So we’ve been married a month now.
Strangely, it feels like the wedding was so long ago! Like in a past life wtf. I guess it’s partly because a lot of things happened since then, chief of which was our honeymoon, but at the same time like any other married couple, there’s been a lot of things that needed getting used to. Here’s a list of ’em.
1. Referring to each other as ‘my husband’ and ‘my wife’
Probably the most obvious of the lot. Just last week, at a Forever21 in Vegas, I told the cashier that ‘my boyfriend is walking around the mall while waiting for me’ before realizing my mistake and wondering if I should correct myself. And Fatty is worse! He refers to me as ‘my girlfriend’ all the time so it’s become a routine that the other person would say in response, “your girlfriend? So fast?” hahaha.
Super difficult to remember leh! Some more in the beginning it was worse, every time I actually remembered to say ‘my husband’ it would stick in my throat cos it sounds so presumpteous! Like when I was twelve and I said Nick Carter is my husband like that hahahaha. Besides, husband is a word my mother uses, not me. Lolol. But it’s getting better.
In the past few days I noticed Fatty’s been saying ‘wife’ rightly though so he also deserves an award!
edit: *grabs back award. Fatty just called me girlfriend again wtf.
2. Wearing the ring
The problem is not mine.
I just popped it on my left finger like so and leave it on forever…
…although I’ve been thinking of taking off the engagement ring and just wearing the wedding band.
But this Fatty cannot get used to it >:( He takes it off every time he showers or before he goes to sleep so confirm when he wakes up half the time he’ll forget and go to work leaving it on his nightside table >:(
He forgot it totally when we went to the US so he was ringless for three weeks *chagrin
I threatened to tattoo a ring on his finger.
He’s remembered it three days straight since we got back though so this is a good sign wtf.
3. Calling parents
Besides referring to each other, next step is how to refer to parents. This is much worse than calling each other husband and wife.
If you think saying husband/wife is presumptuous, this is two hundred and forty times more buay pai seh.
You’ve been only calling two people ‘mummy’ and ‘daddy’ your entire life but now you have to call a new set of parents that too! Deep inside, I’m shrieking ‘are you sure they are okay with you calling them mom and dad’ even though rationally I know they expect me to. Makes sense or not!?
Anyway Fatty and I have gotten jokingly scolded by both sets of parents for slipping into ‘uncle’ and ‘auntie’ FOL. But yesterday I remembered when Fatty’s mom was on the phone and happily sang out ‘HI MOM’ and she was pleased wtf.
4. Ticking Married on forms instead of Single
This one is not such a big difference but now every time I fill out forms and have to state my marital status, I just snigger a bit to myself, like look at you marking married here wtf.
On that same note, we’ve also started joint bank accounts and got supplementary credit cards which also feels a bit weird because it means there’s someone stalking my money habits ahhhhhhhhhhh!!! Not that I spend like crazy (although I have my moments wtf) but I’m super unalert and forever cannot remember how much money I have or what expenses I’ve incurred so this is forcing me to step up a bit.
5. Feeling like his house is my house
I was already staying with him before we got married so it’s not like WAH MARRIED ALREADY TIME TO PACK AND MOVE IN HELLO I AM DAI SOU but it’s caused me to feel like this is my house too more than before hahaha. Like I feel slightly more responsible for the contents of the fridge and the nagging feeling that I need to be neater hahaha. Still working on it ok.
I also feel like doing up the space to how I like it but it’s already pretty nice so I don’t know what I’m allowed to change… Look forward to decorating posts maybe?
6. Being a team
I think this is subtle but actually the deepest change. I don’t mean to act all high and mighty and know-it-all but to all the questions on formspring about how we maintain our relationship?
It’s about being a team.
Whatever happens to one of us, the other has to face it as well. it’s not you against him or you complaining about why he doesn’t put down the toilet seat. It’s facing the world and all your problems as one *emotional music plays
So whoever insults Fatty, say it to my fist wtf. And of course when something good happens to him, I’ll be the happiest! And vice versa of course. I hope. Kidding la hahahah.
I’m definitely feeling it more after the wedding, but even up to the engagement and after it was always there. Being married is not the end of the story; it’s the start leh. And signing that paper has reinforced the feeling that whatever happens henceforth, we’re in it together, and together for the long haul.
