I don’t normally bother with haters/trolls/online assholes because none of what they say usually affects me.
Say I’m ugly? You liar. Lolol.
Say I’m short? True what, and so?
Basically most of the time I’m very thick skinned and overly confident so no comments from strangers bother me much. Lolol.
But I thought a recent cyber bullying incident was something I should write about.
It started when Fatty posted this picture of Fighter on Instagram. Honestly we thought it was damn cute because Fighter was getting burped here after his meal and his yellow onesie and sitting position made him look like a duckling.
To summarize, these two users @ixirahon and @agentbabypink/@xiiiromaxiii came in and started urging to “pray for Fighter’s soul“.
I got very offended because I thought it was very pantang (taboo) to talk like Fighter was dying when he wasn’t! It affected me a lot because the truth is, the preeclampsia could have killed both me and Fighter, and the wounds (literal and figurative) and fear were still very raw, and here was this stranger, talking about my baby’s death so flippantly.
I calmed myself down though and decided to give them the benefit of the doubt. I replied, “can you please stop saying that? he is doing very well and is not on the verge of death. if you want to pray, pray for his health, not his soul.”
@ixirahon replied that she “thought he was about to die 😉 she really didn’t know, and she would not just pray for his soul, she would also pray for his health.”
At this point I still wasn’t sure what her intentions were. While her tone was nice enough, she didn’t actually apologize for what I saw as a curse on Fighter. And she put a winking smiley which normally signifies a joke. Was this a joke to her?
I also saw her leave similar comments about praying for Fighter’s soul on my other pictures but I assumed she had left them before I replied her so again, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and left it at that.
Then further down the thread, her friend @xiiiromaxiii commented that Fighter looked like an alien and included a thumbs down emoji.
I lost it. I replied:
The next day, I woke up to their comments flooding my Instagram page and Fatty’s.
These two were batshit crazy.
I thought about why I reacted so strongly to their initial comment and I think I figured it out. While they were saying ill of Fighter, the tone of the comments didn’t seem to be bad. So the scared emotional mom side of me thought “why would they say this? Do they know something I dont?”
But when they went all out to leave shitty comments it actually wasn’t so bad. Now I knew they were just trying to cause hurt and would say anything. I was angry but at least I wasn’t worried or scared.
They left a lot more comments on dozens of our pictures. Much creepier, they created a new Instagram account, @ixirandbabypink (which has now been deleted) on which they posted pictures of Fighter (stolen from our accounts), chanted condolences and accused me of taking “illegal drugs” hence causing Fighter to be born premature. -_- Dunno why must specifically say illegal drugs cannot be legal ah wtf.
A lot of people scolded them and looking at the way they replied and posted, they either were (a) genuinely nuts or (b) very very young and also crazy and unaware of how much meaning their words carried.
I found one of their Facebook profiles wtf which I will not reveal here. The shocking thing is, that girl had a university degree and a lot of her postings and pictures involved a little boy who was obviously her son or at least a child dear to her. I dunno I can’t read Tagalog.
The other bully on the other hand, I found was married. Because her husband came and tried to defend her actions. :X I honestly thought they were stupid teenagers — it was quite horrifying that they’re probably similar in age and situation to me.
So we are all educated. We’re all married and at least two of us have a son. And yet they can do what they did to me.
So I wrote this on her Facebook:
“i’m audrey, the person whom u and your friend have been harassing on instagram. from your fb, you seem to be a nice person who loves her own kid so i have no idea why you would try so hard to cause us pain.
tbh i was upset when you said “pray for my baby’s soul” because you seemed to imply he was dying. but i couldn’t tell if you meant it so i replied you civilly. but your comment about him looking like an alien tipped me over.
does it make you happy to keep saying my baby is dead? what if i said daniel or whoever your child is will die? at least one of you is a wife and a mom so i can’t understand why you can act like this. ironic but you started off saying to pray for fighter’s soul but now i’m telling you i will pray for your soul, you need it more. i hope you grow out of this and your baby is well.
I totally killed them with kindness lolol. If I continued to reply them angrily they would reply in kind .. so I thought I’d appeal to her humanity. And there is a conscience to her after all!
Since then, they have both contacted me and apologized. To be honest I’m not sure if I totally believed them since some things didn’t tally but I accepted their apologies and it’s over.
But I told them that I intended to blog about this to remind people that our actions and words can cause more damage than you think, because you might not know what someone might be going through privately.
Already had to go through a month of hell in hospital then now have to deal with these two imbeciles. What if I had still been in my depressed state? What if their stupid thoughtless comments pushed me over the edge and I committed suicide wtf. A bit far fetched la hahaha. But what if they decided to pick on someone with less support, less stable or weaker than me?
