Sigh.
Okay I have to clarify things.
Actually, no I don’t really. None of the 3 people involved in this — Tim, Angela and I — really have any obligation to make ourselves clear to anyone. But since I’ve chosen to make my life public by writing a blog, this is what I have decided to do.
I am very amazed and saddened by the things that have been written in the comments in the last post. Since when was it okay to insult and make fun of people, not only towards Tim but against others in the comments?
Here’s what really happened.
I had a pretty tough week at work; a couple of things happened to make me upset and I had no time at all to blog. So I gave Tim the password to my blog and told him to put in a new entry so I could have something to read and look forward to by the end of the week.
It’s always been a long-running joke between Tim and Angela about who is my true soulmate — it’s something that Tim always disturbs Angie about.
Some people never find their soulmate ever in their lives but I think that I am lucky enough to be blessed by two. A soulmate is supposed to be one special person meant for you but I think in Tim & Angela I’ve found mine. Tim because he could be meant for me (but I don’t wanna jinx it wtf), and Angela because it’s as though there was a piece of clay in heaven 24 years ago which was supposed to make one girl but god chopped that clay into half and made two.
So Tim and Angela have always had play arguments on who wins and gets to be my soulmate.
And when I asked him to write a post, he came up with that entry to tease Angela more.
Yes, of course it was a joke. If it wasn’t he wouldn’t have admitted it was him in the end. He wouldn’t have said okay Angela wins. And if he didn’t know how much Angela meant to me he wouldn’t be able to describe our friendship so well in the first paragraphs.
The unfortunate thing was, he wrote it too seriously that everyone took it for real including Angela. I knew from the start when I read my own blog that it was a joke because duh I didn’t write this. But maybe it wasn’t clear to people out there.
Another thing was he had horrible timing because Angela is going through a tough time but I thought her life is her own business and I didn’t tell anyone including him. I really really wish that I could be there for her in Canada now but I can’t so right now we’re both missing each other a lot right now. So when this happened I guess she really took it seriously. Sorry babie that I have to say in public that you are going through a tough time right now that’s why you were affected so much by it. 🙁
So that’s the story. It may have been childish of him but it has been joked about for months now just that it went overboard this time.
This should be between us only but Angela has made it clear that she knows it was a joke and Tim has apologized to her after realizing that she was seriously upset.
But I was just very upset by the things that some of you said. He was wrong to take the joke so far but who of us have not made mistakes or said anything wrong or hurtful in their lives? Please just think about that for a minute. He was harsh in writing that but I think a lot of the comments were far worse.
I myself have often thoughtlessly said things that hurt the people closest to me but I was lucky that they loved me enough to forgive me.
I wish for the sake of all 3 of us that none of this has happened but it has. And this is something I blame myself for because I brought this upon myself and my loved ones by choosing to put my personal life into a blog.
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Awwww ..*hugz* Hope u feel better by now!
I think it was the commenters that make the whole thing such a big deal. From a joke to something so serious! Maybe I’m used to reading Timothy’s blog so I knew it is very “Timothy” to write that post.
Have a nice week and hey, it’s labour day! so you have a nice weekend with Tim ;p
Truth be told, I didn’t read any of the nasty comments some of you left. Perhaps being on the blogosphere for years now has somehow conditioned me to block out some of these things knowing that some people are going to agree with you and some people aren’t and not everybody is going to know the whole full story but everybody is going to want to say something (good or bad).
In this particular case though, some found it funny some didn’t. While Princess at first found it funny, Angela cried so like it or not I think the entry itself went overboard. For that I have apologized to Angela and agreed to totally stop this ongoing “soulmate” tease that started from the very beginning,
Just recently somebody e-mailed me a quote
“Never explain yourself. Your friends don’t need it, your enemies won’t believe it”.
That’s true and untrue in so many ways. One of those things that perhaps sound good in theory but perhaps not in practice. Either ways, to the friends who didn’t need an explanation. Thank you for being who you were.
I’m just very glad the 3 of you have ironed things out between yourselves, like i knew you would.
It takes a very loving relationship and friendship to withstand all the nasty comments and temporarily unwished-for limelight. 🙂
“And if he didn’t know how much Angela meant to me he wouldn’t be able to describe our friendship so well in the first paragraphs.”
That is absolutely right, and it made me surprised that he actually wrote that (i thought he was just paraphrasing).
I thought it was funny because the moment the paragraph hit when you/he denounced angela as your soulmate i knew it was a joke. No decent human being would ever do that for real to anyone. It’s unfortunate people believed it, hence the anger.
