I don’t normally bother with haters/trolls/online assholes because none of what they say usually affects me.
Say I’m ugly? You liar. Lolol.
Say I’m short? True what, and so?
Basically most of the time I’m very thick skinned and overly confident so no comments from strangers bother me much. Lolol.
But I thought a recent cyber bullying incident was something I should write about.
It started when Fatty posted this picture of Fighter on Instagram. Honestly we thought it was damn cute because Fighter was getting burped here after his meal and his yellow onesie and sitting position made him look like a duckling.
To summarize, these two users @ixirahon and @agentbabypink/@xiiiromaxiii came in and started urging to “pray for Fighter’s soul“.
I got very offended because I thought it was very pantang (taboo) to talk like Fighter was dying when he wasn’t! It affected me a lot because the truth is, the preeclampsia could have killed both me and Fighter, and the wounds (literal and figurative) and fear were still very raw, and here was this stranger, talking about my baby’s death so flippantly.
I calmed myself down though and decided to give them the benefit of the doubt. I replied, “can you please stop saying that? he is doing very well and is not on the verge of death. if you want to pray, pray for his health, not his soul.”
@ixirahon replied that she “thought he was about to die 😉 she really didn’t know, and she would not just pray for his soul, she would also pray for his health.”
At this point I still wasn’t sure what her intentions were. While her tone was nice enough, she didn’t actually apologize for what I saw as a curse on Fighter. And she put a winking smiley which normally signifies a joke. Was this a joke to her?
I also saw her leave similar comments about praying for Fighter’s soul on my other pictures but I assumed she had left them before I replied her so again, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and left it at that.
Then further down the thread, her friend @xiiiromaxiii commented that Fighter looked like an alien and included a thumbs down emoji.
I lost it. I replied:
The next day, I woke up to their comments flooding my Instagram page and Fatty’s.
These two were batshit crazy.
I thought about why I reacted so strongly to their initial comment and I think I figured it out. While they were saying ill of Fighter, the tone of the comments didn’t seem to be bad. So the scared emotional mom side of me thought “why would they say this? Do they know something I dont?”
But when they went all out to leave shitty comments it actually wasn’t so bad. Now I knew they were just trying to cause hurt and would say anything. I was angry but at least I wasn’t worried or scared.
They left a lot more comments on dozens of our pictures. Much creepier, they created a new Instagram account, @ixirandbabypink (which has now been deleted) on which they posted pictures of Fighter (stolen from our accounts), chanted condolences and accused me of taking “illegal drugs” hence causing Fighter to be born premature. -_- Dunno why must specifically say illegal drugs cannot be legal ah wtf.
A lot of people scolded them and looking at the way they replied and posted, they either were (a) genuinely nuts or (b) very very young and also crazy and unaware of how much meaning their words carried.
I found one of their Facebook profiles wtf which I will not reveal here. The shocking thing is, that girl had a university degree and a lot of her postings and pictures involved a little boy who was obviously her son or at least a child dear to her. I dunno I can’t read Tagalog.
The other bully on the other hand, I found was married. Because her husband came and tried to defend her actions. :X I honestly thought they were stupid teenagers — it was quite horrifying that they’re probably similar in age and situation to me.
So we are all educated. We’re all married and at least two of us have a son. And yet they can do what they did to me.
So I wrote this on her Facebook:
“i’m audrey, the person whom u and your friend have been harassing on instagram. from your fb, you seem to be a nice person who loves her own kid so i have no idea why you would try so hard to cause us pain.
tbh i was upset when you said “pray for my baby’s soul” because you seemed to imply he was dying. but i couldn’t tell if you meant it so i replied you civilly. but your comment about him looking like an alien tipped me over.
does it make you happy to keep saying my baby is dead? what if i said daniel or whoever your child is will die? at least one of you is a wife and a mom so i can’t understand why you can act like this. ironic but you started off saying to pray for fighter’s soul but now i’m telling you i will pray for your soul, you need it more. i hope you grow out of this and your baby is well.
I totally killed them with kindness lolol. If I continued to reply them angrily they would reply in kind .. so I thought I’d appeal to her humanity. And there is a conscience to her after all!
