I’m pretty sure I’ve blogged about this before… but this is a topic that never goes out of style! wtf.

Just think of it as, every now and then I need to write about things/types of people that annoy me so I can let off some steam.

Also so I can be a lecturing old auntie and indirectly tell people what not to do so they know now to piss other people off lolol.  Sometimes you might not know what you’re doing!  So I’m doing you a favor actually.

So these are the types of people/things who have been annoying me recently.  All of them aren’t people I know in real life so that’s the silver lining.  They’re all people I encounter online.

(Actually I’m so loser that the only new people I encounter are online WTF)

1.  Rude-sounding questions or statements

The other day, I posted this photo on Instagram.

I have no hair, I know!  I’ve known it my whole life because my mom has very little hair too, and Ooib, bless his soul, is on the verge of balding.  But I’m not balding la because my hair has always been like this.  I’m not losing additional hair, I just never had a lot to begin with.

Someone left this comment: “Hair loss?”

I think I’ve explained in my blog (and other social platforms) about nine thousand times that my hair is just naturally little but I’m not balding but ok fine maybe she doesn’t know.

But that’s definitely not a good way to leave a comment.  Maybe she was genuinely inquiring (since apparently people lose hair after having a baby), and I think she was because she apologized after that.

But it was the way she phrased it.  “Hair loss?” is just pointing out that “hey you’re losing your hair” without offering any advice or sentiment even.

It’s equivalent to seeing someone (you don’t know well) with crooked teeth and saying “Bad teeth huh?” or telling another person “Diet time?”.  You wouldn’t say this in real life to people you meet, would you?

Another person said “you look tired”.  Which is true la because I AM tired.  Try taking care of a two month old and see how energetic you look?

But it goes back to the same principle.  Would you tell a large person you’ve just met they’re fat?  Or tell someone else that their hair color sucks, please go dye another color.  (This happens to Qiu all the time really FHL).

NO YOU WOULDN’T.  Not if you’re a decent functioning member of society anyway.  If you’re a close friend of mine, it would be okay because yes, there are different standards for friends and people I don’t know personally.

Why would you do that anyway? There’s no value in your comment to anyone besides you.  You just want to give your negative opinion and you end up being rude about it.

But there you go, this happens ALL THE TIME online.  It’s like when you turn on your computer, your manners straightaway fly out of the window, whether you had bad intentions or not.

However, it’s okay if you say “hair loss? Don’t worry it will pass, it’s just a phase post-pregnancy”. Or “you look tired.  Hope you get more rest!” Because although some people might still find it offensive, to me it signals the person isn’t trying to be rude and just wants to be helpful.  The advice or experience-sharing after a comment that may be perceived as rude softens your words tremendously.  It’s really in the way you phrase it.

THINK BEFORE YOU TYPE OKAY.

2. Self entitled people.  Sometimes can be lazy people too.

I kena this only once recently.  But now and then I encounter these people and it makes me crazy angry! I recently wrote a blog post reviewing a facial treatment I did at DRx.  Then I posted on my Instagram that I had blogged, and linked my own blog.

Soon I received a Facebook message asking me…. where I went for the facial.  The weirdest thing was she asked where I went for my DRx facial.

You already know at DRx why you ask some more??

So I took a calming breath and thought oh ok, maybe she saw my Instagram post and not my blog post, where I had written out the DRx website, address and even phone number wtf.

Already sounds a bit lazy and self entitled.  Why didn’t she just follow my blog link and find out herself?  But never mind I was patient.

(Also please note that when I didn’t answer her immediately, a day later she messaged me to prod me for an answer.  So kan cheong why don’t you search yourself??? Is it easier to ask me and wait for my answer?)

Anyway, I answered her that the information was on my blog.

Then she replied with “thanks I saw it already.  Then can I know how much it was?”

T_________T

I’ve already written a detailed review for you to read plus provided you with ALL the pertinent contact information why can’t you do some work of your own and find out yourself?

Honestly I think if she just messaged me and asked me the price I would probably be okay.  But I thought that she was already being inconsiderate and would rather pass the burden of finding out info to me (when already I have written out everything in the first place), and then chase me for the answer.  Like is she very busy until cannot find out herself? I’m also busy what why she do this to me!!

Also because she called me “dear” which is another sub-pet peeve of mine lolol.  I really don’t like it if someone I don’t know or am not close to calls me “babe” or “dear” or whatever term of endearment.  “Hey pretty” is also pretty bad but I try to overlook it cos I think they direct translate from Chinese hahaha cultural difference can overlook.

Sigh anyway.  If you want to ask anyone for information (especially someone you don’t know), please just do a bit of homework before you impose on people can? Google is very easy to use.  Make it your best friend.

3. This person below.

Yea the one who said everyone must praise me or else I’ll be angry WTF. Siao.

I suspected it was cos I told off some people under the #1 pet peeve category above about being rude and she just assumed I hate everyone who comments something else besides that I look cute wtf.

Auntie, please see this okay.  This girl is also discussing my lack of hair and I’m not angry.  Already said it’s a matter of manners and how you say it.

Didn’t bother censoring her username because she posted this in public herself, plus even if I did, you could easily find her if you went to my Instagram.  But please don’t go and flame her because although she is annoying, she’s only being bitchy to me and not to anyone else.

And it’s not hurtful either so… she doesn’t really deserve to get flamed.

I just thought she damn irritating if she’s so bitter about me why still follow me?