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First World Problems (Baby & mother edition)

I’d like to pretend I’m special and unique and all but let’s face it, my biggest #firstworldproblem like every other vain-ish female is standing in front of my closet and going “I have nothing to wear!”

This week, we realized my son has the same #firstworldproblem.

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This is him wearing a tshirt. Lolol. (He’s had all his IV lines off so yay he can wear clothes now.)

I read baby books when I was pregnant and they all recommended buying baby clothes in sizes 3-6 months or more because “babies grow in the blink of an eye” and we could just roll up sleeves until the babies grew into them.  They said this was the best way to get the most mileage out of their clothes.

So I followed their advice.

How was I to know I’d have a preemie wtf.  The 3-6 months clothes are so big for him he might as well be wearing MY clothes wtf.

We stopped by Mothercare on the way back from the hospital one day and they told us they’d stopped stocking premature clothing because there was no demand (?) No demand? I demand preemie baby clothes now!

I’m still in confinement so I shouldn’t be traipsing over town looking for shops so I thought Fighter would just have to suck it up and swim around in XL shirts for a while.

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But today I received a package of preemie and extra small newborn clothing — sent by a reader in Singapore.  Thank you so much Jolene!!!! You really saved us a lot of hassle!

Sometimes I get emo and think “why me? Why did I get preeclampsia” or “why does my baby have to be premature?” but then again I think that if someone else was in our situation, they wouldn’t have gotten the outpouring of care and support that Fatty and I did from our readers.  So actually we are lucky.  Thank you ^^

So Fighter’s #firstworldproblem solved.

Mine still in existence please.

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These days I’m either in button down shirts and leggings…

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or pajamas only.

Super motherly I beh tahan.

Like I’ve mentioned before, part of the reason I always wear button shirts now is for easy access for Fighter to breastfeed.

But jeggings is because I really cannot fit into ANY of my old pants or shorts anymore.  Trust me I tried.  On a weekly basis wtf.

Since childbirth (3 weeks ago) I’ve actually lost about 12kg wtf.

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This was my foot (and leg) before HAHAHAH.  Ooib said it looks very cute WTF.  Ok this was also due to my very bad fluid retention la hahaha.

Now my feet look normal la hahaha like in the pajama picture above la.  So all the water is gone but I’ve still got 4kg extra clinging on, probably all around my middle.

My tummy has  gone down a lot although it’s not totally flat — it just looks like I ate a big meal.  I read that this little pouch is common in women who’ve had C sections because after cutting through the skin and first layer, the doctor has to separate the abdominal muscles first before they can get to the uterus, and this separation of muscles is what causes the pouch.

So I have that pouch.  And I seriously suspect that my hips (or pelvic bones?) have gotten wider.  Does that happen with pregnancy!?  Both hips and waist seem wider now although I can’t tell if it’s fat or did my pelvic bones separate and become wider?

Everyone says give it time, it will go back to normal.  I kind of think that this is for forever wtf but ok la just give it time and see how.  But in the meantime, is the Malay urut and bengkung something I should consider?  Everyone says it’s damn good but then I thought the urut is to massage wind out or to massage your boobs for milk.  I don’t think I have wind anymore and I definitely have milk wtf.

Others say it’s to massage your uterus back into place?  But I’m pretty sure my uterus is also back in place now wtf, and it’s just fat around my tummy area.  And does the bengkung really help?  If you remove it won’t your flabby tummy just spring out again wtf.  If anyone knows anything, please advise!

In the meantime, I need new and bigger clothes!!!

I’m a bit tired of the usual F21, Topshop, Zara all but I don’t really know any good online stores!  Some more now everyday back and forth from hospital no time to go to a mall anyway.  So please leave recommendations for nice stores if you know ’em!

I don’t like too feminine or OL kind of clothing; aiya you all know roughly what I like la right hahaha.  Sorry this post a lot of questions ah!

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Thanks in advance!!

 

  • Vanessa

    ASOS has everything! I think they have worldwide free shipping, too.

  • Lulu

    you’re so funny la. nnBut anyway, my baby is now 11 months. I still have 8 kgs to lose but I definetely lost alot already but I think ah, like what you said the hips and waist got bigger. My tummy smaller la, but the hips part is like wider permanently wtf cannot fit into my old shorts (so sad). nnAnd the bengkung part. When the massage lady wrapped your stomach up, u feel damn fit so siok see so thin, but actually ya the tummy fats never go away also wtf haha. but just to make myself feel better, I did a two weeks one. And got angin still in the body, so don’t go think no more wind. No harm having body massage everyday what unless you don’t like body massage la!

