Ok so here’s the drama.
Earlier this week, while I was at work sweating over my laptop, my mom texted me…. and said “WEDDING DATE MAY HAVE TO BE CHANGED. FORTUNE TELLER MADE MISTAKE.”
My world came crashing down wtf.
My first thought was “WHY!!! JULY WEDDING SOUNDS SO NICE”
Second thought was “But ok ah if postpone it got more time to plan.”
Third thought was “FOR SURE NO MORE FREE SLOT FOR THE VENUE ALL FULLY BOOKED ALREADY!!!”
Emotional rollercoaster man.
For the non-Malaysians/Chinese, what happens is usually before a Chinese wedding family takes place, the families consult a fortune teller to read the fortunes of the couple, see whether their horoscopes/destinies or whatever you call it match or not, and then pick a wedding date suitable for the couple and their families.
We have to tell the fortune teller our (Fatty and mine) birth dates and exact time of birth. The fortune teller also needs to know the birth dates of our parents, and some extra superstitious families will even throw in the birthdates of grandparents wtf. This is supposedly to make sure that nobody involved in the marriage of two families will clash with anyone else and cause any potential problems later on.
Ya super superstitious (HAHA) and traditional wan but that’s what a lot of people believe in.
The Chinese also believe there’s good and bad months to get married in. For example, the seventh month of the lunar year is considered bad because it’s the Hungry Ghost Month and people believe that the gates of Hell open this month to let spirits out. Sorta like their annual vacation wtf.
Anyway our date (which is in July) was supposed to be the best date for us and our families and supposedly very good for the future of my womb WTF.
Then suddenly my mother realized that July was the sixth month of lunar year, although the fortune teller told us it was the fifth month. So meaning he miscalculated. And 6th month is apparently no good because it’s in the middle of the year and supposedly represents the relationship breaking in half (!?!?!) Yea it didn’t make sense to me either.
She further checked the calendar and found that that particular date was supposed to clash with her birth year too and would apparently bring disharmony/misfortune/dunno what to any of us T__________T
So basically both our families were thrown into a tizzy. We were scrambling calling up the hotel and asking for alternative dates. Fatty’s mom was calling up the fortune teller and berating him for miscalculating the dates. I was on the phone to my mom demanding to know what was so bad about the date and could we just overlook it.
I’m not a religious person so I didn’t really believe that getting married on the wrong date could mean a shitty life for us or problems with family members. But then my parents seemed to really believe that something like this mattered.
So while I didn’t believe exactly, I didn’t really want to take any chances either although I was tempted to. I don’t believe now but what happens if sometime down the road, something bad happens to us? Say something extremely negative that’s unavoidable — like one of us getting into a fatal accident, or us not being able to have kids. With no one to blame, would I end up remembering that we got married on a day that was supposedly bad, and blame myself? Who knows what could happen and if I’d end up regretting…
(and bad things may very well happen. To the hater who left an anonymous comment saying he/she hoped Fatty and I will be infertile, your wish may well come true. I have Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. It’s a very common disorder that happens to 10% of women but it means that I may have difficulty getting pregnant. So I hope you’re happy.)
So in addition to the very rough week I was having at work and decoration issues, I now had to deal with this problem. No more Saturdays were available at our venue for the rest of the year (besides in Hungry Ghost Month FOL), there were only Fridays and Sundays and even then we were on waiting list only. But if the dinner were to be on Friday or Sunday, it’d mean our guests from KL and overseas (most of them) would have to take leave just to attend our wedding in Penang. Changing venue was not an option as this was the only suitable one for us.
The tea ceremony (considered the official wedding day in the eyes of Chinese gods) was the ceremony really crucial to have on a good date. I considered keeping the dinner date and having the tea ceremony on another better day but that would mean the guests would have to come down to Penang TWICE. T_______T
For 1-2 days I hovered on the edge of tears wtf.
After a lot of headaches and fretting, finally we decided to not rely on this fortune teller and my mom went back to Penang to consult my grandfather (who also does these things) to check if July 28 was really bad for us. And if it was, could we do anything to counter the bad fortune. Like do some feng shui stuff or prayers or arrange things in a certain way.
And turns out the date is ok after all. -___________-
All that trouble and panic for nothing. -_______________-
So July it is! 😀
In other wedding related updates…
Fats and I went for the YouTube Malaysia launch! They featured Meme Proposal :D:D Apparently it’s the biggest Malaysian-made video ever yay Crazy Monkey Studio.
Dress sketch and design done so went for dress and shoe measurements with Gilbert from Weddinspired. Right now he’s only doing dresses but he’s introducing a new shoe range soon as well!
I always knew I had a shitty body shape and this confirms it wtf. My measurements are 25-24-32 WTF.
