I’m pretty sure I’ve blogged about this before… but this is a topic that never goes out of style! wtf.
Just think of it as, every now and then I need to write about things/types of people that annoy me so I can let off some steam.
Also so I can be a lecturing old auntie and indirectly tell people what not to do so they know now to piss other people off lolol. Sometimes you might not know what you’re doing! So I’m doing you a favor actually.
So these are the types of people/things who have been annoying me recently. All of them aren’t people I know in real life so that’s the silver lining. They’re all people I encounter online.
(Actually I’m so loser that the only new people I encounter are online WTF)
1. Rude-sounding questions or statements
The other day, I posted this photo on Instagram.
I have no hair, I know! I’ve known it my whole life because my mom has very little hair too, and Ooib, bless his soul, is on the verge of balding. But I’m not balding la because my hair has always been like this. I’m not losing additional hair, I just never had a lot to begin with.
Someone left this comment: “Hair loss?”
I think I’ve explained in my blog (and other social platforms) about nine thousand times that my hair is just naturally little but I’m not balding but ok fine maybe she doesn’t know.
But that’s definitely not a good way to leave a comment. Maybe she was genuinely inquiring (since apparently people lose hair after having a baby), and I think she was because she apologized after that.
But it was the way she phrased it. “Hair loss?” is just pointing out that “hey you’re losing your hair” without offering any advice or sentiment even.
It’s equivalent to seeing someone (you don’t know well) with crooked teeth and saying “Bad teeth huh?” or telling another person “Diet time?”. You wouldn’t say this in real life to people you meet, would you?
Another person said “you look tired”. Which is true la because I AM tired. Try taking care of a two month old and see how energetic you look?
But it goes back to the same principle. Would you tell a large person you’ve just met they’re fat? Or tell someone else that their hair color sucks, please go dye another color. (This happens to Qiu all the time really FHL).
NO YOU WOULDN’T. Not if you’re a decent functioning member of society anyway. If you’re a close friend of mine, it would be okay because yes, there are different standards for friends and people I don’t know personally.
Why would you do that anyway? There’s no value in your comment to anyone besides you. You just want to give your negative opinion and you end up being rude about it.
But there you go, this happens ALL THE TIME online. It’s like when you turn on your computer, your manners straightaway fly out of the window, whether you had bad intentions or not.
However, it’s okay if you say “hair loss? Don’t worry it will pass, it’s just a phase post-pregnancy”. Or “you look tired. Hope you get more rest!” Because although some people might still find it offensive, to me it signals the person isn’t trying to be rude and just wants to be helpful. The advice or experience-sharing after a comment that may be perceived as rude softens your words tremendously. It’s really in the way you phrase it.
THINK BEFORE YOU TYPE OKAY.
2. Self entitled people. Sometimes can be lazy people too.
I kena this only once recently. But now and then I encounter these people and it makes me crazy angry! I recently wrote a blog post reviewing a facial treatment I did at DRx. Then I posted on my Instagram that I had blogged, and linked my own blog.
Soon I received a Facebook message asking me…. where I went for the facial. The weirdest thing was she asked where I went for my DRx facial.
You already know at DRx why you ask some more??
So I took a calming breath and thought oh ok, maybe she saw my Instagram post and not my blog post, where I had written out the DRx website, address and even phone number wtf.
Already sounds a bit lazy and self entitled. Why didn’t she just follow my blog link and find out herself? But never mind I was patient.
(Also please note that when I didn’t answer her immediately, a day later she messaged me to prod me for an answer. So kan cheong why don’t you search yourself??? Is it easier to ask me and wait for my answer?)
Anyway, I answered her that the information was on my blog.
Then she replied with “thanks I saw it already. Then can I know how much it was?”
T_________T
I’ve already written a detailed review for you to read plus provided you with ALL the pertinent contact information why can’t you do some work of your own and find out yourself?
Honestly I think if she just messaged me and asked me the price I would probably be okay. But I thought that she was already being inconsiderate and would rather pass the burden of finding out info to me (when already I have written out everything in the first place), and then chase me for the answer. Like is she very busy until cannot find out herself? I’m also busy what why she do this to me!!
Also because she called me “dear” which is another sub-pet peeve of mine lolol. I really don’t like it if someone I don’t know or am not close to calls me “babe” or “dear” or whatever term of endearment. “Hey pretty” is also pretty bad but I try to overlook it cos I think they direct translate from Chinese hahaha cultural difference can overlook.
Sigh anyway. If you want to ask anyone for information (especially someone you don’t know), please just do a bit of homework before you impose on people can? Google is very easy to use. Make it your best friend.