Meanwhile, it’s nice to know there’s no trouble between angie, tim and you. Thank you for clearing things up and i hope this week is better for you!
i can feel that you really love tim alot…!
its nice to have a lover bf and a lover best friend… some of us are not as blessed as u…
anyway, hope u, Tim and Angie will have a great week ahead… take care… =)
Cause you know, my life is so exciting (sarcastic) I missed out on all the drama but whatevs okay, I still <3 you, woman! *sends you big big big hugs and pretty things from Aussieland*
I miss Aussieland T_T
Anyway I buy you ice cream ok audrey!
tim: people asked for an explanation because they care. in life we have lots of explaining to do, to everyone who we care about and everyone who cares about us.
what’s the big deal lah seriously?
it’s just a blog, a personal blog at that. not like fourfeetnine is the malaysian parliament wtf. some ppl so serious for what?
don’t worry lah you two. if it’s any comfort, i get it much worse on my blog anyway.
i wrote about how much i enjoy my trip to ireland, and some idiot commented that i am a racist white-loving son of a bitch who hates his own race.
Yeah, totally agree with you all. When u try to make it look not so serious by joking, ppl insult your brain. Arent they themselves an idiot too like the previous post, so many nasty comments!!
Anyway, Tim, Aud and Angie, you guys know the real ‘love’, so there is need for explanation at all.
when i read the harsh comments on tim, i feel so bad for him!
there’s 2 types of person
1st, a person who made mistakes but never realize his own mistakes n never apologize.
2nd, a person who made mistakes but he realize his own mistakes n apologize.
before that, im very sure he is the 2nd type!
to harsh people : forgive n forget it!
what do you consider as “nasty” comments? i thought Tim was harsh in the previous entry and so i wrote so. if whatever comments such as “it’s not funny”, “it’s too much”, “too mean” “cruel” etc is nasty to you, better you don’t even write anything public because you can’t take other people’s view. sure, we all know you were joking and angela said it’s okay about it.
one more thing i don’t quite understand, why is it Aud who clarify things but not Tim? it’s him who wrote the entry. it’s him who lead to this (again i’m not blaming him for hurting angela. i know he was JOKING BUT IT WENT WRONG WAY).
i like the “piece of clay in heaven” analogy!! (:
Everything will be fine.
Cheer up, everybody, especially Tim, Angie and Audrey.
T_T
i din write anything bad, oh maybe just “tim so bad for bullying Angie”
Sorry for that. i din mean anything bad for that also.
I just love reading all your post, but i am nobody in your real life, therefore i wont discuss which action should u take or who is the mean and bad1″
Cheer up~
This week only got 4 working DAYS!!
Nothing is happier than that right. =.=”
I am so lazy.
Audrey, don’t blame yourself. It’s not your fault because you cannot control how each individual would interpret every sentence that is written in a post.
I believe Tim wouldn’t have meant to hurt either of you with this. And to tell the truth, I did have a laugh when he admitted defeat at the end of his post. He knows his place 😉
Time to show some support guys, if not Audrey will take a longer time to get back to her usual happy-go-lucky self!
hey Audrey, hopefully this is a better week for you!
keep blogging, miss your project 365
not a big deal larsssss..
I thought it was very funny and witty of Tim. It was a really good post. He definitely does not deserve all those bad comments. He didn’t know that Angie was in a bad mood. I’m sure she has a better sense of humour if she wasn’t down.
I thought that the entry was funny lehh… was laughing when I read it wad… how come so many ppl took it the wrong way ahh??
and I especially like the “Never explain yourself. Your friends don’t need it, your enemies won’t believe it” quote… so so true… 🙂
work four days only this week… gonna party hard coming Thursday liaw!! cheer up!!
It was just a harmless joke which happened at a bad timing when angie’s facing some personal stuff.
tim was nice and brave to apologise, aud was nice to clarify things and angie was nice to forgive and forget.
those that aren’t happy abt wat tim did, then maybe u all shud stop reading aud’s/tim’s blog instead of trying to stir up a rife.
Unless the commentators know you or Tim or Angela personally, I don’t think any of them have the right to make any judgement on Tim as a person.
Some even commented Tim is so horrible la mean la whatever la but they failed to stop and think that they are actually being very very VERY shallow! True, Tim may got a bit overboard and did it in a bad timing but it’s the comments that made it as if he just killed someone!
Please don’t make fourfeetnine.com into a controversial blog! Audrey, please don’t feel demotivated to blog and I wish you well in your work. I screwed up last week two…twice! T_______T
kei: nasty comments? comments insulting someone else’s mother are definitely nasty. also, when did i say “not funny” or “too mean” was a nasty comment? i never even used the word ‘nasty’.:)
tim has clarified it, by the way. again, pls remember that this post is just a courtesy extended to the people who have been reading. thanks. 🙂
it s human nature..
different interpretation and view bring arguments and harsh comments..
jz take it as part of life 🙂
cheers~ for our fantastic life!
at least it s not so dull..hehe 🙂
Aww hope the things you are upset about at the moment in your life would be resolved with the comfort of your 2soulmates (lucky son of a …).
i love reading both you and tim’s blog. i actually look forward for new entries (please update like everyday possibly every hour heehhe). anyway tims entry for you was one of the amusing ones. although i just started reading both of your blogs but in the end i did catch that tim was just joking 🙂 anyways just to say hi
u r such an arrogant and shallow bastard.enough said.
ps*we don’t need to know how much does the gift u bought for ming costs.
even an idiot is smart enough to remove the price tag off the box before taking a picure of that.
