*cracks knuckles

I quit my job end of May.  While I did quite a lot of wedding prep in June, it wasn’t until it hit 1 July that it hit me (ohoho) and my balls shrank (if I had them) and I started freaking out.

I remember when we first got engaged and set the wedding date it seemed like forever away.  But right now it’s in… *counts* 16 days!!!!!! Shah had to remind me today which shrank my balls further thanks Shah.

It’s not that I hadn’t got anything done or was behind schedule!  But I’m super disorganized plus I’ve never thought much about what goes into a wedding, and we’re having two events (ROM and wedding reception — well, three if you count my parents’ reception in KL) so I dealt with all the big ticket things (hire a planner, hire a band, hire a photographer, get my dress, send out invitations) then I thought I was done wtf.  But when July hit I realized there were more and more small things that needed to be done that hadn’t occurred to me before.  It was time to get down and dirty with all the nitty gritty details wtf.  Stuff like…

1. RSVPs

This involved creating Google documents to share with Rina who was handling the Nuffies and Fats’ business partners.  And harried messaging people on Facebook or calling them to confirm their attendance.  Thankfully Rina was there to share the burden thank you Rina you are gold T___T

2. Wedding cake

The hotel only provides a mock cake, with a slice for cutting and it looks like this.  Er very adequate but definitely not in accordance to the theme!  And not for eating either seeing as it’s probably made of styrofoam.

So Fatty’s mom had to rush around and look for a vendor who can provide little wrapped pieces of wedding cake to be placed on the tables for the guests.  I wasn’t too bothered about this because I didn’t ever remember seeing cake at weddings except for Weng’s and I thought that was the door gift wtf.  And I’d already found door gifts so I thought we were good.  But apparently we do wtf and Fatty’s mom managed to secure a vendor.  People really eat wedding cake wan ah!?

And the cake’s ugliness was saved by an angel called Amanda.  She sells macarons at her shop Nineteen Ninety Seven (god I really hope 1997 is not her birth year or I’d feel ancient wtf) and she contacted me because she wanted to give us macarons for the wedding!  At first I was hesitant and didn’t reply her messages wtf because I didn’t know where to serve her macarons.  Takkan she make enough to feed hundreds of people!? Plus dessert is just a small part of weddings and I know she’d put in a lot of effort and I wasn’t sure if she would get any exposure at all on it.

But then I remembered seeing these pictures.

So her macarons are going to be put to good use to decorate the plain white wedding cake 😀 Thank you Amanda!

Su from Bisou also contacted me and offered their cakes for our ROM.  She and her partner Debbie came up with a combination of cupcakes and a proper cake enough to feed all the guests 😀

Not sure what it’s gonna look like.  All I know is it will be rainbow themed 😀 Thank you Bisou!

3. VIP parking

Didn’t think of this did you? Had to call the hotel to make sure they have enough parking spaces in front for our entourage.

4. Counting cars for the entourage

Fatty’s job, this.  Since he and his best men are going to be riding the cars to pick me up, he has to make sure he gets all the cars!  Beg, borrow or steal wtf.

5. Car decorations

My job again fts.

I found some gorgeous inspirations from Pinterest!  Don’t want the usual teddy bear or flowers shit that Malaysian bridal cars always seem to have.

But the problem is, these designs only look good if the car is a little vintage one.  Fatty’s dad has a tiny antique car but we don’t trust it enough to not break down halfway and leave the whole wedding party stranded WTF.  The car will probably be a normal sedan and it will look fucking awkward with cutesy decorations right!  Like Giant wearing Shizuka’s dress wtf.  So oh well.  Waiting for the florist to come up with a cute yet dignified design hahahaha I am the worst client ever at letting the vendors know what I want. When they asked me I said “cute  but not that cute” FTL.

6. Flower girls

I didn’t plan on having any, but Fatty’s mom decided it would be cute and befitting the theme to have little flower girls walk in front of us down the aisle.  She contacted their relatives and secured two nieces for flower girls.

