol.
Inside we have a slide, a dolls’ house, and a city scape set up…
And a toy kitchen on the other side. All from Taobao LOL GOOD BUYS LEH. Sorry I don’t know where to get it cos ID got everything.
The highlight is this wtf. There was a little bit of space under the stairs outside so we broke it in and created this little nook. Then Katrine created a house facade around it and filled it with beds, cushions and lots of stuffed animals. I think it’s the critters’ favorite part of Colony actually.
Back out again. Another view of the lounge and Reserved Desks area.
Phone booths are done up in pink! One of my favorite details here.
What a phone booth at Colony @ Eco City looks like.
Inside we have an old fashioned writing desk and chair, with a Persian style rug on hardwood floor. We filled it with cushions, throw blankets and furry to reduce any echoing that could come from phone calls or video conferences. ^^
This nook is our Instagram corner. Hahahah. The pink is a print we got from Shutterstock and blew up LOL. Cos customizing a wallpaper was too expensive wtf. #renohacks
Our conference room. Fits 14 people! Our meeting rooms are always named after famous explorers or trailblazers, so for this Colony, our conference room is called Battuta, for Ibn Battuta.
People who studied sejarah should know la ok hahahaha. One other meeting room is called Murasaki for Lady Murasaki Shikibu, who was a lady in waiting in Japan, and wrote The Tale of Genji, considered the first ever novel in the world! *nerd* And the third is called Armstrong for Neil Armstrong, who was the first man on the moon.
This is our event space. When there are no events, this area will be used for just hanging out or hot desking.
When there are events though, the furniture can be moved around to accommodate the style of event. I tried to choose lighter, individual pieces for easier shifting.
Ooh one of my favorite spots too! We ordered these steamer trunk tables from China and they got lost at sea FML. I was going crazy cos I thought we were gonna launch with no tables but luckily they came in time! I love them so much I got two smaller ones for our bedside tables at home.
Ordered this chair cos I thought it was really unique but now I suddenly see it everywhere. -_-
Here’s the entrance to our private office suites!
Flooring is in black and white tile for a retro feel.
The pictures I chose all also got colonial theme one! We have a lot of old maps, tropical animal portraits and vintage photos of British colonial scenes.
This is a special room, called the Jamestown Suite. Named after one of the first British colonies, it’s a glammed up luxe version of a normal Colony office.
We outfitted it with wallpaper, hardwood floors, a Chesterfield couch, TV screen…
A Marshall speaker, and smart home capabilities. You can basically control the curtains, music, TV and lights with Google Home. ^^ For special clients only hehehe.
I added this pug which is damn random but damn cute ok hahahaha. Apt cos Murasaki in Japanese means purple and his shades got purple there wtf.
The pantry (and a mop).
Nap room which you can book to take a quick break.
I also made a video tour! I shot it while some of our furniture wasn’t even in yet though but just to give you a guys a sense of the place. Also includes Fighter and Penny’s reaction to the kids’ playroom hahaha.
It’s the middle of the year and as every parent of school going children knows, it’s report card dayyyyyyy.
I’m the kind of mom who gets excited over her kids’ progress reports so F my kids’ lives especially if they don’t do well next time hahaha. I walk Penny right in to her classroom and chat with her teachers most days, but Fighter’s school is a lot bigger – every day I just drop him off at the entrance and rush to send Penny to school after that, so I never get to talk to his teachers. Parent teacher chat would be the first time I get to really talk to them!
This year was also interesting because it’s Penny’s first proper year of school so it’s also her first school report ever.
Penny’s progress report
Compared to Fighter I can see Penny is naturally more graceful and athletic la hahaha. But the funny thing was, Teacher told me that when they practiced balancing the ping pong ball, they only noticed how perfectionist Penny is and how determined she is to do things correctly. To her, the whole point was to not drop the ball so she walked unbearably slow. Lol.
Teacher encouraged her to walk faster so she obeyed and ended up dropping her ball and getting mad at the teacher for forcing her to walk faster hahahaha. When she resumed, she walked at her snail’s pace again hahaha.
Not only does Penny understand classroom routines and teacher’s instructions, she is also very good at bossing her friends around and forcing them to obey the teacher WTF. Hahahaha.