It feels pretty cool 🙂
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You guys are my favorite couple! <3 🙂
love this post <3
<3 <3 <3
Best wishes to both of you
so sweet 🙂 🙂 yeah i kept reading horrid questions on ur formspring and it got me so annoyed with people trying to assume stuff abt ur relationship leh! you’re my fav public couple because of how u guys don’t put up fake fairytale pretences, and it all appears down-to-earth as us readers read about it 🙂 🙂 🙂
Lovely!!
but having 2 rings on 1 finger didn’t bring you any inconvenience at all?
hahaha if u think calling each other’s parents Mum and Dad is hard, I think what’s worst is the parents have to greet each other’s parents differently. The first time my mum and my sister’s MIL and FIL met, she called them “Cheh Em and Chin Kheh” which is what they have to call in Hokkien and guess what? My mum burst out laughing and all of us laughed too. Just sounds so awkward!!! But she has mastered it now it’s not so awkward. Still very awkward for me so I just try my very best to avoid the situation where I have to call them that..hehe
aww so sweet!!!! i’m so happy for you, blessed marriage to you guys! 🙂
nice nice nice!!! super love everything!!!!!!
I think the calling parents thing must be hella awkward hahaha… but you have a lifetime to get used to it though 😀
I think I would have the same problem with rings as your hubby! I hate, hate, hate the feeling of having a ring around my finger… can you imagine two rings? Would love to get married and get a beautiful ring but I’m not looking forward to wearing it haha
Love no. 6!!!!!!! Both of u r not, you guys have each other!!!
* both of u r not alone
Such a great post! So happy for you guys!
I never dare to call my in laws mom’n dad cause am afraid my mom’ll be jealous lol.
I have haв a problem with new surname. I did’n get it in the very beginning and kept my old for 4 years, but then I’ve realized it was important for my husband and finally changed. He was pleased, me happy 🙂
i same like ur husband i dun like to wear ring leh…can i wear a wedding necklace instead??
i love this post! :’)
Awww, you guys make me all warm and fuzzy. I hope you really enjoy these first few months! It’s a really special time (and of course everything after that is special too).
Re: what to call the parents – when I got engaged, one of the first things my future in-laws told me was “we don’t want you to call us mum and dad, it’s weird.”
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*okay*
So sweet <3
Share with us when you come to the stage when people refer you as Mrs. Tiah. Bet you would not respond to people when they called you “Mrs. Tiah, Mrs. Tiah…….err, excuse me, are you Mrs. Tiah?”
I guess it will take time to get used to all the little new things as a married couple including calling each others’ parents daddy and mummy! I love you guys! So sweet and cute! The wedding dinner looks perfect! When will there be little aud and little tim? *grin*
i still can’t get used to the fact that you’re married now also D: like you’re still dating tim only wtf
aww now you make me feel like want to go out and anyhow grab a man to say i do to but only when i make sure he’s handsome and looks like got good waist stamina first wtf
Totally enjoyed this post 😀
Aww, very sweet. Now if only my boyfriend would propose… =P
Awwww…
So sweet!!!
Can’t comment much because sweet is really how I feel..
Hope I also can become a sweet couple like you and Tim in the future lar… ^^
I can honestly, truly say that reading about your relationship with “Fatty” over the last few years (I’ve read your blog a long time, ok? I think 5 years fml) has been so sweet, that you two are my “favorite couple” in the world (really!!). Ok because honestly I don’t like Hollywood Celebrities, so “real” (as in, not fake and shallow and staged and lame and plastic) couples, such as you two, are such a breath of fresh air. Such a cute couple with a famous proposal and still seem so normal. Never change!
well written 🙂 i like your style of writing as it’s down to earth, real, light hearted but has substance to it. kudos, and congratulations on your nuptials.
Best wishes! 🙂
Haha I really enjoyed reading this post because the things you brought up are exactly the things I wonder about after getting married… especially having to call the other half’s parents “mom” and “dad”. I imagine that would take a while to get used to!
“WAH MARRIED ALREADY TIME TO PACK AND MOVE IN HELLO I AM DAI SOU”
HAHHAHAHAHAH i laughed so loudly at the comment. Damn funny. Congratulations again Audrey xx 🙂
i like this pic too much