  • Fourfeetnine

    I’m too lazy to sift through the billion things on Asos hahahaha

  • Lulu

    Just to let you know, the bengkung the tummy part will be uncomfortable sometimes also, or maybe most of the time. Like sitting up, then moving around coz it’s very tight. So you have to tahan la. Coz no point u wrap 2 hours. Waste money. Haha. The longest I wrapped on was 24 hours till the next day the lady come. Haha and that was ONCE only. The rest of the time 16/17 hours like that coz it gets itchier. Coz put some herbs medicine and then wrap you up. So ya very itchy one wtf. Just have to tahan, can u tahan? :p

  • Jocelyn

    http://www.little-tots-store.com/article_104/Do-Postpartum-Belly-Wraps-really-work.htmnnHere's one about why and how Bengkung works~ I did saw on other sites before, that it doesn’t actually push your fats out, but holds your organs back in place. (Since your other organs shifts a little from Fighter growing inside~) Though, I think consulting the doctor if you’re okay to go with this kind of binds. Different people have different bodies after all~ Just to be on the safe side ^^

  • Evi

    don’t have any babies so can’t comment on your post-maternity wear, but i work in a pumpkin patch in australia and we stock prem clothes for babies 🙂 comes in prem sizes and tiny prem sizes 🙂

  • jo

    why don’t you use a hip shrinker? it’s called Shrinkx Hips. i bought it and have been using it daily. but i think you need to be hardworking to wear it.nhere’s the link:nnhttp://www.shrinkxhips.com/productsnnMALAYSIAnShrinkx HipsnBloom & Grown603-4162-2318njonathan@bloomandgrowasia.comn nWalking WingsnMy Miracle Babynstaff@mymiraclebaby.com.sgnnhopefully it works… at least i think it does.

  • Sam

    Hi Aud,nFor Asos you can just search petite clothes, since you are petite right, then you wouldn’t have to sift through that many items. I love ASOS, not very cheap but quality is seriously not bad. But a word of advice, if you want to order there, pay for express shipping, because that way you can track your order and it will come to you latest by 5 days. If not, through standard shipping, I have either received my order more than 1 month late, or completely lost my order with no way to find for it.

  • Sam

    Hi Aud,nFor Asos you can just search petite clothes, since you are petite right, then you wouldn’t have to sift through that many items. I love ASOS, not very cheap but quality is seriously not bad. But a word of advice, if you want to order there, pay for express shipping, because that way you can track your order and it will come to you latest by 5 days. If not, through standard shipping, I have either received my order more than 1 month late, or completely lost my order with no way to find for it.

  • Sam

    Hi Aud,nFor Asos you can just search petite clothes, since you are petite right, then you wouldn’t have to sift through that many items. I love ASOS, not very cheap but quality is seriously not bad. But a word of advice, if you want to order there, pay for express shipping, because that way you can track your order and it will come to you latest by 5 days. If not, through standard shipping, I have either received my order more than 1 month late, or completely lost my order with no way to find for it.

  • jc

    you didnt update us how is ur bp ! are you getting better now ? how is your bp now ? take care !!!

  • S

    Get nursing tops and dresses Audrey! And even nursing pjs! Very much convenient when fighter comes back and u need to nurse him often.. Those with zippers are the easiest andost convenient 😉

  • S

    Forgot to add that gmarket has tons of nice And affordable nursing wear haha. I gave birth 3 months back, and I also realised my hip area has widened ;( did natural birth though! I didn’t know that c sec moms would face the same problem too..

  • Fourfeetnine

    Maybe it’s the pregnancy, not the delivery method. And nursing clothes are necessary but I want to know about normal trendy clothes shops haha not nursing or maternityy

  • http://www.pinkandundecided.blogspot.com mindy

    Hi Aud, i have a 6 year old son so i probably answer a few of your questions :). Don’t worry about your stomach, i think whatever type of tummy you used to have, it can go back to its original shape. I am heavier than before my pregnancy now, but my tummy’s completely flat (even though i have a big thighs and arms, that’s just my body shape and cannot nlame it on pregnancy haha. However, i do think that your pelvic bones (and in my case, even rib cage) can spread biegger than it used to be, i measured. And i think bengkung (or what we can bebet in Indonesian) does help, maybe more in a wah a corsett would, but i don’t think it helped with the spreading of pelvic/ribcage problem (and i did bebet religiously for 40 days after giving birth). I hope my answers helps 🙂

  • http://www.pinkandundecided.blogspot.com mindy

    Sorry, lots of typos, i sucked at typing in this stupid tablet. I meant i probably can answer a few of your questions. Blame nor nlame, bigger not biegger, way not wah!

  • amalina

    bengkung can help your waist and hip to shrink back to pre-pregnancy and even maybe smaller. But that will only happens if you wear it diligently for 3 to 6months. But for c-sect, you may need doc advice first. Plus, i feel much much comfortable wearing bengkung as it support my pouch and my back.n I also kena csect, only wear bengkung after 3 months, but I regretted not wearing it long enough and diligently. haih….

  • alohamolly

    I love these nursing wear which can still be worn post-nursing. And it really helps me to feel more “comfy” while nursing my baby anytime, anywhere 🙂 Plus it’s real comfy..nnHere’s an e.g., of online shop i used to visit: http://www.fabulousmom.com/catalog/index.php?cPath=21_82nnI believe there are more others, just an e.g. 😉 Glad to hear that u got abundance of milk for fighter! Keep up the good work Audrey!