It again reinforced how competitive Penny is; she’s memorized the routines so when she knows something is going to happen, she rushes to be the first to line up, receive things, go to the playground, whatever it is she must be first wtf. So much so that the teachers have had to pull her back a little to give the other kids a chance. :X
On the other hand, the teachers in school have taken to calling her ‘class monitor’ cos she helps her teachers get the class in form, calling them out when they fall out of line, helping her friends keep their water bottles, etc.
She’s a perfectionist when it comes to getting her work done. Most apparent in their arts and crafts, of which they do a lot. The teacher usually shows the class an example of how their artwork should look like, and the kids have to do their best to follow the instructions.
Other kids just listen one time and then do it. Not Penny. She watches as the teacher demonstrates, then while she’s doing her work, she carefully refers back to the sample to make sure she’s got it right.
Check out her bumble bee above. I couldn’t have done it better wtf.
And see this display of Humpty Dumptys on brick walls. Guess which one is hers. Lolol.
Teacher also told me she got damn a lot of admirers in class OMG. Like nearly every boy likes her and wants to sit with her OMG OMG.
I asked, huh, why her!? Teacher said, well maybe cos the other girls in class are boisterous and active, while Penny is soft spoken and demure.
Say what. Whose daughter are you talking about wtf. At home Penny is damn bossy and loud mouthed and active can?
Well apparently she’s not like that at school hahahaha super cheat people.
What the teacher said is true though. Every few weeks she will tell me who’s her boyfriend and it’s always a different name WTF. *rubs temples* Although to her ‘boyfriend’ literally means a friend who’s a boy la.
And the mother of a very sweet little boy, J, told me how her son counted out Peppa Pig cookies to keep to give to Penny in school cos he knows she likes Peppa Pig. *rubs temples harder*
TL;DR: Penny is doing very well at school! She’s competitive and does her best in every task. She’s slightly obsessive about being neat and putting things away but I take it as a good thing. ^^ She loves story time and speaks one of the best out of her whole class (which I feel is cos she has an older sibling while every other kid there is the oldest or only child in their family), although she can’t pronounce her own name yet and keeps saying her name is “Banana-pee” HAHAHAHA.
Fighter’s progress report
In Fighter’s case, we received their report cards first before we met their teachers. Fighter very conscientiously informed me to check his report and that I have a lot of “homework” to do ie inspect his report and sign it.
Either he’s very naive to the ways of the world, or he must have thought he did very well. LOL.
This is his English report. For some context, star = excellent, triangle = average/meet requirements, circle = needs work. However, the teacher told me that for the first semester, they usually rate triangle so there will always be room for improvement in Semester 2. So I’m guessing that if they get a star in the first sem, means they excellent until the teacher cannot deny wtf.
Fighter’s English is okay la got a few Excellents and the rest are average. As should be la since English is his first language.
BM he has some things that need work: naming objects around him in Malay… actually only that one wtf. I feel not bad too considering that this is the first year he’s even been exposed to Malay!
Chinese. Jeng jeng jeng. The things he needs to improve are: able to express own needs with simple sentences, and willing to speak in Mandarin, which to me are the same thing la. Also cannot write Chinese characters correctly haha.
I already know his writing not good cos his fine motor skills also not that good la wtf.
I was surprised though that he wasn’t speaking in Mandarin cos he actually seems to really enjoy Chinese. I asked him and he said he was too shy to speak hahaha.
Okay the only thing he needs help with is controlling his emotions. :X
I also sort of knew this already cos quite often (although recently not as much anymore) this boy would be all okay in the morning and in the car. But when we arrive at the school gates, he’d give me sad puppy eyes and dramatically grasp my hand before reluctantly getting down. O_o FML la hahahaha. Sometimes he’d even be teary eyed so I supposed that was why he failed this aspect lolol.
Cognitive development – apparently cannot count down from ten to one wtf. But I dunno if this was graded some time back cos when I asked him to do it for me, he did it with ease.
No problems with self care or computer skills!
*buries face in hands*
This was the area he needs the most improvement in. All I have to say is he completely takes after me HAHAHA.
The only things he can do absolutely well is walk stairs one foot at a time and it’s cos we have stairs at home. He can also put on his shoes and that’s cos I’m too lazy to bend down all the time hahahaha.
When I talked to his teacher, she told me that Fighter is the only kid that when he runs she pays full attention cos she’s so scared he’ll fall down. O_O When he runs (or walks) apparently sometimes his feet don’t even face straight so he trips over himself.