So yesterday I went to look at dresses.

I can safely say that I want something pink hahaha.

Actually all the dresses were adorable!  Nearly made me want to have a baby and dress her.  Nearly.

7. Search for emcees

Jammie volunteered to be emcee but that would mean she’d have to be on her feet the entire time and not join in the fun or toasting or anything!  And Fatty’s UK friend Alex was supposed to emcee with her but he couldn’t make it in the end.  But Fatty got that sorted out also with two people who are quite experienced in hosting events and speaking publicly :3

8. Bouquets

God just thought of this.  Have to call the florist tomorrow wtf.

9. Program and coordination

This was the thing that gave me the biggest headache.  Our planner (who’s also called Audrey hahaha) was originally engaged to do only decoration and not planning which is why I was managing and planning everything myself.  If you engage a planner to do full planning, they’ll even do your RSVPs and seating arrangements for you.  In a way I’m glad I did most everything myself because I have more time now anyway and it’s been quite fun sourcing for things and talking to friends for recommendations and then deciding myself!

But the downside to this is that I needed to ask Angela to do the program and coordination on the day itself!  Our parents don’t think it’s necessary to have a coordinator because they think everything will magically sort themselves out and appear on schedule without anyone telling them to *secretly bitter wtf* but I (and my married friends) know better.  You need someone to ensure the band has all their cues, the kitchen is on standby to serve the food at a certain time simultaneously, and with a certain lighting and music etc etc.  So Angela (who has some experience in wedding coordination) was going to take that role.  Meaning she’ll be maid of honor AND wedding coordinator and work the entire time.

But I’m extremely thankful to Audrey who’s from Focal Concepts for swooping in and taking the on-the-day coordination off our hands!!!!! After she told me this, I relaxed.  And now I am super chill hahahaha.  Thanks Audrey!  I make sure you get a lot of business after this ok wtf.

Also thanks to Angela who came up with a detailed program and timeline of the wedding day(s) worthy of her Stanford degree wtf. She says she’s the best soulmate in the world and I agree hahahahahaha.

10. Figure out how I want to look

Hikky from 76style is going to do my hair and makeup!  So I’ve been in discussion with her as to how I want to look.  I have sort of an idea… but one thing I’m quite sure about is that I want my hair down!  Cos… I don’t really like my shoulders wtf.  Next week I need to visit her to redo my colour and put on new extensions 😀

Video montage

The reason why I can haz photos like these to post!

How did this little fella grow up to be someone so important in my life?

And then there’s me.

I liked books ever since I was born wtf.

And duck face was always in my genes hahahahah.

My older friends told me to expect a point in wedding planning that I’d break down or want to cancel the wedding or something.  I have 16 days more to go so maybe I’m jinxing it wtf later tomorrow some shit hits the fan.  Like the hotel collapses or something WTF choi.  But I think my wedding planning process has been exceptionally smooth!  I’ve been worried or stumped at times of course, and the toughest part was probably trying to make sure both our families are happy but nothing major!

I think I owe it to a very flexible Fatty who gives input when asked but still goes with what I want in the end hahaha, and who helps out when I ask him to do something, the best bridesmaids and maid of honor who keep asking me if I need help and are all chipping in to do stuff.  And Fatty has the best PA Rina who helped me so so so much and took a lot of tedious work off my hands.  Plus Audrey my planner who’s helping to bring everything together 😀

Oh and also cos of my wonderful personality la WTF.  Because I am very chin chai and easy going, I make decisions pretty easily and if something goes wrong or someone objects to a certain decision, I’m fine changing it as long as the end effect is nice or suits what I wanted.  So no real bridezilla moments so far!

That’s about it.

TWO MORE WEEKS TILL WE’RE MARRIED YO!!!!

P/S: Just completed our seating chart in two hours!!!! I am godlike.