So the next time you want to leave a nasty comment, think again. I never understood people who do that anyway.
P/S: I just realized their cyber bully profile on Instagram, @ixirandbabypink is still up, and it’s still full of Fighter’s pics. although they have deleted the nasty captions. Can you guys please go report it for abusive content/harassment or copyright infringement or something? Thank you!
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I do hope you’ll take legal action against these bitches soon..cuz they clearly deserve to go to hell.
Really?? I didn’t see those comments, where are they?
Wah you so resourceful hahaha
What’s their new instagram names?
Now that we know their names, how about a little payback guys? I suggest sending the bullying story together wit their names and pictures to a TV station in Philippines so that those bitches can be shamed on the national television.
Dear Aud, I am a new mom also and I can imagine how you felt when reading those mean comments. please stay strong. You have 10000 supporters who pray for you and Fighter, those 2 haters do not worth your time. please keep us posted about Fighter’s improvements 🙂
No user found. I guess they set it private or it already had been suspended from Instagram (if that possible). Anyway, I wish you the best & tremendous health for your baby and hope Fighter will fight for this so don’t give up. FIGHTING!!!! 🙂
hi Aud, i’ve reported their instagram accounts for spam… just to let you know that you can know their new user names from going back to your old posts which they have commented on. the old comments will still remain but the user names will be the new ones that they have created.
btw, their new IG names are ixirao09 and iaintpissed
What is WRONG with these people?nHow can they wish harm on someone who has done nothing to them? nYou and Tim and Fighter don’t need this shit -_____________-nHang in there, ok?
Cut those finger nails pls. C’mon he is so fragile. Even xiaxue was mindful enough to cut her nails and removed the nail color before she gave birth. And what’s the point of u to keep those ugly nails?!
audrey be strong n just ignore themni’ll do pray that Fighter will be more healthy, happier baby because fighter have super mom n dad. ndon’t be too depressed,not good for your own health 🙂
Dont bother with those low class pinoys, they troll everywhere from blogs to forums to games and everyone else is avoiding them like germs.
Well excuse me for getting preeclampsia and getting hospitalized and being locked down for 2 months. And sorry for not knowing that I would have preeclampsia and getting gel nails which split my real nail when I cut it myself. I don’t know why i bothered to explain myself to a rude lurker like you. Yuck.
Hey, I drop by your blog occasionally and have been following your updates about you and your baby. I don’t understand why such people exist in the world, but I hope you’ll stay strong and do what you have to do to fend off such people. I will be pissed off as well if I’m in your shoes. Fighter looks good, and I like his sparkly big eyes.
Hi Audrey.nI’m wondering why you only replied to those trolls or haters in your blog comment section? There are many positive and encouraging comments but you dont give the effort to reply? I’m wondering, really.
So sorry you have to go through this….stay positive and keep being awesome!nDon’t worry about these people who comment here and in other social media who are only either trying to make themselves feel important or just want to put ppl down.
Geez!! That people is sooo rude! I dont know why people can be so rude like that! Over a premature baby too… Really heartless.. People think on social media or internet, they can say anything and release their bad side maybe? But truth is we still have to be responsible of what we said on internet just as much as what we said on real life. Words can hurt. But Im glad that you still can be strong and I love what you said to those bully/rude persons. People like that will only getting more crazier if we reply them with anger. 🙂 Anyway, I can’t wait to see Fighter grow taller and bigger!! He already looks so cute now, he’ll be even cuter for next few month!! 😀 Hope he can grow healthier..
Actually it’s a really bad habit. I used to reply all my comments until I got hospitalized and couldn’t although I read them all. Now I still forget to reply but I usually have a comeback that I wanna say to the mean comments so I reply right away. nnYou’re right though I should reply more comments and not just the bad ones D:
Haha we like his sparkly eyes too!
You mean the same people? Or different ones?
Not depressed leh hahaha
*hangs and seings
Oh we blocked them so their comments disappeared. Thanks though!
Shorties unite!
I suspect the two ladies are just jealous about your good life, good looks and great husband. Being ridiculously mean is an understatement!
Fighter looks perfectly fine!! What a sweet baby 🙂 good job mommy & daddy!nnDon’t forget who you & your husband are, what you’ve worked hard to achieve. Envy is a sad emotion and those who are jealous of your happiness will do/say anything to shake you up. It’s hard but try to ignore it, pity the pathetic troll that’s saying nasty things. Cause in the end he/she knows they are nothing compared to you and yours.nn
omggg Fighter is REALLY cute! he has your beautiful eyes 🙂
You’re right! I was just thinking today that I’m sure every aspect of my life is probably way better than theirs so why should I be bothered about anything they do?