I had a revelation then. Is that why I’m always tripping myself?!
Child’s character is super spot on: sociable, easy going, inquisitive…. and anxious. T____T
At school waiting for my turn to talk to the teacher.
I’ll summarize what the teacher told me here:
- Fighter’s test results are actually really good. He had full marks for most things and those he didn’t get, the most he missed is one or two questions. I actually thought the teacher fed them the answers until she confirmed that those were tests and she didn’t.
- Fighter is the most focused child in the whole class. O_O Apparently he’s the only kid who can sit still an entire lesson and not take his eyes off teacher. Which is why he learns so quickly and well – because he’s very good at concentrating. I wouldn’t have guessed!
- Part of the reason why he’s so focused in class could be cos he’s scared the teacher will scold him though wtf. He has never been scolded or punished cos he’s so well behaved but apparently he lives in fear that teacher will scold him cos she’s always scolding other boys wtf.
- Usually the girls are more guai, so Teacher lets them go off to recess or wherever first while she scolds the boys/waits for the boys to calm down. So because Fighter identifies as a boy, his lower lip will start quivering and his eyes will turn red… until Teacher sighs and says, no not you Jude. You can go ahead with the girls. Then he’ll nod sniffingly and go off with the girls. HAHAHAHA WHY OH WHY.
- Socially, he plays with other children but sticks the closest to Chase.
- When he doesn’t know how to do something, he doesn’t even try but goes to ask Teacher immediately. He does this at home with me too which annoys me cos he doesn’t even try! He has low confidence in his drawing skills and honestly his friends draw way better than him cos I can see he’s not very interested in coloring and drawing in the first place. Did not get in from me okay I am actually very good in art wtf.
- He cries a lot in school. I didn’t know this and I was slightly worried to hear. Teacher said he really is quite anxious and would cry over things like forgotten pencils or handkerchiefs. I’ve seen this side of him at home but didn’t realize he was like this in school too. It’s like he panicks over the tiniest thing that isn’t 100% correct and cannot see reason already. T_T I don’t know how to fix this also to be honest.
- Teacher has been reassuring him and I’ve been doing the same at home la so at least I know I’m on the right track wtf. He has been improving, although Teacher said the other day she was just doing her teaching thing, when suddenly she heard a loud wail then someone burst into tears.
It was Fighter wtf. The kids were tasked to draw and color a vehicle each, and the teachers would take each drawing and paste it into a mural on the classroom wall. Fighter was drawing a van and apparently his friend said his drawing sucked LOLOL so he cried omg.
I went outside to check out his van and indeed it’s very weird cos it has legs WTF. Oh well Dali drew melting clocks okay what do you guys know about art.
TL;DR: Fighter is academically very bright, yet sensitive, anxious and clumsy wtf.
I thought it was pretty interesting though that both my children are fussed about getting things correct and perfect. The difference is that Penny is determined to create a perfect specimen and she makes sure she does that. Fighter wants to get it right too, but if he doesn’t have the confidence, he gives up without even trying. Maybe because better to not try and not fail, than to try and fail?
In that way, he reflects me exactly. I too am used to always doing well academically, yet I’m afraid of reaching beyond my comfort zone because I’m scared of failure. There are so many things I want to do but don’t because I’m scared to fail. It’s quite jarring seeing my flaws in my son.
Maybe that’s what parenting is about though. Learning how to raise a good, well rounded person, and learning more about yourself as you go along.
Wow I don’t even know where to start. And I definitely don’t have an AudCategory for this lol.
So a couple of months back, JCI invited me to be a speaker for their event.
On ENTREPRENEURSHIP. Me. To give a talk on being an entrepreneur. *trembles *shivers *shakes *bites nails
Actually it’s cos they couldn’t get Fatty so they asked me LOL.
I was very nervous. I said no. I could not be a speaker but I didn’t mind being a panel judge for their New Entrepreneur Convention, which was teams competing to come up with the best business idea to solve current problems in the market.
Fast forward to a week before the event. Work was cranking up (and I’ve more or less abandoned my blog T___T), we were in our last building stages for Colony Eco City so I hadn’t given much thought to the event. Nothing to prepare anyway since I wasn’t going to be speaking.