Since then, they have both contacted me and apologized. To be honest I’m not sure if I totally believed them since some things didn’t tally but I accepted their apologies and it’s over.
But I told them that I intended to blog about this to remind people that our actions and words can cause more damage than you think, because you might not know what someone might be going through privately.
Already had to go through a month of hell in hospital then now have to deal with these two imbeciles. What if I had still been in my depressed state? What if their stupid thoughtless comments pushed me over the edge and I committed suicide wtf. A bit far fetched la hahaha. But what if they decided to pick on someone with less support, less stable or weaker than me?
So the next time you want to leave a nasty comment, think again. I never understood people who do that anyway.
P/S: I just realized their cyber bully profile on Instagram, @ixirandbabypink is still up, and it’s still full of Fighter’s pics. although they have deleted the nasty captions. Can you guys please go report it for abusive content/harassment or copyright infringement or something? Thank you!
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Those ppl are hav serious psychological issues lah. Good thing you didnt waste effort on them.
Unbelievable. Those people must be crazy.
tim – she doesn’t have to listen to what you think she should write about. its her own fucking blog. instead of hating on someone you don’t know, don’t read her blog. that really is the best advice you can give yourself. those two girls were not criticizing the way she blogs. they are literally cursing her baby to die. big mother fucking difference.
hi Audrey,nnyou and Tim had been my inspiration after reading your blogs from your engagement until now. both of your blogs are so informative, and times when i have relationship problems, i just read your blog and i can relate to what is happening on my relationship. I guess tim and you, my bf and i have the same personalities. 🙂 nnI was also excited on your baby. So sad you have to go through, but i guess you are the strongest person i have encountered. And dont mind those trolls (as Richard had said). I have encountered that troll in my real life. Better to ignore them, it is not worth your time. They just need other people’s attention and dont give it to them. nnFighter is so cute and he will grow up to be like his Dad. Best of luck to both of you. Love love your blogs and i know you also have inspired so many people. Keep up the good work
Aud, I can read Tagalog!:) If there’s anything you want me to translate for you, I’d be willing to do it.:) <3 I love your family, and I’m really glad Fighter’s okay!<3
Aud,..nn1. “may bago tayong basher @agentbabypinks, si @sayifs” means “we have a new basher, it’s @sayifs”n2. “mga #basher natin, worldwide na” means “our bashers are worldwide already”n3. “world wide bashing ang peg natin @agentbabypinks” means “world wide bashing is our interest now”nnif you need anything else translated, please leave me an email.:)nI love you Aud!:)
it’s sad to see an immature wife and mom…nnanyway.. I bet you that fighter will grown up as guy (a very handsome one) that capture a lot of girls heart. Cuz he has a big eye like yours. ^_^
When I was reading the screenshots I was like “No… this can’t be. No person on earth is THAT retarded.” I’m speechless… I just wish you and Tim and the handsome Fighter a lot of strength. You are a wonderful family and these girls are just… urgh. Some people shouldn’t be allowed on the internet.
@Tim: Nice to know that you don’t care, pleeaaase never come back and comment again, k? Because… well, WE don’t care about you. Enlighten someone else with your opinion.
Actually I didnt understand you cos YOU don’t make any fucking sense. And strangely you seem to care a great deal about what I blog and what I have to say or else you wouldn’t keep coming back for more. nnSo here’s what I have to say to you – if I’m narcissistic so be it, it doesn’t matter to me. But by your own ridiculous definition of that, you’re narcissistic too by writing what you think and hoping for it to have an impact. Hypocrite.
Haha so are you more like Tim or me!?
Thanks! I also got your fb MSG, will reply you there
how to post reply? hihi..cant reply to audrey’s reply :p
Can ah! Just click reply or the arrow?
haha that tim sure doesnt know what sarcasm is…nnloved your replies to him!n
OMG that tim. Dude read what u wrote. U ass. Maybe u r just plain restated. Oh well, nothing anyone can do about that. You’ll just have to live with it 😀
I don’t understand why this world has so many nasty rude people 🙁
Sad to see these heartless people online. They are the reason why some people think internet is cold. Don’t know what they are trying to achieve by stealing all fighters pics to post on their insta acc. Definitely people who had nothing better to do, and probably jealous of you too.