This is me in a nutshell. Nobody believe me when I say that my waist is extraordinarily big for my size lo now you all know. My waist isn’t even actually 24 it’s 24.75 WTF. So I’m essentially 25-25-32. FML.
Some pretty silver lace that he had laid out. Which brings me to eveningwear…. What do people usually wear for wedding dinner ah!?!?
Not much chance to wear a qipao (or even buy one that fits me) so if I’m getting a dress made, I thought it should be a qipao! Plus it seems quite appropriate to wear a qipao for wedding. On the other hand, maybe it’s just me but the people I know seem to be wearing qipao more and more for their weddings. I don’t like conforming wtf.
I was thinking of something like this except it would probably be less sheer wtf.
Gilbert showed me this Elie Saab dress and asked what I thought about something like this. I love this too especially the skirt!!!!!
But since my white dress is going to have a sweetheart neckline, I thought of having the top for the evening gown look something like this. Match or not ah.
I want feedback!!! Qipao, or mixture of the the two dresses? And what color….
Comments (47)
Hi Aud, I would go for a Qipao 🙂
Qipao for sure!
modern qipao! mix of a qipao and the top of the last dress
Oh my! That was some week! At least all’s well that ends well. My wedding (if it happens) would prolly be more of wreck with my organizing (or lack of) skills :s
Anything would look pretty on you Audrey. All 3 pics looks nice esp. pic 1 & 2. Congrats.
i opted for qipao if it’s going to be made with that silver lace material! definitely a big NO if it’s going to be that traditional dragon and phoenix spewing fire red cloth wtf
I’m really sorry to hear abt the syndrome n that person who curse u is really horrible. Its such a horrible thing to say. But I’m very sure u n Tim will b able to have great kids cos u all nice ppl 🙂
Jia you k!
I think number 2 is the best!
Qipao with classic lace it is!!
Btw audrey, I have PCOS as well, would be grateful if u could tell me what medicine are u taking please..
a mix of pink and silver qipao (layering) would look lovely on you.
FUSION !! 🙂 And about the infertility issue, screw that. With the modern medical technologies, you don’t even have to fret. The doctor says what ?! Very hard to get pregnant, not CANNOT get pregnant ma 🙂 Don’t worry, u’ll be the cutest mom ever. Just hope that if u’re getting a son, he’ll be gou dai wei mang 😀 🙂
2 dresses! Qipao for the tea ceremony, and a hybrid of the 2 elie saab dresses for evening.. / begs
♥♥ dont worry about the infertility issue, i have that too and i conceived within a year 🙂
qipao and fusion, both laaa why pick only 1…
I like the 2nd one 😀
sexy qipao, blended with western elements would be good actually 🙂 it sounds more eye-catching!
no. 1 and no.2 if they can make it exactly ;D
2nd dress looks awesome!! and 28th of July is my birthday!! don’t worry too much lah ~ most important is tea ceremony date, dinner date doesn’t matter, it’s just dinner reception. =)
aud, u dont needa be too disturbed by the fortune teller! Isn’t he unreliable in the sense that he could not predict himself for making sucha mistake? hahaha!
And, i think the dresses look really unique and classy as compared to qipao which u can always wear it in other festivals like CNY but not the long dresses! I think light shaded colours would be fabulous on you too. I especially love with the emphasis on the lower half of the dresses.. Good luck! 🙂
Qi Pao is goood!!!
OMG….all the worries for nothing! >.< Anyway, I'm glad it turned out good in the end. I say forgo the qi pao and go for the combination of both dresses to stand out, Audrey!! 😉
Qipao! But the skirt looks toooo good!
Why can’t you get 2 evening gowns? If I’m not mistaken, the bride’s supposed to have 3 attires during the wedding dinner. Correct me if I’m wrong.
Beautiful
i think this is it, like people always complain planning weddings are super troublesome, difficult and stressful. but at the end of the day it will be all worth it 😀 just keep calm and… try not to turn into a bridezilla (which i know you won’t :D)
and wtf
(and bad things may very well happen. To the hater who left an anonymous comment saying he/she hoped Fatty and I will be infertile, your wish may well come true. I have Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. It’s a very common disorder that happens to 10% of women but it means that I may have difficulty getting pregnant. So I hope you’re happy.)
BITCH PLEASE?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
I have loads of people I don’t like but I will NEVER say such shit and wish such shit about people.
BITCH PLEASE?!?!?!?!?!?!
LOL so drama, lucky we don’t have to bother with all those nonsense 😀
Any date also can as long as got space 😀
ha — don’t normally comment but i like it a lot that you’ll be getting married on my birthday. because somewhere somebody will be doing exciting things when i usually don’t!
that Elie Saab skirt that shows off your legs = best. めちゃめちゃきれいです ＾＿＾
Your grandfather is such a wise person to say that the original date is ok. All the best to your wedding!
