Today I want to talk about makeup!
No, no more useless makeup tutorials.
But I once used this quote “There are no ugly women, only lazy ones”
The quote is attributed to Helena Rubinstein who surprise surprise was a beauty magnate and the eponym of Helena Rubinstein Inc.
And i got a very interesting comment.
I am confused by your recent realization that this statement is not exactly or at all true. Many women are comfortable in their own skin, and do not care for makeup. Many women as you mentioned, have little experience in it, or are scared as first time makeup explorers. My question is why would it take you, a well cultured and open minded person, so long to realize such a simple fact?
Encouraging such a vane and utterly insulting statement speaks badly of you and your character. It makes your bio in the ‘why am I so cute’ section seem uglier and more superficial. Plainly, what gives you the right to have such a heavy assumption on other women who don’t wear makeup? That they are just lazy because they go bare faced?
Some may have the exact opposite view towards you who wears makeup all the time, or at least in all the pictures you show on your blog, sans the ‘before’ makeup pix. Many would call you insecure and fake.
Would that be ok? To have such an antithesis saying as “there are no ugly women, only insecure ones who hide behind makeup”?
Not trying to start a fight of any sort, just sharing my own opinions on your saying as someone who goes natural and barely uses makeup.
Damn, she writes quite well wtf.
Most of what the commenter said is true actually.
TRUE: I think I can be extremely shallow. I frequently judge people based on how they look and I tend to think better of people with nice noses or shoes.
TRUE: The quote is inaccurate. Obviously there are many reasons why a woman may not wear makeup.
However, how I think Helena Rubinstein meant it, and how I certainly saw it, is that every woman can be beautiful if she takes care of her appearance (and health). I say it all the time because I believe in the power of makeup.
But recently I was involved in a project with Maybelline and I met a lot of women who were too afraid to wear makeup because they didn’t know how to and they were glad I could teach them. So yea I guess I’ve been using that quote in the shallowest sense.
I’m also narrow minded FML.
I believe there are definitely women out there who are comfortable in their own skin and are okay going out barefaced. But I also believe that no woman would say no to looking even better than she normally does. And no man either. It’s human vanity what.
So why let fear stop you!!!!!!!!!!! What are you afraid of? The mascara wand poking your eye? If I asked you to draw on eyeliner with your big toe, then go out to give a speech, you’d be terrified and rightly so.
But why be afraid of learning how to put on makeup? If you get it wrong, rub it off and try again. You don’t even have to leave the house if you don’t like how it looks. That’s how I learned. And probably every other girl who wears makeup. Everyone learns by making mistakes and practicing.
If you’re gonna be scared I’d rather you be scared about driving for the first time than putting on makeup. At least your life is not at risk!
But on the other hand I’ve also met so many women who don’t wear makeup who’d peer interestedly at my face and ask me how long I took to get ready every morning. Or how I put on my fake lashes.
Btw I can get ready in 15 minutes ok! #successkid.jpg #9gaggirlfriend
Then they’d say they don’t have the time or can’t be bothered to do it every morning.
So if you say you can’t be bothered, wouldn’t it be safe to say that you’re too lazy to put on makeup?
Same like how I’m too lazy to exercise. Or too lazy to get up to get a drink of water so I’d get dehydrated wtf.
My laziness does overwhelm my vanity sometimes and that’s when I’ll go to work with no makeup and glasses and look like a demon. It goes back to priorities. Your desire to look good versus the desire to have an extra ten minutes in bed.
How strong your priorities rank is a different thing. Like maybe your urge to look beautiful is stronger than say your fear of pain so you go for plastic surgery. But that’s not what we’re talking about now la.
For me, I don’t think it’s about insecurity. If I was insecure I wouldn’t post ugly or barefaced photos of myself here.
I think it’s just about that I like looking pretty. And I think it’s also a sign of respect to the people I meet that they matter enough for me to take an extra effort before I see them.
If you think you’re ugly and makeup and clothes are not worth it, you’re wrong! I’ve seen many women who may be called unattractive by superficial media standards take care to style themselves to their advantage and I respect them all the more for it.
I don’t mind being called insecure. I’d rather look pretty and be called insecure than look like a chicken backside and be applauded for my confidence.
And there are studies that indicate that people who look good lead easier lives. Why would you not want that!?!
Handsome men earn, on average, 5 percent more than their less-attractive counterparts (good-looking women earn 4 percent more) (source)
Fifty-seven percent of hiring managers told NEWSWEEK that qualified but unattractive candidates are likely to have a harder time landing a job, while more than half advised spending as much time and money on “making sure they look attractive” as on perfecting a résumé. (source)
One explanation for attractive people achieving more in life is that we automatically categorize others before having an opportunity to evaluate their personalities, based on cultural stereotypes which say attractive people must be intrinsically good, and ugly people must be inherently bad. (source)
I’m just doing myself a favor wtf.
That said, attractive women may also be stereotyped as dumb, materialistic, snobbish or vain. Or insecure, as commenter said.
Some narrow minded villager also tweeted recently that Timothy Tiah’s fiancee wears fake lashes and enlarging lenses, and has Bambi-like features therefore she must be high maintenance.
I told him that was narrow minded of him and unfair to every girl who wears makeup. He replied the world is unfair wtf and he likes being narrow minded hahahaha so I left the frog in the well. Aih the suffering of the good looking WTF WTF.
But true ah the world is unfair. And superficial.
Like I said I’m just doing myself a favor 😛 What do you think?
edit: thank you everyone for so many deep and insightful comments 😀
however, i think it needs to be clarified that i’ve mostly referred to the quote in the context of makeup but i think again i’m looking at it froma very narrow perspective. it’s actually more than that – it’s about taking care of yourself on a physical (and emotional level) so you look and function at your best.
that being said, the reasons i’ve mentioned about about why a woman may not groom herself reflect her inner motivations. i’m not talking about other unavoidable factors like health, religious reasons if any wtf, or husband is crazy and doesn’t let her put on makeup, etc. thanks!