  • Mickey

    c-section cannot go for bengkung…

  • Sylvia

    Missze.com has quite a lot of nice clothes.. and the quality is nice though.. Hope this website can help you.. Btw take care Aud =)

  • Jo Anna

    Another place you may wanna drop by is Chubby Chubby @ Desa Park City – https://www.facebook.com/pages/Chubbychubby-Baby-House/109721232442706nnCheers,nannayein

  • Jessica Lai

    Hi aud,nI just gave birth in July.nThe massage not only aid in the sliming down. It also helps in the body blood circulation.nI lost 7.5inches in total after seven sessions.

  • KY

    hahaha you foot previously looked like “mee ku” !

  • Anonymous

    I had the same flappy tummy/stomach after giving birth. I used a shapewear underneath my clothes and it does help to firm up the muscles faster… Good Luck!

  • sy

    hello aud, mayb u can try http://en.stylenanda.com/ nIt’s based in korea and i love their clothes so much.nN i m a new mother with a 6 weeks son.n;-P

  • lq

    can try nnhttp://www.smoochthelabel.com/nhttp://www.runwaybandits.com/nn

  • ponikuta

    Found this video from a popular Taiwanaese blogger, you might find it useful for breastfeeding. nnhttp://www.chiaow.com/2013-09-04-breast-milk/

  • sss

    hi! just thought I would drop by to say I’m glad your baby is doing better now! 🙂 Been visiting your blog often to get updates. 🙂

  • Anonymous

    Hello gorgeous mammy!!! Welcome back…feels like on a roller coaster ride with you these few months! Thanks for sharing everything on this blog!!nnyou could trynhttp://www.peachcloset.com

  • F

    ASOS.com is great for online clothes shopping, what I like to do (since I can never trust sizing because it differs from brand to brand) is buy in two or 3 sizes (one your usual size, one larger, one smaller), try them all on then post back the ones that don’t fit. nnNot sure about Malaysia, but I know for USA/EU/ UK they have a free returns postage for you to return the clothes (in the original packaging, undamaged, no weird perfumes) and they’ll refund the money. Should be the same for M’sia, but double check anyway.nnI cried reading your blog entries about the pregnancy + birth, (as someone who hasn’t had children yet, its so scary!)and I wish you, the Mr and Fighter all the best!

  • Jyannis

    Hi Aud – glad to see you and Fighter both looking well. I recommend ASOS.com for clothes – they have various sizes and prices are reasonable, and I think they are returnable as well if you find them unsuitable. nnAlso – apologies for the late reply on the question of CPAP – it really differs person to person. Some people find it unbearable but some find it okay. I hope Fighter belongs to the latter category. I couldn’t take it but at the moment when I needed it, my lung capacity was falling close to less than 20% functionality so that also may be the reason why it was so difficult for me (it felt like the mask was sucking me in and I still couldn’t breathe). So please don’t think too much, I’m sorry for putting the question of Fighter’s discomfort into your head. Anyhow, he’s off it now and I hope he will never need it ever again in his life. 🙂

  • g

    actually FOS kids outlet got a lot of preemie clothew 🙂

  • linda

    Asos, boohoo.com, nastygal, theiconic, urban outfitters, jcrew, net-a-porter, the outnet are some of the brilliant ones. Asos has too many things which can sometimes be annoying but you can always preselect the criteria for what you are looking for eg monochrome, stripes, colour block etc? Good luck and have fun online shopping!

  • Anonymous

    you may go to FOS to look for baby clothes. They have super small (can fit premature) baby clothes. Its cheaper also. Btw, i have a premature baby too, and not surprise even though my lo is already 1yrs+ but he still can fit clothes from 6-9mo. Mine does not grow as fast as normal baby so his clothes can wear very long time.

  • Amy

    I recommend this online store http://www.fe.com.my/. Has a wide range of clothing. Or http://www.phatculture.com/ mainly because they offer free delivery and keeps up to date with trends. nnReally glad Fighter is doing well and he is so cute!! ^^ Hwaiting!

  • MP

    This site is having some sales now – https://www.facebook.com/FashionReduxBoutiq Hope this helps! btw once again, congrats on motherhood. May you, tim and fighter/baby jude always be happy and healthy.

  • Jeri

    Asos, boohoo, Choies, Romwe

  • zahra

    Hi mommy…. Fighter is so cute… My prayers goes for him… love u baby Fightern

  • iVy

    hi audrey, saw baby GAP is selling preemie bb clothes, u might try to get from there.

  • Zat

    Hi Aud, thank you for sharing your stories with us. you’re a strong & loving mom. lots of love to your beautiful family 🙂

  • Crys

    Hi there this is my first time leaving a comment on your blog! I’ve been a silent reader for a long time! I thought I would recommend a few online shops, most are from the US, UK and AU. Hope you find them useful! :)nNastygal, boohoo, revolveclothing, shopbop, urbanoutfitters, charlotterusse, inlovewithfashion, Supre!n

  • Zlata Rege

    Now, very easy to get preemie or small size newborn clothes in Singapore with Tiny Babies online store. http://www.tinybabies.com.sg