WHY DO THEY HAVE TO BE FILIPINOS IM SO FUCKING ASHAMED OF MY NATIONALITY NOW AND WOW FUCK THEM ILL LOOK FOR THEM AUD U JUST WAIT I SHALL SEARCH THE WHOLE COUNTRY *SUPERMAN THEMESONG PLAYS IN THE BG*
In as much as I am Filipino myself what these 2 did is just plain horrible. Being one of your tons of readers, hats off to you Aud on how you handled this situation with DIGNITY and so much more, with WISDOM. Like you said, you replied to them with kindness. Fighter will surely inherit your wisdom and strength and will be a fine man. 🙂
Gosh, this really freaked me out. And you felt much worst of course 🙁 It’s over now thank God.n
Hey, just wanna let you know that you’re my new idol. Fighter is the most perfect kid ever and he really seem to be growing up strong and happy. You both are great parents. I actually cried when I read those evil girls’ comments cause i can’t believe anybody in the world can be so cruel. What goes around comes around. He who laughs first laughs last. nnI’m somebody that don’t really like babies but after reading your blog, I’ve come to like fighter a lot <3 Can’t wait to see him in his first year birthday party, him in his first school uniform and him with his first girlfriend HAHAH ^^ stay strong.
Just read about your cyberbullying incident… all sorts of people exist, but it is how you handle them that really matters. It was excellent, the way you handled this, kudos to you! I think i would have lost my cool if it was me… And then i read about the part where those bullies are asking you “to stop the flood of hate directed towards them”. I mean, if they didn’t want something, then why did they start it in the first place? Anyway, continue to be strong and may you have many blissful days ahead~ 🙂
Somehow surf to your web on this cyberbullying thing.nYou might want to write to Instagram to get them to take down the account since it’s inappropriate and your photos?
Dear Audrey,nnCame across your story through an article from TNP Singapore about cyberbullying.nI seriously think you are an awesome mother and Fighter does live up to his name; he is one badass (pardon my language) of a fighter. nEven though I have not come across such bullies in the Net (yet. and keeping my fingers crossed equally the same) but they exist in other forms. At times, even well-meaning advices from closed ones especially relatives and friends; can easily turn into a form of verbal bruising if not filtered with pinch (in my case, pinches) of salt.nThat aside, looking to more lovely posts about your journey in Motherhood (post-natal weight issues.. ugh tell me all about it) and about Life essentially. nFyi, Motherhood is a new territory for me too, still learning as I go 🙂
Fighter is alive. Why in the world praying for him like he is dead?
Hi, nnI developed pre eclampsia too in my recent pregnancy. May I know how long did it take you to have your BP back to normal and no more protein in urine? nnThanks
haven’t read your blog for a long time, happy to see that you are not a mother.. congrats to u and tim… as for the two brainless filipino who attacked you for no reason, i do hope they grow up and realised the impact of their cruel remarks. that must have been a really scary experience for you, glad you have come out of this stronger
haven’t read your blog for a long time, happy to see that you are not a mother.. congrats to u and tim… as for the two brainless filipino who attacked you for no reason, i do hope they grow up and realised the impact of their cruel remarks. that must have been a really scary experience for you, glad you have come out of this stronger
incase anyone’s interested the bullies names are IRA GUCE (ixirahon) and ROMA PATRICIA VELASCO SILVA (agentbabypink) here are their fb profiles :
https://www.facebook.com/iraguce
https://www.facebook.com/romasilva
instagram: queenpiiink
Ew. The instagram profile pic has her wearing no underwear. Does she think she is sexy posing like that?? So shameless.
It’s incredibly childish to post their profiles when Audrey made a point not to.
To start insulting them over trivial things now is just silly and completely unnecessary, and is the exact opposite of the point Audrey is trying to make here – “Why are you leaving nasty comments? What are you trying to achive?”. It’s been settled, let’s leave it at that and learn a lesson from their bad choices.
Lol what the fuck, what a nonsensical comment.
your baby is amazing