The #confessionsofamom tag has been going around on Dayre. I also wanna confess! Pretend you’re a priest ok wtf.
I think I have a pretty lackadaisical approach to parenting. In fact I am lackadaisical in all aspects of my life la so no wonder I’m so chin chai when it comes to my babies. Also no wonder if you can already tell what most of my confessions are going to be like. *shifty eyed
1. I try to make Fighter sleep earlier…
so that I can have more ‘me’ time at night to get my own stuff done. Whether it’s blogging or baking or even just watching series in peace. :X So I’ll make sure he doesn’t sleep too late in the afternoon. Either that or I’ll find some strenuous activity for him to do in the evening so he’ll be tired at night and sleep faster wtf.
For example, swimming in the bathtub. :X
2. Sometimes when Fighter drops food, I pick it up and eat it myself. But I blow on it first. #likethatmakesitanybetter
If he spits out food, I sometimes eat it too (if there’s not too much saliva on it). There goes my reputation wtf.
Waste not, want not wtf. So far haven’t fed Fighter food from the floor la. But if say drop on the bed then yeah I might feed it to him. :X
Yea and if it’s his pacifier, sometimes I just pick it up, blow on it and give it back to him wtf.
3. I use kids as an excuse to go home early… and as a topic of conversation
In my defense, not just me! Fatty does it too! Sometimes we take Fighter out with us to dinner… so we can excuse ourselves and say “sorry our son needs to go home and sleep.” Perfect unoffensive excuse to go and people won’t give you shit for it!
Uhh but other times we also bring Fighter out because we want to okay hahaha and not just avoiding your company. Our friends will never know now HAHAHA wtf.
Sometimes if we’re out with people I don’t really know, it’s great having a kid there too so I can focus on him if I got nothing to say to them wtf. But that hasn’t happened too often la hahaha but it’s always a good fallback plan. The bad news is that I get lazy to think of topics of conversation.
4. I cannot excuse bad behavior in adults anymore
Cikumuffin from Dayre actually said the same thing and it hit me like a revelation.
Within the past year or two, I found myself getting increasingly intolerant of friends or even strangers who behaved badly. I’m not even talking about people who do actual evil things, but those who are rude, or selfish or just aren’t nice.
Take my Kempen Sopan Santun for example. If I didn’t have kids yet I don’t think I’d be so worked up over strangers being rude. And don’t say strangers, friends also. I’ve been friends with some people for years and years, and I’d obviously always known what they’re like. I was okay with the way they acted before but after having kids, I found my patience for certain antics had finally run thin.
I was a little troubled to be honest. I thought how come I was okay with this behavior before but now all of a sudden, I’m not and get so annoyed? They’ve always been like that and I’ve always been fine with it — why now am I not? I’d already known what they’re like ma so it’s my fault that I’m angry, not theirs.
And Ciku put it very succinctly. It is us, not them. And what changed was us having kids. It’s as if with kids, all my patience has been used up by them and I don’t have any more left for adults. Because our expectation has become that adults should know better than kids, and therefore should behave better.
I am trying to not be so judgmental because nobody likes a judgmental bitch wtf but it’s hard. I keep thinking my kid would know not to do this, so why wouldn’t you, as a grown-up?
5. Every time I’m stuck at home for too long I want to leave the kids for a little while but when I’m out, I just want to come back and curse myself for leaving them
And then I get angry at whoever/whatever is preventing me from coming home quickly. I can never win.
6. I’m super lackadaisical with germs/danger etc
On a scale of 1 to 10 of paranoia, I think I’m at -2. Partly because my personal motto is basically Alfred Neuman’s – “what, me worry?” and partly because I don’t want to be that crazy paranoid mother who prevents her children from doing everything because “it could be dangerous” I don’t want him to remember a childhood of No’s and miss out on having great kid adventures! Also I’m scared if I keep saying no or telling him of bad things that could happen, I’d stem his curiosity and create irrational fear in him.
So unless he’s holding a knife, I usually don’t tell Fighter no. I just tell him to be careful, let him touch and explore whatever he wants and wash his hands later. Also, I expose him to discomfort a little bit at a time so he understands. For example, I kept telling him the water dripping out of our distiller was hot but he didn’t want to listen. He kept on wanting to touch it.
So I let him touch the water WTF. And he screamed the house down. :X But after that every time I told him something was hot, he believed me and never fought to touch it again. Or if he did, he’d graze his fingers on it quickly and remove them. Letting him experience it himself definitely taught him more effectively than just telling him.
But then this laissez faire attitude backfired la when we took Fighter to an indoor playground and he contracted stomach flu and then passed it on to all of us wtf. So after that incident I started sanitizing any public surfaces he might touch hahaha sigh. But overall I still believe my chin chai parenting is on the right track hahaha.
7. The same goes for food
Super chin chai with food too. After Fighter turned a year old, I fed him Mcdonald’s fries and nuggets. I also give him sugar and chocolate and ice cream and random junk food. :X *waits to be judged
I give it in moderation la not so bad! But maybe my moderation equals to other people’s extreme-tion wtf. I know plenty of mothers who don’t let their kids touch outside food at all and everything has to be home made/home grown/home fertilized wtf.
