So recently my grandpa in Penang got sick.
He’s all of 95 years old so any illness can obviously be quite detrimental to his health. Actually he’s been remarkably healthy up to this point (bless you, god WTF) and it’s only been of late that he’s starting to get sick and face health issues 🙁
Anyway he had trouble peeing (ahem excuse the graphic details wtf) so the doctors had to put a tube into him T_______T But then they realized that blood was coming out of the tube as well because I think there was some kind of urinary tract stone in him that was bouncing around and bruising his insides T_____________T
Anyway to cut a long story short, my grandpa was hospitalized. Mummy Ooi flew back to Penang to take care of him yadda yadda. Haih and he was so sick and out of it that he couldn’t even remember how he ended up there and asked the nurse who brought him in.
At another point he panicked and pulled out all the tubes that were connecting him to life wtf.
And another time he asked my mother if he was in a hotel.
The point of this post is not to talk about death or the fleeting existence of a human life. Although I may talk about that next time wtf.
The point of this story is that though my grandfather was so sick, when he recovered enough to think straight, he asked to go home because he wanted to see my grandmother.
And my whole life, I’ve only seen my grandfather yell at my grandmother for being annoying wtf.
(My grandmother is senile and has this annoying habit of asking people to eat/bathe/drink coffee every 5 minutes. And locking the door 30 seconds after you open it to maybe get something from the car – thus locking you out of the house wtf)
So I’ve never seen any sign of affection between them at all.
But I guess there is because my grandma, though senile, asked for my grandfather every day he was away. And on the day my mother told her he was coming home, she pulled herself out of bed, carefully brushed her hair, and got dressed and ready to go downstairs.
She normally doesn’t like to go downstairs before noon (because she thinks it’s too cold wtf) but on that day, she willingly got dressed and went down damn quickly.
Then when she saw my grandfather, she nodded casually and said “so you’re back.” WTF.
Ok any sign of overt affection would be too much to ask for wtf.
But their love gives me hope. (LGMH as opposed to FML wtf)
I am 26. But I would rather live my life believing in fairy tales and happy endings than preparing myself for the worst that may come in the next 50 years of my life. And if my life comes crashing down around my ears, it would be okay because I would have been happy until then. And after that I would find a way to be happy again.
Because living without believing the best would not be living.
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same goes to my grandparents. = (
Audrey I do not know how but you got me crying and laughing at the same time.
I hope your grandfather is well and will be well.
oh beauteos *mushed
another beautifully written post <3
hope ah kong feels better soon!
beautifully written!
i want the kind of love where you see two grandparents holding hands and hugging even when they’re damn old T____T
Love will always be around Aud. I know it exists even though my parents don’t show it, my grandparents didn’t show it.
I see it myself everyday whenever I look at Zach, Zuzu and Zizi. ^_^
This post really warmed my heart 🙂 Everyone shares affection differently, but the most important thing is that they do love each other :’)
Awwww, you made my day!!!
lol…quirky and funneh post…
somehow i teared up reading this. /sobs
This entry makes me tear. It’s very beautifully written. <3
“Because living without believing the best would not be living.” So well said!
And I hope your Ah Kong feels better soon!
hope everyone stays healthy and safe!
I’ve actually cried when I read your post.
thanks for writing this post, I know I am not alone to believe what I believe in love
gotta say “we’ll grow old together” is nice and shit, but growing old is getting sour breath, wobbling when u walk and losing your faculties, reasons why intimacy may not be pleasant anymore…… i really like how age-old love was portrayed in Love in the Time of Cholera with an element of reality
GMH 🙂
INI MANYAK BAGUS I SUKA!!! <3 terima kasih.
You give me hope <3
I hope your grandpa gets better 🙂
thanks! <3 your last line! 🙂
XCB: ya joey’s grandparents!
abby: awww thank you! he’s better now too
ap: oh gracias 🙂
jammie: he’s better now jammie/beg
wt: thank u!
kehrol: you won’t see any of my grandparents doing that. but it’s just different people 🙂
robb: awww and the puppies!
fat her: hehehe yoyo wtf
tera: haha thanks
yumii: why you cry!
annie: thank you! i’ll tell ah kong wtf
yk: yes 😀
voon: haha why you cry wor
ap: intimacy may not be as pleasant anymore but doesn’t mean the love fades away ma 🙂
pris: unFML wtf
dandelion: TERIMA KASIH MANYAK
lishywishy: thank you 😀 he’s better now
cornishcay: thank you!
my grandparents argued like mad last time but my grandma was the saddest amongst us all when grandpa left. guess PDOA wasnt their thing wtf
made me cry too *sniff* :’)
This post gave me watery eyes too! 🙁 It also made me realise that perhaps the best love isn’t the one expressed through words or surprises yada yada but it’s all these little gestures that count.
Hope your grandpa get well soon!
🙂 hope ur ah kong get well soon.
awww…this post gives me a warm fuzzy feeling!
really beautiful post, Audrey.
Thoughtfully true
Hehehe so cute.
But I would rather live my life believing in fairy tales and happy endings than preparing myself for the worst that may come in the next 50 years of my life. And if my life comes crashing down around my ears, it would be okay because I would have been happy until then. And after that I would find a way to be happy again.
me too. but some people would say i’m being too naive.
your entry made me feel like crying :'( but your grandparents are proof that love exists… it gives me hope that one day i’ll find a man who would love me like that even when we are so old.
Well said!! =)
Like your last sentence…
“Because living without believing the best would not be living.”
maybe feel touched gua..haha :p
This was really beautifully written and as I am a very emotional human being I did end up crying whilst reading the last few paragraphs of it. 🙂
I do hope your grandfather gets better…
Best wishes x x
nice ~
Hi Aud,
U remind me of my grandparents. My grandpa came back before he passed away. (They were separated for like 30 years or more?!) He had to come back cuz he’d old and no one eager to take care of him. So without any choice, he had to come back to my grandma whose he mistreated her during their younger time.
The different between yours and mine is that I can only see that he needed my grandma, he will ask her to do this and that without feeling guilty at all. My grandma will juz take it as good and scolded him but still cleaning up his mess on the bed and all over the floor. Soon after my grandpa passed away, my grandma still cry like hell to the man that ruin her whole life. To be honest, I don’t hate him but I’ve got no feeling to this man called grandpa too.
my grandpa is hospitalized as well, but he has been for the last 4 months and doesn’t have long to live because he has cancer. the worse thing about it is that i can’t visit him often..he is in china and i am in the us. he’s really old already so i am accepting it now. you should too…everyone dies someday
its very sad to hear that..reminds me of my late grandma and my dog.. that passed away last year :(. so much suffered and pain, which makes me wonder how will my life be when im old.. will i be facing the same destiny.. anything i can do to protect myself..
Babe, your Grandpa is in my prayers. 🙂 He’ll be alright. You take good care too. Stay blessed.