But then a week before I noticed… that I was the only female speaker.
And I wasn’t even really speaking. ://///
And then I started hearing from people: DMs from my followers about how they were planning to attend to listen to me speak, people telling Fatty or me props for being the only female speaker.
Met a bunch of JCI people at Colony to prep for the talk too, and they also said a lot of people were looking forward to hearing me speak. T_T
I am a blight on women everywhere wtf. Why was I the only female speaker yet I declined the opportunity to say something? Did I have nothing important to say? Were my words less important then the men’s? Lol. Ego and the Mount Holyoke feminist in me dictated that I should speak so I contacted the organizers, who said the schedule had been fixed but they could let me have five minutes.
So in the end, I did it. I got up in front of hundreds of people and delivered a short speech about *ahem* entrepreneurship. (That’s Colony behind me wtf.)
With Jin, the organizing chairperson and Fatty. I just noticed I’m wearing the same dress I wore for another panel recently FML. Cos the dress is on point and formal enough but also made of sweater material so it’s also warm enough I get super cold one and have to wear a jacket some mornings. In Malaysia wtf.
Oh here’s another photo of me with an ugly neck wtf this is why I hate official photos.
Er being critical of people as a panel judge.
Real non official photo.
But actually I felt like this the whole time wtf.
The reason why I didn’t want to speak in the first place was because I didn’t feel qualified to speak — I don’t feel like a real entrepreneur and don’t identify as one either. I felt I had nothing significant or inspiring to share. So when I really got down to speak, I told Fatty Imma just be myself and say exactly that.
Fatty was horrified wtf.
“You know how I’m honest and pretty self-deprecating in my blog? I think I will speak that way too. To, you know, be true to myself.”
“What!? No you can’t do that. These people don’t know you. They’d just wonder what you were even invited for! And you have to say something. What’s the point of coming all the way here just to be a judge? You’re not contributing anything and you’re wasting your time.”
Ok calm down dude hahaha.
In the end…. Fatty gave me an introduction. O_O Slightly shy cos nobody else came with their own personal emcee lolol but he wanted to give the audience some context in case I say stupid things about myself wtf.
What I ended up saying was this:
“Hi my name is Audrey Ooi. I’m a blogger and I’ve been blogging at fourfeetnine dot com for the last…. 14 years (O_O). Within the last year though I’ve been working on a coworking space called Colony with my husband Tim.
“As you guys already know, I don’t have an official slot here. I asked JCI not to give me a speaking slot because I don’t feel qualified to speak on entrepreneurship. I’ve only been trying my hand at it the last year and I definitely don’t identify as an entrepreneur or business person also. In fact I think most people here (it being an entrepreneurs conference) probably have more lessons and experience to share than me. But then I thought that should be precisely the reason why I should speak here.
“I never wanted to be in business. I don’t have the typical personality for it – to run your own business a person is usually self motivated, passionate… a go-getter. I am none of the above hahahaha. I am easy going, chill and lazy so I just didn’t think I have what it takes.
“The past year has been a huge learning curve though. It’s been very interesting and I learned so much. One of the things I learned is that… in business you don’t have to be good at everything. If you ask me to run Colony I think it straight die LOL. I really wouldn’t be able to do it. So what I learned is that entrepreneurship is teamwork. Tim and our GM, Nitaya handle the finances, the operations, the investors… all the boring stuff. And I’m free to do the fun things that I’m good at – the conceptualization and creating the spaces itself. And together we’ve created this company.”
(Honestly Tim coached me a lot for this speech wtf. Credit really goes to him.)
I still don’t feel qualified. I still don’t identify as an entrepreneur and I doubt I ever will. (same like how I don’t identify as an influencer wtf.) But I’m glad I got up there and spoke anyway. Cos even if you think you don’t know what you’re doing, you’re still doing it anyway. Does that make sense?
Oh and also the kiasu feminist in me wanted to make sure women had a voice wtf. So many inspiring female role models out there leh I’m sure they have great stories to share.
Thank you to JCI for giving me the opportunity. Thank you to Fatty and my friends who pushed me to get out of my comfort zone. And thank you to the audience for being so nice and lenient on me hahahaha. I’ve spoken to audiences before but never to such a big crowd. And usually about fashion or parenting or even blogging, but never about this topic. I actually felt quite accomplished for the rest of the day. :)))