3. This person below.
Yea the one who said everyone must praise me or else I’ll be angry WTF. Siao.
I suspected it was cos I told off some people under the #1 pet peeve category above about being rude and she just assumed I hate everyone who comments something else besides that I look cute wtf.
Auntie, please see this okay. This girl is also discussing my lack of hair and I’m not angry. Already said it’s a matter of manners and how you say it.
Didn’t bother censoring her username because she posted this in public herself, plus even if I did, you could easily find her if you went to my Instagram. But please don’t go and flame her because although she is annoying, she’s only being bitchy to me and not to anyone else.
And it’s not hurtful either so… she doesn’t really deserve to get flamed.
I just thought she damn irritating if she’s so bitter about me why still follow me?
Comments (55)
T___T Audrey, i hope my comments on your blog and dayre never make you uncomfortable…nHowever, i think you already put your effort to wrote out blog and provided us the information, for those lazy people, just waiting spoon feed really geli one….nn
I think you’re overrating in some of these.
I cant agree more. I also think youre overrating in some of these. But anyway, I know each person have their own perceptions. Just my opinion. Thanks.
*true story* but that is the thing about online. the meaning of words can go a different direction in comparison to the meaning those writers try to portray.nnBut in a way, it does pisses people off when ever they open up blogs/insta and etc n found these kinda comments…nnMaybe you could take fighter and together, both of you can go out for a stroll. ^^ It helps to lift up your mood ^^ I sometimes feel stress too when I’m confined in d house for too long..nnhttp://tenshichn.blogspot.com/2013/11/024-black-friday-weekend-deals.html
Nooo I don’t think you’ve ever been annoying!
It’s not about what YOU think. My whole title is “pet peeves”. You know what that means? A pet peeve is a minor annoyance that an individual identifies as particularly annoying to them, to a greater degree than to others. nn
Haha your whole statement is contradictory. First you say you can’t agree more then I’m overreacting. nnLike the person before you, you have to understand the definition of pet peeve.
It’s so obvious you want someone to say good things to you.
I agree with you Aud, its a well written post and basically you want someone to respect you when they are writing or commenting on your posts, even if its negative sometimes. I find it funny when you sometimes get people that don’t agree with you, yet they seem to keep reading your posts, why? By the way, your baby is gorgeous :))!!
I didn’t leave a name on my comment, so posting again.
Yea I guess you’re right. They all boil down to having no respect or consideration for others, whether intentionally or not. They’re all minor annoyances but I think it gets to me cos it happens over and over again.
I deleted my previous snap comment to you because I remember you wishing me luck during my preeclampsia.nnNot sure why you’re being kind of a bitch here but I’ll answer you in all seriousness. Who doesn’t want others to say good things?? Don’t tell me you want other people to insult you wtf. You’re totally missing the point of this article. It’s that people should have more courtesy and consideration towards others (in this instance, me). But you jumped to some conclusion that “I only want to be praised”. Good grief.
OMG. *nods head like crazy* nThe self entitled people is sooo true and I feel you.. Ticks me off everytime too when they ask me questions that they can actually find out for themselves with a little more effort from reading & research . *cryyy*
here’s a link for you if you ever get stupid questions that could be easily answered by spending a couple of minutes asking mr. interwebs: http://lmgtfy.com/nnit's very subtle and passive aggresive (exactly my cup of tea but maybe not everyone else’s….) and hopefully the person asking the question gets the bloody hint!!!!!!
As the years go by, the level of stupidity goes up. Sigh. I’m honestly so disappointed in my fellow Generation Z-ers. It seems like no one has a basic sense of EQ anymore. Criticism and insults are so different – yet people think its the same. It’s all about phrasing, really. Sigh. Go pram-ing with Fighter! Helps you to relax
Agreed. Those people who comment/criticise inappropriately in public deserved some fame!! I also lost count of people telling me that i look tired/fat/eye bags look like i haven’t slept for days. It’s like what’s their intention? The best response i could give is “k thanks” -__- Don’t they understand that if you have nothing good to say, then don’t say anything at all? ppfftt
omg, at the end i really thought you were calling the last girl bitchy/annoying D: then i was like what did i miss!?!? after a whole minute then *lightbulb* GOD so slow lolol
The one talking about hair loss? Noooo I said I wasn’t angry with her hahahahah
Hahahah yeah, STRONGLY AGREE WITH ALL THE 3S !
xFluffyBunnies IS being kind of a bitch! Fourfeetnine is saying don’t be rude with inconsiderate comments, which is not the same thing as asking people to say good things about her only. OMG
Being a public figure often leads to negative comment here and there. All because we can never please everyone. Why not ignore these people? It is your life and you are happy with it.