Those comments really added “cili api” to the post…
Wishing you 3 all the best, live life to the fullest =D
it was those negative comments thrown by the ones related to aud that were the destructive ones imho.
why would they even comment about it publicly? Doesn’t it make things more awkward between tim,aud,angela?
I know they care hence the comments. Making em public hmm just inappropriate.
It’s probably impossible for you not to take to heart the mean things some people said to you or about the ones you love because, obviously you care about them alot and you unconsciously take those comments too hard but just be glad those who matter are standing by you and those who don’t stand by you, don’t matter. =]
Like Ubi said, live life to the fullest. Life is too short and complicated as it is, don’t make it any harder. =]
yay new post! i still love reading ur blog 🙂
1) I thought the letter was rather cute. Boyfriends being jealous in public are always cute.
2) You deserve some respect for wanting to clarify things. It shows that you have a certain regard for those reading your blog. You could have simply said, personal blog, personal business so shut up.
I dare not comment in previous post because there were many angry people in there. And that post got you 127 comments (be it good or bad one). It just goes on to show how much people enjoys drama?
I personally think it was funny. Cuz if he had meant it, he wouldn’t have admitted that he wrote it. He would have purposely left out the last part and let Angie thought it was you. So I did not find it too bad or mean. =)) I hope you guys will all be chirpy and happy again so that I get to read more cute and funny posts.
i liked the clay in heaven analogy too. but do pardon me for thinking that that’s the reason you’re so petite and cute, because your clay got separated into two 😛
cheer up aud! hope won’t be seeing anymore Audangry posts… 🙂
i think the people are to over act.. thinks that they are not doing any mistaken in their life.. Man are not perfect at all ok.. dont worry.. =D
forget about those who are inconsiderate to other’s feelings. they are only some minorities when compared to your supporters.
stay tough, you’ll always have tim and angela beside you, as you are the ATA team (oooppsss, shouldn’t create that).
big big hug from Melbourne! don’t be upset k? 🙂
i thought it was funny. sigh.
damn! i hate idiots who cant keep nasty things to themselves.
take care audrey! *hugs*
i actually give “props” to tim for writing this post.. wow, 127 comments were generated!!! it was creative and when i read it, i knew it was obviously a JOKE!
tim, audrey… you both rock!!
aud, although i only read your blog once in a while (ok lah actually i come in here everyday after reading suet hehe), i know it wasn’t you who wrote the previous post. honestly i don’t like that post lor so i just read half way and left liao. in my opinion, i think lahh, this is your blog and maybe not to appropriate to let others to post things here. dun flame me, that’s my personal opinion. anyway, happy you’ve got 2 soulmates! you’re right..some just never find theirs..like me 🙁
I didn’t know about those comments until you blog about it.Obviously, tim was just joking around in the post.
I guess it’s really not easy to be a famous blogger….. =(
c’mon…those who thought it was offending…you can choose not to read it.. not liking it.. dun read.. tat’s it.. why would you need to go all the way to condemn him.. stick this _|_ or 3==D up your arse!…look at aud… poor little girl caught in this fracas spurred by these irresponsible comments…
It has been an awful weekend for all, I’m sure. Its a joke that went terribly wrong. A clarification has been made, an apology was extended and the apology was accepted.Lets all move on, remembering the lesson whilst forgeting the anger.
nice post =)
everythings fine now..yay!!. it just shows how popular you guys are..hehe!!
*HUGS*
What touches me the most: your sincerity.
This is the element that keeps me as one of your silent readers.
*CHEERS*
seriously it wasn’t a bad joke. just that tim played this joke at a terrible time, tht’s why angie was SO affected by it.
anyway everyone make mistakes at certain point of thier life. so why keep harping on this. just move on.
a joke is not meant to be taken seriously.
nothin can be undone now so move on people. and feel betta soon aye.
i pretty much agree with what ed says, unfortunately. HMM.
doh: get a life mate. Problem has been solved. Its people like you who creates war in this world. Its the minority that brings grieve and agony to this world. So stay they way you are and keep away from the majority of people who agrees with the 3 of them.
oh man i didnt know it was so serious! i totally thought Tim’s post was hilarious and so clever.. i guess it really wrong timing… c hin up girl! 😀 stay strong