Again, why I let him try everything is because I don’t want him to get used to a certain kind of taste and texture only. I want him to be adventurous with food (so I don’t have a hell of a time getting him to eat) ]. I think it worked! Cos he’s always eager to try anything I give to him; if he doesn’t like it he may spit it out, but he’s always happy to just take a bite rather than refuse at the start. He’s also okay with most different textures.
So those are my Mom Confessions.
What are yours? (if you’re a parent la wtf. If you’re not also never mind can anyhow confess anything hahahaha)
Comments (23)
I let him watch nursery rhymes on his smartphone for 10-15min so that I can have some peace and quiet. And play Candy Crush Soda. Lol.
It’s okay hahahah my mother fed my brother nuggets at 6 months with a little sippy cup of watered down Coke. He didn’t have teeth but gnawed on them anyway. Now he is 19 and built like a tree.
You are one cool mom!
Honestly I agree with you a lot, especially on the not-so-protective over your child on food. They need to try everything so that people won’t think your kid is so ma fan when we wanna look for food to eat. Plus, kids are kids man, let them have their sugar!!!
and so you’re the best mum in the world!
My daughter is 3 and still follows me into the bathroom! So does my pug:) and if I don’t let them in, they both sit outside the door pouting
My baby is 6 weeks old and is sometimes fussy at night, wanting to latch all the time. Once she was practically attached to me for the entire night and i couldn’t go bathe and felt so gross carrying her with my sweaty self. Which made me angry at her for wanting to latch for so long. Which made me feel ashame of myself for being angry at a baby. Which ended with me bawling eyes out in the bathe after she finally fell asleep. -___-“‘
awwww T____T we all have these moments when it comes to babies la don’t beat yourself up over it! but hope she’s not as clingy now 😀
Hahaha for some reason I find the fact that your pug is like your daughter’s partner in crime hilarious. You must have a super fun home life 🙂
nonsense hahahaha really one
Ya I don’t want them to develop fussy eating habits Imma die D:
erm too cool lo hahaha
omg hahaha. I also fed Fighter coke at the same time but not at 6 months. Your mom sounds super cool!
HAHAHA me too! But my game is Disney Tsum Tsum wtf
He wanted them! She is definitely the source of weird random situations in the family.
I am quite cincai with his food intake. At 11 months I already giving him what we are having on the table due to sheer laziness to cook other meals for him and he doesnt like his porridge anymore. Although I am still struggling a bit with things like fries and nuggets but can see it will be soon. Also the first time my son had ice cream – he reminds me a bit of fighter – doesnt understand the concept of finish. Had to distract him so he wont cry the shop down. lol
My gawd, Aud (that rhymes!) your parenting style is soo the same as me. I was like, yes, yes,yes then, “Whoa… ” My boy really enjoyed freedom when I bring him out cos’ I’m the’ ‘everything-also-can’ type of mum. Now with my 11-month old girl I just whack anything. Like feeding her KFC’s whipped potato (cos’ it’s the most easily available ‘soft-food’). And yesterday, she insist on sharing my choc. milkshake (because I let her have a taste at first). Maybe I should finally update my Dayre with the #confessionsofamom tag.
Love this! Confessions of..
“Pretend you’re a priest.” HAHAHA. Damn. I haven’t done confession in a long while. Jesus, please forgive me. -____-
I practice the 5-second rule too! Except for food I really love (like lard bits), then it becomes 10 seconds. Or however long it takes for me to pick it up.
I’m not yet a mom, but expected our first born in July! Guess I’m going to the chin chai parenting method too. We have a dog, a Siberian Husky, hmm consider a medium large breed. So everyone was telling us to get rid of the dog wtf brainless and heartless ppl! But both of us are okay with it, it’s not like germs carried by dog is fatal, it’s actually good to expose kids to this kind of germs since they are small. Got research one these ppl just wouldn’t listen!!!
I kept telling my husband if we go for vacation, I will choose places like kampung or National park wtf. Maybe it will be a son so I try to let him has the memory as my husband had. Go river catch fish, feed the chicken, take our dog to go for walk etc.. Weekend in shopping mall is too mainstream, I’d like my son to have adventure in his childhood, so that he can be a real boy.
I still not sure if I’ll cry in the midnight taking care of him cause he catches some germs and lao sai the whole night… God bless me.
You sound just like me, my son’s 7 and i let him do pretty much whatever he wants to do since he was a baby #LOL. Well, i’m a little paranoid so i don’t like him climbing high things, but that’s about all. I also let him eat whatever he wants to eat (strangely he’s a bit fussy and does not like to try out new things even though we made him taste everything since he started solid, maybe it’s just his personality wtf) and scoff at my friends when they got all bent up when their kids want to eat something other than healthy food #lol
So funny, we always call them partners in crime!
I thought how you let fighter touch the hot water was really brave of you!! And such an effective lesson hahaha!