What if someone say bad hugs to you in good manner?
What if someone say bad things to you but In good manner?
Over reacting.self defend.
Nothing wrong with that. I already talked about this what, the last screenshot I posted was someone talking about my baldness in a non-insulting way and I replied and laughed about it.
It’s not about pleasing people… It’s not even about negative things people say. You guys don’t get the point. It’s about RUDE people.
Hehehe
Your English too bad I no understand. Also your brain too bad you also no understand me. No understand, no comment please.
Haha.good things to you but in rude manner?make you happy but irks you at the same time.contradict? Jus don’t bother these kind of ppl.they are too free.
Well I think the reason no.1 and no.3 happens is because when people are behind the computer, they are relaxed and able to be more of themselves. That is why you see online dating/friendship work despite their preconceived bad image. I dont think there is anything wrong with it, but I agree it can be annoying. For no.2, cant really figure out why though, this one should be more of a rare case, I guess? But I still think that when one is behind the computer, people can act as themselves rather than just being polite. I dont know whether it is a good or bad thing. haha. in conclusion, i dont know. LOL
I thought u was talkinf about me being bitchy too
Noooo I think you give great advice!
Hahahahah. For number 2 I think people like bloggers all experience it more than others. Probably cos we disseminate information and ppl ask us for more
#1 – Do these people know how they sound? nImpoliteness is a major pet peeve of minenIMHO, it shows a blatant disregard of anyone but themselvesnAnother pet peeve? I hate it when they (usually the serial offenders) then go: “You’re being too sensitive” or “Malaysia like that wan lah, you angry waste energy only”nAnger level 66879895451!!!!n#2 – It’s called Google. Use it. And never ask another pointless question again LOLn#3 – I thought tah1012 was a friend and was teasing you -_________________-
HAHA OMG I HATE SELF ENTITLED PEOPLE TOO! my ex classmate from way back then suddenly messaged me and asked me to tell her things that happen to be related to the course i’m studying and singapore. . the thing is the info is EASILY AVAILABLE online if she had entered the proper keywords and i’m just a freshman whereas she’s doing her final year project. and she kept on bugging me :< until i give her two articles off the internet. sigh. seriously. what makes her think I am any less occupied than her
hello orr see!!! long time no see!!! seeing your post makes me want to sing “go go power audrey!” hahahaha err the power rangers song in case no one else gets it cos you know, only me will watch this kind of show and enjoy it wtf
wow thank you so much Aud, in the sense of opening my eyes! I totally agree with you that many of them did not use their brain when they type :/ thought you are somebody like they know , a mau a kau, without considering the blogger’s feeling. :/ and that people who left the comment regarding DRX is soo… dumbo ._. WOW! Got people like this huh .__. Treat other people like their ah sei .__. rude max. btw, YOUR PICTURE WITH FIGHTER SOOO CUTEEEE! Getting cuter and chubbier uh that lil boy! :3 May your family blessed with health. Esp le lil fighter :3
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I get angry at the lazy people too and this also applies to my friends! I have a friend who would always ask technology questions, and while I try to help them out sometimes I can’t so I tell them to “google” or “youtube”. Her answer? No I can’t be bothered! Its annoying when you try to help and they really just want you to tell them exactly what to do without any effort on their part!!!!!
I always learn things from you! You are so right – people can be such jerks online because their manners go out the window, that’s exactly what the problem is. It’s like they think the proper social code of behavior doesn’t apply online. Crazy!
Well said aud! I hate the lazy ppl too! So annoying!
I would also like to rant here….I have a friend like #2…and although she’s my friend, i also find it super ANNOYING! Not to mention strangers! Hate those ppl who don’t do homework and straight ask for information. And when you took the time to look up COMPLETE info for them, they already got the BASIC info and couldn’t care less what you said! And after that, she asked again for some other info which I’ve already mentioned previously (when she didn’t pay attention). WTH
I committed No.1 before. Reminds myself to type in full to avoid misunderstandings. 🙂
Yea I get mad but I try to remind myself that maybe it’s just the way they type and they don’t mean it. But if I keep encountering this it gets hard!
yea why are we obligated to do their work T___T
yea maybe because online you don’t see other people physically, so you feel they don’t matter and you can say whatever you want, however you want
wtf your friend!!!! is she still your friend wtf
SU TOH BELLY WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU DON’T YOU EVER DISAPPEAR ON ME AGAIN wtf
no 2!! I had a friend exactly like that. even though is not commenting on my photos, but when i saw her comment on others i feel like slap her! hehe. just dont be mean on others la, use brain to comment pls.
Haha what did she say ah I curious