Batshit crazyis rright.Can’t wait tillyJudehougoes home with you!
Sorry to hear people are harassing you, but if it’s over, you didn’t need to set the Internet on them. If you accepted their apology, shouldn’t you have talked about them anonymously instead? Seems a little mean. 🙁
Btw, I am a Filipina too, and I just feel terrible that it was a filipina who said those things. I guess every race has their own culprit.
Hey Audrey, ignore thewe trolls and i really think tt Fighter is really cute and he is doing great. I follow u and Tim’s on instagram and i am sp looking forward to seeing Fighter’s photo daily. I also become a mum recently i was crying dueing my confinment whenever i see Fighter’s photo and now tt he is off the tubes, i am soooooo happy. Do nit be bothered by the trolls and i guess they are just lonely people jealous of all the encouragement and likes u are getting..stay happy as Happy Mummy = Happy Baby!!!
I don’t think so. I didnt reveal their real names but why should I have to bother censoring their nicknames? They made the choice to publish those comments in public using their pseudonyms for all to see. I think I already did them the courtesy of not revealing their real names. nnAnd to update you all, after their apology they came back with lies denying that they ever harassed me (?). Then they accused me of making the whole story up. So nope I’m glad I didn’t censor their nick names.
So sorry to hear about your preeclampsia too! Glad everything turned out fine for you.
Congrats! Hahaha were you having post natal blues that’s why you cried!?
Im verrrrrry sorry you have to go through this. Im a Filipino and Im ashamed of those two. I hope your baby will continue to recover well, wish you and your family well.nn
Gosh, being a mama i know your feeling. ixirandbabypink (donno is a girl or boy) if u oso being a mother or father before, now or in the future. You will know you shouldnt said/ comments things like that. It’s hurt seeing your comments (not matter what intention you have). Gambahdeh mama Fourfeetnine. Don bother those comments cos they no need to responsible what they write. As a mama here i support u, your love & care(breastfeed+hug+loving word) is important to the BB. Im sure your BB after few months sure a handsome boy(can see from his sharp features now) i leave comments here hope to encourage u 😀 kayao kayao kayao!!!
Hmmm that’s what u get fir being narcissistic What other reason wud there b for posting crap info of such an ordinary life packaged up as something newsworthy? If you want to use ur time post something edifying about poverty, discrimination or just about anything g that doesn’t seek to boast about ur very mundane lives.
No matter what you’ve done, no matter what has happened before, no one deserves this petty and inane “bullying”. It’s ridiculous and just reflects how immature and childish the other party is. I’m not an avid reader but I just hope you’ll stay strong and ignore all these ignorant fools.nnYou are strong and Fighter will survive! God bless your family & Fighter.nnHe will grow up strong and slap those ignorant fools.
Your baby is really adorable and I have nothing bad to say about fighter :)nI hope this bullying incident doesn’t ever happen again and stay strong, both you and fighter! xx
Meh he is so cute! I dun really care about the trollololos they asked for a world wide bashing? Plus troll Tim, everyone is entitled to their own thoughts. If u wanna read about poverty then u come to the wrong place. Even though both Aud and Tim donate to their community. Since when did blogging become not for profit organisation?
First of all, congratulations!!! Whatever they did is really stupid! Please don’t let whatever they said affect you. I might not know u personally, but I feel you. Little Fighter will be just fine, he looks absolutely lovely and he is going to make it. U stay strong! I curse them for you, go to hell you two bitches! Coz I know u don’t like to ill-wish people. What comes around, goes around.
all the best to fighter ! he is so cute and growing healthier day by day 🙂 <3 loves
OMG..that’s horrible. I am sorry you had to experience such awfulness. I hope you know that, despite nasty comments from people with no life, you are are an awesome person who has managed to give birth to a baby boy who will grow up to be just as awesome – if not more awesome. 🙂 Stay strong Aud. You’re amazing.
those 2 are really nuts!!!nni will, sincerely PRAY for THEIR SOUL.
Omg what they did was so horrible. nnBut thank you for being a role model and being strong 🙂 xx <3
You thought my life was newsworthy? Nah it’s not really but thanks for admiring us 🙂
If u understand English u will know that I said u think ur lives r newsworthy. And as for “admire” there is nothing further from the truth. Just get on with ur life and look after the baby. Stop thinking that the world deserves to know about what u think and what happens in ur little world. We don’t. And don’t give me that “no one asked u to come read my blog stuff”. U blog we tell u it’s narcissistic. And then u do get people like ur two “fans”. Not everyone likes what u bleat about. It’s not about u. It’s about all bloggers like u. WTF!
Hope you will stay strong like your son,stay strong and be happy cause you have a cute baby boy