Hi Audrey,
I think there are too many people wearing qipao as evening gown. Nothing special. I think you should wear pic. no.2 for the night. Qipao to be worn during tea ceremony.
I’m getting married end of this year and you’re lucky you have a designer for all your gowns. I have to search all over the internet to search for my dream gown. Congrats.
I am the pesakit of PCOS too and i just done my Laparoscopic surgery (keyhole) last week. Not worries, after the surgery, u and i can “produce” a baby just like any others girls 🙂
goodluck on the wedding achi audrey!!!
I would totally go for the qipao with a modern twist. I like the sound of it with pretty silvery lace and maybe hints of pink? (: I also like the Ellie Saab hybrid though, so get both!!
qipaoooo
Why not opt for a the skirt idea and combined it with qipao for the top part? mandarin collar halter perhaps?
I think heart shaped top + long gown will look better on someone short, at least that’s my impression after trying out a few dresses. Heart-shaped neckline will give you some curves, too! (I’m flat at the the top so believe me)
I feel what u felt when I read ur post.. That’s a real emotional ride for u and ur Fatty.. But I’m glad it’s all ok at the end. Hope u’ll have a great one pretty laydeee 🙂
i think the centre slit is a bit hard to execute and match properly maybe sth shorter in front and longer in the back? no love for qipao its become abit of a cliche
i wear 3 types.
1 white for 1st march in.
1 evening for 2nd march in and cut cake and yum seng.
later i change to 3rd qipao for end of wedding dinner so easy for you to walk around tables to take table photos.
wear as many dress as possible as wedding only once in a life time 🙂
Glad to hear that things turned out alright in the end. PCOS does make it more difficult to get pregnant, but it can totally happen. It took us almost 3 years to get pregnant with our son, but it did happen. You are still quite young so I wouldn’t worry too much. However you should get educated about your own cycles and condition. The one book that helped me the most was called “Taking Charge of Your Fertility”. Not sure if it’s available in Asia, but if you can get a hold of that book I totally recommend it. It made me feel much more in control of my situation and understand if I was ovulating each month. Surgery is not needed in most cases and isn’t really recommended unless necessary (like if you have blocked tubes). Good luck, I’m sure everything will turn out beautifully. And yep, do two dresses. One for the tea ceremony (qipao) and then pick whichever modern one you like best for the dinner! 🙂
most people change their dinner dress halfway through so you can have the both of two worlds. qipao for the beginning when you’re receiving guests, and the other dress towards the middle?
erm, no offence but I think you need a lot of chest to pull off the Elie Saab dress, but maybe you can wear a push up bra instead? I’ll go with a soft colour, cause I think a too dark colour will clash with your hair especially if it’s blond. probably something yellow, but not baby blue cause I think it’ll clash with your skin tone. maybe a silvery grey or lime green? (:
long comment in point form!
1. so glad wedding date issues are sorted out, i’m awaiting my invite with bated breath wtf
2. fuck the lowlife who wished infertility upon you guys. WELL HERE I AM TO COUNTER IT, i wish you ALL THE HEALTHY, FERTILE PREGNANCIES IN THE WORLD and tall kids to boot wtf
3. elie saab-inspired dresses ftw! his designs are gorgeous, gorgeous, gorgeous. you deserve to feel like the most beautiful princess on your wedding day! the silver lace can be used on the bodice of the first design, then still can use chiffon for the skirt! 🙂 dress no.2 has been bookmarked in my lookbook on style.com for a long time ^__^ dowan qipao! boring 😛
4. sayang you! let’s go duck rice soon please! 😀
Elie Saab dress with nude pink ? (got such color a btw?). But no worries, you’re going to look good in anything anyway ! 🙂
The person who wishes u to be infertile is a horrible person! Dont worry i m sure things will be fine with u and fatty. You should pick waht fits you best, I feel you shouldnt go with the first dress, theres too much cloth and since you are petite; you’ll look as though you’re drowning in the dress. Good luck!
I PICK THE BLUE ONE LAH!!!! The light blue dress DONT WANT QIPAO CAN?!
Elie Saab is such inspired dress. I think you will look great and elegant in a mixed western dress. Unless he can make you a sexy qipao.. 🙂
What about a modernised version of qipao, in lace..
hi Aud,
my wedding date is just a week before yours and I’ve been through that roller coaster ride too. We paid the fortune teller and he came up with this date yet my MIL-to-be has so many things to say about the “break in half” thing. Luckily things sorted out yet I’m still too busy to get on ma wedding preparation.
anyway, in short, just wanna let you know that you’re not alone wtf
let us take things easily, shall we 🙂
Please pick the 3rd picture! The white one is perfect!! Don’t think qipao would look that good.